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On the edge, can't get over it
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,173
    Ok so long story short, I'm on the edge.

    I can feel an orgasm build, rock hard dick and hot/heat in the prostate, but once the erection hits it's max point the sensations disappear. Sometimes I get close and then it vanishes again. Frustrating! Using sgx, water lube (no other aneros or lube type works) and lying on side works best, back too but on side seems best thus far. Usually get a tiny drop of precum as well. Also I notice when I now insert the sgx I get a moment where it feel WHOA like it's pushing past something...?

    I also discovered that I get so turned on and my prostate is awake but can't get any pleasure out of it anymore that I end up masturbating traditionally, because I'm that ready to go but can't 'go' it's a vicious cycle! How do I break this?

    Last thing, is it possible to unwire yourself if you don't use the aneros for a while?
  • Perhaps you should enjoy being on the edge. Enjoyment of the edge,
    may catapult you over the edge.
  • mdadmdad
    Posts: 139
    First, NEVER masturbate to finish a session. It will lead to your body waiting for it every time. You don't want your mind to look for masturbation to start, and hold back what other pleasures may remain.

    Secondly, Pspotsquirter has some excellent advice. Think about all those times you orgasmed so fast that it was over before it began. Now think about "the edge" that you speak. It's a place with a ton of pleasure that guys usually barrel past on their way to a quick orgasm. I started having my best results when I learned to enjoy the edge. To enjoy just sitting at it. To feel it and experience the pleasure, and not expect it to go any further. I've spent more time at the edge in the last few months than I had my entire life up until now.
  • BunkBunk
    Posts: 165
    All good advice here. In addition I would suggest put the aneros away for a while and practice kegel exercises until you can control the anal and PC muscles independently. This may bring on involuntaries which you should ride for as long as you can. Then reintroduce the aneros. Also forget about your dick, in fact forget you have one.

    "Last thing, is it possible to unwire yourself if you don't use the aneros for a while?"

    I asked this question a while back and got a resounding no from the forum.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,173
    Ahh then it appears I'm not at edge at all, the pleasure isn't sustainable for more than a few seconds so it's hard to enjoy it as it were.
  • isvaraisvara
    Posts: 873
    @inhope
    "I also discovered that I get so turned on and my prostate is awake but can't get any pleasure out of it anymore that I end up masturbating traditionally, because I'm that ready to go but can't 'go' it's a vicious cycle! How do I break this?"
    It sounds like you are in a possible edging situation. As said above try not to end up masturbating in that session. I can't do this as I have ED. It is very difficult for some to not release. It maybe that expectation is taking over. I wish I could start again and hold back for some other time. Relaxing but letting the pressure build.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,173
    Think of it though, you stimulate the prostate to a good place/level and then it stops responding but your still VERY turned on and horny because of it, what am I supposed to do to not then masturbate? Take a cold shower? Once again I don't see ANYONE else giving advice on what to do in this situation in the past or present!
  • G-ForceG-Force
    Posts: 67
    Once you ae rewired, I think it is possible to separate the two. inhope, I know what you are talking about. What works for me is to never masturbate when a session is going well. I don't want to anyway.....I am always trying to see how long I can "be on the edge" and don't ever want to disrupt that feeling. What better place is there to be? I have been at it for many years, and just make sure masturbation is only after I know a session is over. Lately, some of my best sessions have even been shortly after sex with my wife. This proves to me further that the feelings CAN be separated, and does not indicate that I should not masturbate. This is only what works for me.....I have taken everyone's advice here over the years and compiled it into my own creation. Relax and you will figure everything out.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,173
    @G-Force that's cool but when aSession is over for me is when I get no more response from my prostate (usually tied to my erection level strangely, when I'm hard I'm getting lots of prostate action, when im not I get zero) but I'm still super horny when I take the aneros out and an erection comes back, but no prostate response. And I'm suuuuuper horny, what do I do to calm down?
  • @inhope

    Perhaps, you have too much of an attachment to your penis. Perhaps, you have no discipline that allows you to control your penis. Perhaps, this is why you are not progressing on your journey
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,173
    Possibly, it is rather massive and impressive ;-)

    Penis or not, prostate pleasure turns me on, with no release I get horny as any male would without release.... Hence why I'm on the 'edge' and the creation of this thread.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,163
    @inhope, i think there was a similar thread about the edge a while ago.  I think everyone is different but for myself and some others we believe there is no "edge".  I also agree with @Pspotsquirter, even if your penis is "massive and impressive"  =D>, to gain success from your prostate I think your going to have to control of your urges.  Its been recommended to not intertwine your penis with prostate play as it will be too confusing and delay the "rewiring."
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,173
    There is an edge, it builds just like a normal orgasm but then stops, it's definaltey there...
  • @inhope
    Everyone's prostate is the same size (with the exception of illness), therefore your penis size is a non factor.
    Perhaps, it is lying on your chest and stomach, like a beached whale. Why cannot this leviathan push you over the edge? Until you can divorce yourself from your monster cock, we will be forced to suffer your lamentations. Leave your penis alone, read some rumel, and RELAX. Then again, maybe you don't want to go over the edge, because you are afraid of what lies beyond it. 8-|
  • BigGlansDCBigGlansDC
    Posts: 849
    I have been on the edge with Aneros for many months since last summer at least.

    There is something about edging with Aneros that is somewhat similar to edging whenever I masturbate. It is that intense sexual sweetness that is such sweet torture. For me, edging is the honey that I cannot get enough of.

    I have learned in my Aneros sessions since Spring 2013 to savor every moment each Aneros tool in my collection has for me. I am not overly concerned about experiencing a Super-O or MMO's. They will come to me naturally when I least expect them.

    Like most men entering their years past age 65, my mostly flaccid penis is like that "beached whale" @Pspotsquirter speaks about. My penis when I Aneros is subservient to my prostate. Yet often when I am lost in a session my glans penis emits a clear viscous stream of precum!

    Likewise, I have gotten to the point that I can edge in A-less sessions as well. ;)

    Thom./BigGlansDC

  • PommiePommie
    Posts: 1,008
    Seems to me that there is a bit of confusion over the use of the term "edge" here. One is a noun and the other is a verb!

    The noun seems to be the word that @inhope is using to describe the approach to a "super-O". As I can only recall ever having experienced two or three 'super-Os", I don't remember there ever being an "edge" to fall over. My memory of super-Os was that I more-or-less slid into them as if sliding down a ski slope.

    The "edge" with which I am most familiar is the verb! I currently spend ten to fifteen minutes every day when I can, in the pursuit of "edging" and am having a ball with it! I have found that this exercise seems to be curing my ED, toning my PC muscles and providing my libido with a terrific boost. I would recommend it to everyone.

    "So", you might ask, "why continue with Aneros activity"?
    The answer is quite simple. The two activities are totally different but compliment each other beautifully. I love them both and wouldn't be without either. I should add incidentally, that sex with my wife is also very nice but I don't get enough of that!
  • BigGlansDCBigGlansDC
    Posts: 849
    To all who have experienced Super-O's and MMO's and continue to experience them in abundance, I say: MORE POWER TO YOU!!!!
  • isvaraisvara
    Posts: 873
    @Pommie, re edging. When you edge, did you need to use a Viagra type medication to get the erection. I am largely dependent. After edging for 15 minutes do you release or just cool it down and leave yourself 'wanting'?
  • PommiePommie
    Posts: 1,008
    @isvara,
    I have tended to rely in Cialis, (which I much prefer to Viagra; it doesn't give me the unpleasant side effects of facial flushing and itchy palms that Viagra did), and still do on occasions in order to ensure a reliable erection for intercourse.

    The interesting outcome from edging has been that I have found I don't need any medication in order to receive an erection. I'm hoping that continued edging practice will eventually result in weening me off Cialis altogether. (The damned stuff is too expensive)!

    Currently I'm finding that, having first lubed my penis well, I can achieve an erection within a couple of minutes and can hold it for at least a quarter of an hour. To me the success of an edging session is measured by the fact that I have come within a hair's breadth of the PONR several times without going over the edge and that leaves me looking forward to the next session!
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 1,173
    So i had a session where it was building feeling and such then i decided to cut it short, remove the device and see what happened. What i noticed was this: I'm now getting lots of heat in there, lots of nice feelings and still a build up of 'something'

    Actually i would say its better than when an aneros is in there? i often after a session (typically after i accidentally ejaculate and the NEXT day) i get these sorts of feelings, as soon as i chuck an aneros in there, it is still nice but NOWHERE near as nice at all and after 90 mins or so, the session ends.

    Same thing where having super-t's are concerned, when i orgasm with an aneros in there, it makes the orgasm less good, it 'stifles' them. This is with the SGX by the way.

    Again i think, perhaps being of smaller stature, that the smaller the device, the better. Looks like i need to get the peridise and use that as my main prostate stimulator, everything is just too big it seems! maybe this will help push me over the edge.

    As for other milestones, I've begun to get a teeny, tiny bit of precum in every session now, even if i don't get feelings as such, so its progress and I'm happy-ish.

    SMALLER STATURE MEN: what are your experiences? what devices worked for you?