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Not understanding my body as well as i thought
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    Hmm i don't think i understand my body very well, at least not as much as i thought. Had a session today after a break, before the session i was getting turned on and feeling some waves of pleasure which is usually a good start.

    Felt something good for second then no sensation whatsoever. It was as if i had gone back 6 months in my 'rewiring'. I thought once you were wired you couldn't 'undo' it? it feels like I've got to start over again from scratch? i.e. 4 days of solid sessions before i feel anything. Does anyone have this, the feeling of 'loosing' sensation or 'technique'?  

    I have days now of no feeling in my prostate after days on end always being aware of it in there in some lovely way. I can admit that this might just another 'blip', i wasn't as turned on as i have been in the past to be honest so i can understand that being a factor.

    I am going to give a rest again but when i start again i guess i need to set aside 3-4 days and start from the beginning again. I think i can take one thing away from this though and that is i NEED to be super turned on to feel anything at all, which is a good thing, it lets me know that i need to look for that not just the waves etc.

    Thoughts?
  • Noob71Noob71
    Posts: 22
    Don't lose hope inhope, it's probably just a bio rythm thing coupled with external stressors of some sort.  Not that  i'm any expert here (i'm about 75% rewired) but maybe your anticipation of the sessions after finally getting rewired is causing a negative feedback loop kinda thing.  Just a thought. Best of luck to ya
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    not experiencing negativity in anything, sessions included.

    Tired + not as horny perhaps could account for it, i misread that my prostate felt good as i was sitting but i wasn't 'ready' though i thought i WAS ready, which is confusing. I just need peoples thoughts (maybe not pspotsquirters though as he never has a dud session)

    Its just my last sessions have been great except for the last 3, in the ones before i could feel definite prostate contact when the device is inserted and now i all feel is numbness or very, very little feeling at all. What does that mean? i wasn't excepting my prostate to be so 'dulled' i thought i had awakened it?
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,173
    @inhope, no worries, it happens.  Its hard to say whats causing it, but the important thing is the feelings will return.  I had 5 sessions in a row that were just ok, then today was amazing, no idea why.  
  • isvaraisvara
    Posts: 918
    @inhope, the Prostate is not a pleasure button to be pressed when you want pleasure. I think it is safe guarding you from becoming a lab-rat that repeatedly press a pleasure button until it dies of malnutrition.
    Approach your prostate with respect and allow it to call the tune. You can't unwire but you can, I think, force a false rewire that is not truly bedded down.
    You also have got three threads going with parallel posts from you so it is hard to know which one to respond too.
    You have done well. Now let yourself catch up with yourself.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    Cheers friends
  • Theme_GasmTheme_Gasm
    Posts: 776
    @isvara --- You stated "the Prostate is not a pleasure button to be pressed when you want pleasure. I think it is safe guarding you from becoming a lab-rat that repeatedly press a pleasure button until it dies of malnutrition".

    I like that statement because I have sensed that it is very easy to fall into a mindset where "I had a great session the last # times, so I "expect" to always have great sessions", which is not realistic! And we know that when that word "expect" creeps into our mind it can spoil things.

    I recently re-read the wiki pages which raised my arousal levels significantly, and it felt like it put me back "on course". It's words are powerful reminders of the type of thinking we need to have during our journey!

    TG
  • Alex_xxxAlex_xxx
    Posts: 573
    Sounds lika a dry spell.. If my prostate gets to much it just shuts down. Multiple sessions after eachother, being tired, not enough sleep.. the reasons are many when I hit a short or long dry-spell.

    Longest dry-spell I had was 3-4 weeks where I felt absolutely nothing when I put the aneros in.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    Ok a dry spell, how did you know the dry spell was over? What did you look for to know it was receptive to stimulation again?
  • PommiePommie
    Posts: 1,008
    @inhope,
    You seem to be missing the point!

    You don't "look for" anything!

    It just happens and when it does, it will be obvious.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    No you're not reading it right. What I was asking was what signs do I lok for to know I'm ready for a session? I was aroused and having p waves before my last session and I got nothing when I put an aneros in there.

    So how do you know you are 'ready' for a session?
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    Let me give you a perfect example of what i mean:

    I just had another session today, after a small break and i waited until my body and mind was ready. I was getting lovely p waves, arousal and a feeling of readiness.

    I get into session, feeling nice things, but minimal and then nothing, its like my prostate suddenly turns off totally, like its not there, like all my progress has been reversed. 

    Then after a short while i realise I'm not aroused at all, i haven't had a super E or even an erection at all, which for me is odd, when there is prostate contact there is always an erection for me and its always super, super hard. Just nothing. I had lots of prostate dancing, in voluntaries and movement in there but no pleasure from it at all.

    I did feel one thing though; a total feeling of sadness? a feeling of being bereft of emotion afterward, its like I'm mourning my wonderful sessions that seem so far away now. I don't feel good at all, nothing has changed and I've not had anything bad happen to account for my total lack of sensation or pleasure. Im kinda glad i have this forum for support, through the good and the bad of this whole journey (which for me has been so crazy)

    My body doesn't feel the same as when i was making super progress, every day back then i would wake up with this energy burning inside me and it felt like i could have sessions at a whim and feel amazing things. I wake up lately and its like there is nothing in there at all, i put aneros' in there and do my techniques but they don't feel the same as before, its like I've 'changed' somehow, perhaps physically in some way, but i haven't.

    Can anyone relate.... or understand?
  • ineverknewineverknew
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    @inhope, what you are going through is completely normal.  Many of us have the same thing happen.  No worries the feelings will come back.  Many times for me when they did come back things felt different but yet better, no idea why though.  
  • PommiePommie
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    @inhope,
    as many others have already suggested, (and I seem to recall having done so myself), why not take a serious break from this. Give yourself a couple of weeks at least, perhaps even a month.

    I know you have replied that doing so would send you back to 'square one' but I seriously doubt that would be the case. In fact, I would go so far as to say that, if you are really serious about moving forward, you need to take this step backwards.

    All you seem to be achieving so far is a buildup of frustration upon frustration.

    If you did take a break as suggested, I would be very interested to see what happened when you returned!

    GOOD LUCK!
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    I am serious about so I will take a break, however if I return and it's gone still I, how do you think this will make me feel toward you? That's right I'm going to,externislie my frustration your way, not that I want that.

    I am joking, at least a little anyways. I'm not frustrated so much as unsure of my place, frustration preciously came from having no frame of reference or success at all, that has passed now and I'm in my new phase.

    My sadness, I think comes from not being 'aware' of my prostate every day even when not having sessions. Is THAT normal once you're rewired?

    Thanks guys, at least I feel if this is Normal then I can have hope for the,future, seems that it's not all like pspotsquirters sessions!
  • LinumLinum
    Posts: 227
    I don't know that we ever fully understand our bodies.  Dud sessions are a fact of life - their counterpoint is that unexpected amazing, blows-your-socks-off session.  They will both happen.

    "Life is full of surprises - it advertises nothing", from Depeche Mode's, "Nothing" (a song that pretty accurately describes my own multi-orgasmic journey).

    http://youtu.be/7SKVsKuPf8c
  • inhopeinhope
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    Linum, if you could put in percentage terms of your own sessions those that are successful and those that are dud, I'm sure you would find it favour of the successful ones, am i right? for me it would be something like this (and this is only the recent sessions) 70% dud (where i feel absolutely ZERO sensation at all) 10% dud where i feel 'something' but is about as pleasurable as when your bladder fills with urine and presses on your prostate and 10% where i feel lots of lovely things.

    I have consecutive dud sessions that are in the double digits now, i don't think thats normal IMO.

    I do feel I've been led to believe, by the aneros company and some users here, that each session should have some measurable success and that once you're wired, you're wired. I do think that you can become unwired, even though I'm repeatedly told its not possible.

    Discovering the aneros for me has been a real double edged sword, both wonderful and devastating. In some ways i wish i had never heard of it. Having tasted of the pleasure it can produce it means i can never, ever let it go or give up on it, no matter how bad things get. It is wonderful and it is terrible. My last session, despite being in the right frame of mind, after removing the device i actually felt like crying (yes like a little bitch!) just awful. But the thought of giving up is much, much worse.

    What i mean by 'not understand my body...' is that i was getting the same indications that i was ready for a session, just like before (you know, the weeks that i had constant sessions to build my awareness and rewiring?) and yet i get in session and its like its the first time I've put it in there, i feel nothing at all and i find that I'm not ready at all. Thats what i mean.

    I will return to my sessions again, when i feel up to it (even though i do actually feel up to it, even now, but obviously i don't seem able to read when I'm ready for a session as the rules seemingly keep changing) this is the thing as well, even though i felt nothing in my last session I'm left super horny and gagging for orgasm! instead of it making me feel sexual i instead feel very sad, it just feels like I've taken several huge steps backwards, ever since i had that amazing wet dream the other week, sessions have been seriously poor.
  • Alex_xxxAlex_xxx
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    inhope said:

    Ok a dry spell, how did you know the dry spell was over? What did you look for to know it was receptive to stimulation again?



    Well there u go, its a sign of the dry spell NOT being over. When it feels good again it will be over.

    I took a few weeks off then it took me a week after that to get into the "zone" again.

    I think the best thing you can to is to NOT let the aneros control your life. Aneros is a bonus, and the orgasms from the aneros are better when they come by themselves. And that my friend, is nothing you can control. When your body is ready to give you one it will.. And most likely when your not trying or wanting it.
  • inhopeinhope
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    Cheers Alex. You said a week to get in the zone again, could this be another way of saying rewiring yourself? Does this happen every time for you? Dry spell then no acclimatisation then dry spell agaiN?
  • Alex_xxxAlex_xxx
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    Well.. No, rewiring (to me) is learning the new feelings for the first time. Tuning in and learning to identify the feeling. The one week is more like warming up the engine again for full effect.
  • Alex_xxxAlex_xxx
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    Well, it happened the time I took many weeks off.. Otherwise its more like just one warm up day if any at all. Comes down to the mood.
  • Alex_xxxAlex_xxx
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    Its been a few weeks since my last super O now. Just half good sessions with some good feelings. I think its wrong to believe that everyone superOs every time after the first time they get it.
  • inhopeinhope
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    Tell that, Alex, to the sycophantic people that post here as if it's a regular guaranteed occurrence in every session. Thanks for your thoughts.
  • Alex_xxxAlex_xxx
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    Well.. Maybe I've mastered it in 10years time.. :) but right now I can tell you that I'm faaaar from achieving it every session. And I'm talking an orgasm like the female Gspot orgasm + anal orgasm and dry orgasm at the same time. That was my best super O. Been a while now.. Had a few small ones, but that one was my top. Most here don't even know what Im talking about. The ones that I thought were super Os that I forced with the progasm in the start wasnt really orgasms now that I look back at it. It was only the regular great sessions that leave you wanting more.

    People here have said that there is no cliff that you fall off when you SuperO. Well mine sure is. I crossed the point of no return and then I orgasmed. Muscular waves in my stomach, anally and dry traditional repetitive orgasms. All at once... And that time that was my best, didn't come by will. I wasnt even expecting it. Then again, everyone needs to find out what THEIR super O is. I just know what my biggest one was. Even though I want it again, and it would be great to have it every time..... I am content with the feelings the aneros and my body gives me the day I use it. Now matter how small the pleasure.
  • Alex_xxxAlex_xxx
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    In other words. There might be alot of people here that have regular feelings, and label them superOs. One person though might get alot more. But the interpretation is individual, and so - the experiences you read will never be "correct". As there is no real measure for the ones that cant define their bodys reaction. Sperm on the other hand is definate, orgasm = outcome. Everyone knows what and how it happened.
  • didymusdidymus
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  • inhopeinhope
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    It's addiction yes, staying away is worse for me though, believe me. I will try it though, again. Cheers
  • TreiTrei
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    didymus said:

    @inhope Earlier today you said you were going to take a break. I would encourage that as it appears that you have built up expectations that are probably unrealistic, in part based on what you have read in the forum. It is important to understand that many men exaggerate their sexual exploits for a variety of reasons and I have no doubt that this occurs on the forum when people talk (brag) about what is happening for them. There are of course a lot of good men who report it how it is (Rumel is a great example of this) but the difficulty is sorting it out.



    So @inhopes thread about his first good session in a while was exaggerating? Just because some people are able to not have dud sessions or obtain orgasms on a regular basis does not give you or others the right to demonise them, classify them as fake, and make them out to be an adversary because I guarantee one of these days you'll be sitting in the same seat that we are and you'll be telling it up all over the forums.

    This "trend" of demonising and shooting down the successful needs to really stop and quite frankly it is rude to blindly accuse so many credible people of lying just because we don't fit into your cookie cutter version of reality. (especially since where on the same team!) Please forgive me if I’m wrong but this trend is annoying to me.
  • isvaraisvara
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    @Trei, I agree, I just hope that we can get the quality and tolerance of our several journeys back into the forum. Aneros has largely left us to administer the forum. We don't have moderators breathing down our necks, we don't get various posts deleted. There is another thread which has become so bad that I really find it hard to believe some of us are writing the stuff. The word 'perves' springs to mind. Perhaps we should use a bit of self discipline and get the standard back on track.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,255
    It's hard to know who is being honest in these forums, or any for that matter. It's what led to my frustrations, anger and lack of progress for years, listening to lots of pov's and half truths and outright lies at times.

    Following the aneros guide and a few of the older members got me on the right path, and the rest of you help me to pick myself up (except one guy which makes me think he is a plant by the aneros company)
  • CanacanCanacan
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    @inhope Now start growing up for christsake... Nobody cares for your frustration and anger.
    Many people here did their best to help you. And what did you do yourself for others?
    We all had enough of your constant furry and disrespect.
  • inhopeinhope
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    Cheers for that cancan, disrespect where sorry? It is my experience of being here, as said there are decent types here, I thought you were one of them. People have helped, do help and are continuing to help me here, my last post was positive?
  • didymusdidymus
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  • TreiTrei
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    @didymus You obviously don't know the english vocabulary well and have a sensitive ego, an exaggeration is a form of lie. You're defending empty air.

    @Cannacan Imo I didn't see anything wrong with @inhopes post, unless you meant his posts in the past.


  • didymusdidymus
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  • TreiTrei
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    You know what didymus?
  • didymusdidymus
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  • TreiTrei
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    L O L Perhaps we should spar again someday  ;))
  • LinumLinum
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    @inhope - I do get dud sessions, but mostly I have learnt to avoid situations that bring them on - e.g. digestive troubles, stress, whilst suffering from blue-ball syndrome.

    You are right that I don't therefore get as many dud sessions as you.

    My advice, for what it is worth, is to focus on the good sessions, and put the duds down as a learning experience - don't dwell on them if you can.  If focussing on the good sensations enhances those, then focussing on the bad could also end up enhancing them - which would be counter-productive.
  • CanacanCanacan
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    When I have a dud session or sense one will be before I even start, I just give up. No use forcing things.
    Also when a session is half dud I also give up and have a nap instead.
  • feelnmywayfeelnmyway
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    @Canacan  Agreed.  In my own limited experience I have found that if I struggle to keep my focus, I stand a very good chance of having a dud session.  There is no bigger killer than random thoughts that rattle around in your head caused by worries or  some area of concern in my life.

    That is a big cause for a dud session but sometimes your body just do not want to, and then it is also a fruitless effort to try and "force" it.

    If I find that happening, I find it is best just to let it go and get a good night's sleep.  Tomorrow is a new day or the day after that or the day after that..........my prostate is not going anywhere.
  • CanacanCanacan
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    My body and me are the same person... If the body doesn't want it, how could the mind convince itself it does? I try to re-balance my perception of the two.