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Am I 2 young 2 try
  • Hi guys
    I'm wondering if I am to young to try prostate massage. I am a high school senior and I am 18 years old. I have been into sex toys for a few years so I've done my research on this product and others like it.
    I guess I should give a little history, I've been reading this forum for a while and it seems the more you guys know the more the more you are able to help. Like I said earlier Im a senior in high school but my social life is pretty non existent. I don't have many friends and school has been like a legal form of hell for me. Constant taunting, teasing and bullying and being over all misunderstood has had me wanting to disappear from life completely. Luckily I was able to finish early and now I don't have to be there, just waiting to walk for graduation and then go to college. Never been good with relationships with people outside of the net. Im not saying this for sympathy just so that you guys know a little about me. I am at home basically everyday alone sometimes days at a time and there are only so many times you can masturbate before it gets old. So I started looking into more interesting things to do and I found out about prostate massage. I looked at the aneros toys but they were to pricey for me so I went on eBay and bought a 10 dollar knock off. I've been using it for a while now and it does give me the occasional chill its nothing like I've read you all experience. I have read repeatedly that it is a long process so should I continue or should I do my best to save up my money for a while and purchase an aneros toy? I don't want to buy it if Im to young to experience the mind blowing pleasures you all talk about. Is there an age limit to getting there or is the limp experience Im having due to the knock off toy? I'm open to any thing you all want to say.

    Hey mate - sorry to hear that life is difficult. It can be tough when you don't have many friends and deal with negative people all the time. Life gets better, trust me. And you're not alone. 

    The aneros can be great devices for learning the subtlety of your own body, but don't let it merely be a form of escape from the negativity of everyday life. I'd say that could easily turn into an unhealthy habit of escapism. When life gets you down and you turn to the thing that you use to cope, whether it be alcohol, drugs or even sexual activity - it can lead to addictive behaviour. And you certainly don't want to deal with that. 

    But if you are interested in pursuing it, there's lots of good information available. 
    Wishing you all the best in life, 
  • @musicmaker86
    Thank you for both your kind words and the word of caution. That point has been brought to me a few times and I have become aware that the aneros can't be put in the place of real interactions between people. I am going to keep that in mind during my usage and I thank you for the advice.
  • As you can see you are certainly not alone. I too started back in 2007 when I was 18. However, at that time I didn't "get it" and eventually I just put my MGX in a drawer. A couple of years later it seemed I was ready since everything started to fall into place. I bought a Progasm and got even more pleasure. So if you get stuck, just give it a rest and try again later. It'll be worth it, I now regularly have experiences that can't really be described in words.

    All the best, fellow traveler...
  • JspadJspad
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    Hi Wonderboy95, it seems we share a few similarities. I started practicing almost a year ago, and started college courses online about the same time at the age of 18 going on 19. High school wasn't as troubling for me as for you, it would seem, but I was glad to be done with it. After that I was a lazy bump on a log for almost about a year, and felt really unmotivated. After applying for college, though, I've made many changes in my life for the better.

    For the first few months practicing with Aneros, I seemed to not make progress and I was kind of impatient. I keep chugging along though, and I've made very slow but steady progress. So far I can feel pleasure for a second or two sometimes in various areas. Nothing mind blowing, but patience seems to eventually pay off.

    Anyway, good luck to you, and I hope your life is turning around for the better as well! :)
  • That's really great advice @Pareidolia How many months or years did you go before you started using it again? What mad the process different, was it just your age?
  • Thank you for the comments I appreciate hearing from those who are close to my age @Jspad How much time did it it take for you to develop the slight pleasures that you mentioned?
  • Who knows, maybe I was cleaning my desk... I never really dismissed the idea despite my lack of success with the MGX. At some point I was horny and a Progasm seemed to be a nice 'adventure.' It just turned out that the Progasm hit my spot a lot better, and I could journey on from there.
  • ineverknewineverknew
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    @wonderboy95, so how has it been going?  Have you been having any sessions with your prostate massager?  Any luck so far?  Keep us updated, i'm sure i'm not the only one interested.
  • I'm twenty and I can empathize some of the problems you described. I'm also one of this humans, who is not fitting in groups as easy as the most other people do. It's a kind of Introversion I think (if you're interested, there are books about that). Important to get along with this, is to accept things you cannot change and not getting isolated. There are problems in life we have just to deal with, somehow. Sad but true.

    To the topic: You're not too young. But Don't think of Prostate Massage as a way out of your problems. Notice: You need to have a free mind for success with this toy. The situation you described is giving the impression, that you have problems in life to care about. I think without doing this you won't have much success..

  • JspadJspad
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    For me I think I was 3-4 months in before feeling what I thought was pleasure from my anus, and a month or so later it developed to the point where I knew it was pleasurable. For the following months it was off and on, weeks of occasionally feeling it and weeks where I didn't. I think I am making further development since last night. Last night I was lying awake trying to go to sleep for several hours, but through some visualization of sorts I was able to produce erotic feelings from my anus and chest at will. I've been able to reproduce it today, but I haven't messed with it too much. The first stepping stone for me was impatience and expectation. I thought "maybe it'll work the first time," but it wasn't for several months before I started feeling pleasure from my anus. But now that I'm no longer obsessing over it, time doesn't seem to move so slowly, and I'm pleasantly surprised by any new developments. Another thing that I think was holding me back was usage of porn. I was a heavy porn user, and tried to quit. I ended up going to "light" porn usage, which was heavy porn usage but instead of every day, once a month. I ended up going once in two weeks, then one week, and recently I got back onto actually quitting. After not using porn at all for long enough, I stop needing it. I am able to feel more things in terms of arousal. I can get more from picturing something in my mind than from pounding my brain with a bunch of pictures. I get to where I can focus on the feelings, instead of figuring out which picture I want to finish to. To me porn is no longer worth it, and I'm pretty sure I am becoming more in tune with my body by quitting.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,209
    @jspad, good to hear, I'm sure quitting porn is not easy, maybe even akin to quitting smoking.  Hopefully quitting will benefit your aneros use in a big way.
  • Wow @Pareidolia the Progasm seems like a big jump from the MGX. Was it a easy transition from one to the other?

    @ineverknew I have continued having sessions and its always either pretty good or pretty bad. I will continue to keep trying. Are there any positions that you suggest?

    @toolbox I think introvert is a pretty accurate description of me. I tend to keep a lot of things in and I have a hard time expressing myself to people in person. There are somethings I'm going to have to accept and keep it moving, but that's a lot easier said than done. Also freeing my mind of anything is pretty hard so I guess that will take some practice.

    That's very interesting to know. @jspad It took about 2 months with the knock off to start feeling anything pleasurable and it has been hit and miss most of the time since. I to am trying to continue this journey porn free. How do you keep yourself turned on with out it?
  • ineverknewineverknew
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    @wonderboy95, the most popular positions seem to be laying on your back with your legs spread slightly.  The other is laying on your side with either one leg bent and the other straight or fetal position.  If you laying on your back make sure the tail of the device is not hitting anything to stop any movement that might happen, if you feel it is hitting simply put a pillow under your bum.  As for arousal, porn is fine before a session to get warmed up so to say but not a good idea during a session in my opinion.  There will always be good/bad sessions along this journey, just try and think of the bad ones as an opportunity as me time/meditation which is very good for the soul.  ;)
  • JspadJspad
    Posts: 172
    How do I get turned on without porn? After a good while away from indulging in porn (which seems to me to be easier to quit cold turkey by the way; or at least it seems to be the best mindset) I find that using my imagination works wonders. When you're on porn, imagining sexual situations can seem ineffective, or even futile. After staying off long enough to balance out a bit, the brain is more easily turned on. Not masturbating for a few days or more can also make you more apt to become aroused, but I've found that in the early parts of quitting porn even that might not work sometimes. Just give it time, and you'll probably find that your imagination is a really powerful tool  :)  Lately thoughts of a tongue licking my anus give me feelings down there and up in my chest  :D For me the two areas seem to share a connection when it comes to feeling erotic energies.
  • The Progasm is fine, it just needs a bit of a pre-flight checklist:
    - relaxed position
    - lube
    - scooping motion where you slowly insert the head first as if it were the whole toy, and then rotate and insert completely
    - repeat: no rushing!