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  • I want to first start out by saying this forum has been so very helpful in my journey or attempt at one. I have been reading for a long time way to shy to ever comment or join into any discussions. You all have been a strong source of knowledge and are the only reason I have continued to try this long. Well I guess I should start at the beginning. I got my aneros when I was 19 years old right before I left for college I have always been extremely horny and found a video of someone using it and was instantly intrigued. Luckily for me I had no roommate so I was able to spend lots of time practicing but as time went on I got tired of spending hours on the aneros and never reaching anything. I know that it's all about patience so I didn't give up, and I've tried every technique I could read here. I would get some nights where I could feel the sensations growing inside me but just as quickly as they came they left I tried different lubes and multiple positions but nothing has paid of. I graduated college last year and due to the economy ended up back home with my parents. I have a pretty active sex life with my girlfriend but I so badly want to experience the you all talk about. Since I am back at home I thought it would be easier to use my aneros but just like before I get burst of pleasure that subsides after a few minutes. I decided to devote the last 6 months to serious aneros use and yesterday was my breaking point after all this time still nothing! I said all that to say is there anyone who has any suggestions for some who is not new but has had little to no success. Just so you guys know I have the MGX. I have thought of getting another model but I can't afford to spend money on something that won't work not with student loans breathing down my neck lol. Just want some help before I just throw this thing away!!!!
  • beegee6
    Posts: 26
    Why not just take a break for a month or two?  It sounds like you are trying very, very hard to make something happen and some folks might suggest that is the wrong approach.  You are putting a LOT of pressure on yourself and on an event that can't be rushed or forced.

    Relax and enjoy other aspects of your life.  You are only young once.  Take some time off and find some fun distractions.  Some yoga or meditation might help for when you decide to return.  Come back when you are ready and don't be afraid to be more active in the forums and chat.  We all want each other to succeed and this is a great community.    

    beegee6
  • Thanks for the suggestion beegee6
    I really appreciate it perhaps I gave the wrong impression. I most certainly have learned that patience is key to everything with aneros. I have tried my best not to put pressure on myself but it has 5 years of this for me lol. I have taken breaks before and they haven't worked either but I am willing to try anything so I may just try that once more. Once again thanks for your comment.
  • Theme_Gasm
    Posts: 311
    @domscraigslist...If you don't mind, may I ask what sensations you have gotten over the years? How often did you have a session, and how long were your sessions? Did you exercise your kegel muscles on a regular basis? Was abstinence from ejaculation ever tried in that time?

    If you've answered these questions numerous times already, I apologize! However, I can say that as much as I wish otherwise, I don't think I was ready for this experience when I was in my early 20's, mostly due to being sceptical of the claims that I was reading. Even now that I'm older, I WAS very hesitant to believe the sales pitch on the website, and couldn't help but tell myself..."There's a sucker born every minute"...However, I still pursued the journey, which paid off BIG TIME, in my case, and I can't imagine my life without being able to have these orgasms...it's been an awesome experience! That said, if you are willing to answer my questions, I'm willing to help!
  • darwindarwin
    Posts: 1,195
    @domscraiglist, first, don't throw it out.   at worst stash and forget.   

    second, it took me a very long time too.  here are some things that might get you over the hump:

      - eroticising your hole.   have you tried masturbating just it (with your finger), no penis?  might take a few weeks to wake it up.   

      - fantasy.  what are you doing in this department?   it might help to explore a very passive one where you are lying still and a woman (or man, whatever) is very caringly massaging you, starting with your head and toes, and eventually seductively tickling your hole, etc, to get it excited for her finger to go in.  have you really let go to allow yourself passive penetrative pleasure?

      - weed for many is a huge accelerant.

      - i wonder if feeling dying down is from you contracting or tensing when you feel the good feeling.  can you try just seeing if you can get it back the slightest bit a second time, after it dies down?   the thing about aneros pleasure is it has two components, the pleasure of being touched and tickled inside, which is subtle, and the pleasure of the muscles down their responding by contracting on their own, as they do during orgasm.

      - go into the chat, and let people there guide you through a session

      - how about your girlfriend, does she know?   she might be able to help by giving you an erotic massage while the aneros is in... except no penis touching.

      - have you had sex with it in?

    darwin

  • AneRico
    Posts: 214
    @domscraigslist

    I humbly and sincerely would like suggest you thoroughly clean and dry your Aneros, put it away, and turn your back on the entire idea (including no visits here) for 6 months to a year.

    Forget about it completely.

    Then come back to it fresh.  Maybe just come in here after the break and get in chat.  you need to get live input, but not now...you're too frustrated.  So walk.   Just walk.

    Again, I say this sincerely and humbly.
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,257
    domscraiglist,

    'beegee6's suggestion you may be trying too hard is valid, your Yes, but ... response :

    I have tried my best not to put pressure on myself but it has 5 years of this for me lol.

    (and this post) belies the fact you are frustrated on some level. Perhaps 'Theme_Gasm' is correct about your not being fully ready for this experience, if that is the case then 'AneRico's advice is an option. If that is not the case, then I suggest you read the thread Identifying Obstacles to Progress and see if you discover an aspect of your practice which may be blocking you. If that reading doesn't clarify anything for you then try 'darwin's excellent advice.

    I have always been extremely horny and found a video of someone using it and was instantly intrigued.

    I suspect you may still be harboring some expectations about the Aneros experience which has lingered since you saw that first video. Your Aneros journey is not going to match some video, it is going to be unique for you, your experience may be extremely different from what you saw in a video, so just set that imagery aside and learn how to "Just Let Go !"  In any event, I suggest you don't trash your MGX, just set it aside until your life affords you the opportunity to explore yourself in a less constrained atmosphere.
    image Good Vibes to You ! image
  • isvara
    Posts: 580
    @domscraigslist: Quoting " I have a pretty active sex life with my girlfriend but I so badly want to experience the you all talk about." (I have not worked out how to quote)
    This is very good, not quite sure what "pretty active" means but it sounds good. This should I think be your focus. I am sure there is a lot you both can explore. I don't mean extreme stuff but simply things that will enhance the experience of what you are already doing. I don't want to give examples because I don't know how far you go together, and any cultural restrictions. But I will say think past ejaculation and see if you can separate orgasm from it. Become aware of your BC muscles, sometimes tightening it for sex sometimes relaxing it and letting the body bring you to EJ without your interference. If this it " too far" then deepen what you are doing. The MGX is relatively big. It may be helpful to use something smaller to simply act as a temporary gate keeper, like the larger Peridise which you may try in what you are doing. With what I know now I would have liked to have deepened my body knowledge and sex experience within what I was doing when I was sexually very active. I feel all this will prepare you for more intense Aneros work a bit later, but not now, as may posts above have suggested.
    If this post in inappropriate or not helpful just disregard.
  • First of all let me just say WOW! The responses I've received from you all has been mind blowing. Like I stated before I've been reading this forum for a long time and some of you are like celebrities to me so I definitely appreciate every single suggestion. I will do my very best to respond and take into deep consideration every single post before choosing my ultimate goal.

    @Theme_Gasm
    What sensations you have gotten over the years?
    I have had several different sensations some nights when I put it in I feel a slow pulsating almost rhythmic to my heart a slight tribal pounding inside that starts to grow outwardly but never spreads past my backside and when it really gets good it slows down and eventually stops. Other times I lay for long periods of time until I am on the edge of sleeping and bam out of no where I get a strong pulsation that last for a few brief minutes but then stops never to return. I have also experienced a suction experience where I lay completely still but my whole seems to keep pulling in the aneros deeper. All of these experience feel great but none ever last longer than a few minutes and most don't occur again in the session.
    How often did you have a session, and how long were your sessions? When I first got it I had sessions every day but I realized fatigue may have been setting in. As the years have gone on I have definitely had a love hate relationship with it going 3 months without it and starting again stopping again. The longest I've gone without it has been about 4 and a half months. For the last 6 months I've tried to use it consistently twice a week some times more if I had a slightly good session. Most of my sessions are about 2 to 3 hours and I can usually tell in the first hour if it's going to be good or not.
    Did you exercise your kegel muscles on a regular basis?
    Yes I did start kegel exercises sometime ago I actually enjoy them at times more.
    Was abstinence from ejaculation ever tried in that time?
    I don't know if I have ever purposely attempted to sustain from ejaculation but I most certainly gone time between them. How long would you suggest is a good enough time?

    And I'm not at all skeptical of the potential of the aneros what I am is unsure if it works for EVERY guy that's all. Thanks so much
  • @darwin

    No I have never tried "eroticising my hole". I have literally never even thought of that until your comment so I guess I haven't tried "everything". I will certainly attempt to try and create a connection between hole stimulation and prostate stimulation. Even if it doesn't change my current plateau it should at least increase my alone time exploration.
    When it comes to outside stimulation when I first started I watched porn while I used it but I had no success with that. I'm not really good with fantasies my mind tends to wonder to much I start thinking about an incredible woman touching me and end up thinking about how many more bags of chips I need for my party next week. The only outside aid that has helped me get a few tingles is when I started using binomial beats. Something I read in the forum a while back made me look into them and I really like the feelings they give but again after a while my mind wonders.
    Weed is always good but living at home makes that suggestion almost impossible. I can't get high at home and I certainly can't use my aneros while smoking with my boys.
    I do instantly tense up when I start to get the feelings of something going on. So I started doing breathing exercises when I feel them to get better at that. But yes you are very right about me tensing up durning the exciting moments I am trying to be better.
    My girlfriend has never known anything about me and my aneros or any type of anal play. I'm most definitely not ready for that convo. Lol. Nor have I ever had sex with it in. I don't believe I'm open enough for any of that yet.
    Thank you so much
  • @AneRico

    Thanks for the suggestion. I have actually stopped using it for about 5 months. I will definitely think very seriously about that.

    @rumel

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I have read "Obstacles" before but I don't think I truly made a serious attempt with admitting to myself that I may be causing my own delay to "the promised land!" The more I respond to you all the more I am starting to see that Mind Noise is a real problem for me. I had noticed throughout my journey that the more that was going on the harder it was for me to concentrate on the enjoyment inside of me. I have basically been forced to turn everything in my room off and lay in complete darkness so that I am not distracted by the random going ons of the world. No tv no computer no iPhone iPad or iPod just silence. But after a while my mind certainly drifts to thoughts that have nothing to do with aneros. My question is how do I avoid these random thoughts and allow my mind to focus on the pleasure at hand and not random song lyrics.
    I also realize that there may be a small amount of "Fear" associated with my aneros experience. I was asked about adding my girlfriend into the situation and as much as I hate to say it the first thing I thought about was I don't want her to think I'm gay. Which is so unlike me I have a cousin who is gay and he is literally one of the best men I know. I guess in the African American community anything that's not accepted as 100% masculine is a problem for some. I know enjoy anal pleasure doesn't make you gay but I don't think I can yet let those around me know what I'm doing. Specifically in a society that glorifies thugs and gangsters and almost criminalizes anything like emotion.
    When it comes that first video I saw it was one hundred and fifty percent of why I bought it. Lol I would be lying if I said it wasn't but I have learned that each experience is different and that no two sessions are alike. If I did expect that response I have most certainly gotten over it by now.
    Thank you so much for your response.

  • @isvara

    When I say a pretty active sex life I think what I mean is we have sex very often. But it is just the basic stuff, without getting to graphic there is only average oral and vaginal sex anything else is both of the table and in her words "out of the question". Don't get me wrong it's good very good but there are not many opportunities to explore my aneros use.
    Also when it comes to the size I'm not sure if that's a problem or not often once it's is I barely feel it and my current financial situation won't allow me to chance spending money on something that may not work again. Thanks so much for your comments they are greatly appreciated.
  • Clenchy
    Posts: 80

    My question is how do I avoid these random thoughts and allow my mind to
    focus on the pleasure at hand and not random song lyrics.



    For me, having my thoughts drift away to non-sexual things is a total session-killer. But it happens. Sometimes I get so relaxed that I forget what I'm engaged in. I suddenly realise I've been day-dreaming about some stupid crap for the past 20 minutes and having no sensations from the aneros.
    Maybe we're using the wrong word, maybe "relax" doesn't accurately describe the state of mind needed.
    I'd describe it more as deeply focused, silent but with intent, observing closely and surrendering openly.
    But then I also blame boredom, if the aneros isn't able to keep my attention, then mind distraction is more likely.
    I counter-act it by giving myself a task - focus on and experiment with a certain contraction, breathe a certain way, keep a mental laser-beam focused on something.
    Fantasy-wise, I work with tiny slivers of imagery, imagining a certain curve or one particular feature, zoomed in, and just for a few seconds, then turn my focus back to the experience.
  • darwindarwin
    Posts: 1,195
    @domscraigslist,

    it does sound like you have a bunch of good stuff to work on here!

    i will add two things:

    1) you are going to really have to accept something:  this is anal sex!   your prostate is just one component.  i have written before about how unbelievably good yet naughty this feels when it gets going.  letting yourself have this means nothing at all about your sexual orientation.  go for it.

    2)  i smoke weed sometimes before my session, with my wife in the next room, uninformed.  I use a VaporGenie and an open window.   Two tokes it the best amount.  After my session i go straight to bed, so she doesn't have to deal with with any altered behavior.  

    darwin
  • isvara
    Posts: 580
    Off topic.
  • Tickle
    Posts: 22
    You mention that you tense up when things start to get going and then things stop, so maybe you aren't fully relaxing into the experience. The fact you live with your parents might be contributing to this and is maybe not allowing you to fully let go for fear of you doing something uncontrolled or the fear of the unknown experiences that might be around the next corner. To tense up would create a blockage of sorts and so disrupt any further development of the session and if it happens often then your mind and body will get used to this pattern and expect it each time. So maybe you have to deal with what's making you tense up and find ways to deviate from it or maybe just have a long break as has been suggested above to break up the habitual process that you're experiencing. Good luck whatever you decide.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    I agree with @darwin.  You need to just accept and like anal play regardless of sexual orientation, besides they are completely seperate.  Enjoying anal play should be fun.  You need to let your inhibitions go and get to a point where you yearn to play with your anus and your prostate will quiver with excitement.  I think if you can work on the mind noise too good things will happen!
  • AneRico
    Posts: 214
    The following is quoted from Donchich's New Guy thread.  Consider it carefully, domscraigslist:

    "Just an update on my progress. What a great resource this forum is, and fellow aneros users a big thank you to you for getting me to where I am today. If it was not for you guys I probably would never understand about prostate massage and the proper use of the great aneros. My aneros products would probably be in the bin and I would think this is all a load of fluff..for all you newbies please take note of any advise given by the experience users and have patience, keep reading this great wealth of information forum, it is the google of aneros...

    I am into about my 8 or 9th week now and today was a new and exciting experience for me. My problem was i could never relax and zone out from the day to day stresses. I finally found something that actually worked for me today and it gave me some great pleasure feelings for the very first time. I initially was doing sessions around 4-6 times per week which i was told was to frequent and now I do sessions every second or third day for around 60 - 90 mins per session. Up until today i have only experienced some very light tingles around the prostate area which i continue to zone in on and really concentrate on that tingle, this past week i have had what i believe to be very very light p waves pass through my body.

    Well That took a flying leap today for me. After about 20 mins into my session i was watching some soft porn, well a 30 min video of a woman giving another woman a massage. Whilst i was not concentrating on her genitle area i was very focused on the womans breathing, her relaxing and her facial expressions, i began to mimic her and basically become her. I know it may sound weird, but hey whatever works...i was becoming aroused and this is where i got caught by surprise, that little aneros beauty ( maximus ) started to do a ballroom dance inside of me. Those tingles just went crazy around my anus, up my perinium, through my testicles, and my penis was pumping as if it was a heart beating. My penis felt so rock hard that i thought i would poke my eyes out. Each time my body would tense i would let it go, and then let it go again, and go as limp as possible and this feeling would just come back twice as hard. My description would be it felt exactly like an orgasm but not an orgasm happening around my penis, it was just like a boiling pot simmering all round my body. Very very nice, it lasted about 30-40 seconds, died off and came around a second time a minute later the same. Not as pleasurable as a traditional penile orgasm but very very nice because it was just so different. I then had to stop because the wife was on the way with the kids, this is where it gets really weird...my penis felt so rock hard, i look down and this was far from the truth....i dont think i have ever seen my penis as small and as shrivelled up like a little caterpiller. It was the most amazing illusion i have seen or ever felt. Amazing and creapy at the same time....

    I am now begining to understand the advise given to me by the experience users that we need to relax, clear the the mind, concentrate and do not chase the feeling, and importantly we need to be slightly aroused. Now it all makes sense to me. Boy did it get me by surprise. I feel that i have now been given a key and all i need to do now is open that door and enter into a new kingdom of unknown pleasures and to filled with new energy and happiness. 

    Thank you to all whom have written on this great informative forum and for all the new comers please listen very carefully to all the experience users, take their advise very seriously and try to follow all the comments and use them to your advantage. I feel very fortunate to have arrived at the front door very early on, but it is because of all the great info that other users post. i have read and followed very carefully as to what they say and i believe because of this i have advanced on in this journey. 

    One very important thing i now understand that is constantly been said is to have no expectations and do not chase the feelings, they will come to you and today that finally happened to me. Today was the first time i went in with a clear mind, was not expecting anything other than wanting to feel those little tingles i always get and BOOM it comes screaming up behind you and takes you by surprise. It is hard to understand at first but when it happens it now all makes sense me. Patience is a virtue...

    Thank you to everyone who has written on this forum, my new friends that have PM me and coached me, and also on chat....it feels like a new family on here....Thanks guys...."
  • You guys are all amazing. If I knew that one night of being desperate enough to reach out would transpire into this I would have spoken up years ago. After reading your initial feed back I was at a cross roads do I listen to some who say let aneros take an extended vacation from my body, and allow time to heal mentally or do I heed the advice of others and do more self exploration. Either way I came to the first conclusion that the problem was not the aneros it was me. And the more I read and reread and researched your comments to me I started to see things different. Each one of you had a specific idea for me to over come the road blocks in my journey, a new way to translate the map I was reading. There were no short cuts and each path was as tedious as the other but they all led to the same destination. I had to ask myself if I was even ready or willing to continue this journey, specifically when the time frame can never be pinned down. I decided with an absolute yes I want to continue. As soon as I made that decision something deep inside me felt like it was turned on, like I knew regardless of how long it took or what happened I would get there. All day yesterday I was excited to get home and try out all of your suggestions. I was so excited that I started to feel a faint tingling inside like the aneros was already in. It scared me at first but I did like so many have stated and just relaxed and it would come and go throughout the day. When I finally got home I cleaned up and got ready. My heart was pounding with anticipation and then I realized that I was probably setting myself up to be disappointed because I was way to excited so instead I decide to go to bed early. This morning I woke up two hours earlier than usual with raging morning wood and that's when I decided to give it a go. When it went I knew not to expect anything grand so I just laid there and concentrated. After about a half hour those little tingles started to reoccur but they had little more "thump" to them and I started get butterfly wing like movements from my prostate. Then my penis which had gone limp over the elapsed time literally shot up like a spring it was one of the hardest biggest erections I have ever had. So like I always my body tensed up to the new sensations, but this time thanks to you guys I talked myself off of the ledge by focusing all of my energy on one thing the aneros tap tap tapping on my prostate. After a while I noticed a tickling on my toes and feet and then my fingers and hands. I felt a ball of energy growing inside me and as it expanded inside of me I felt my anal muscles contract very tightly and my penis started swinging back and for with an almost rhythmic pace to the throbbing inside my prostate. My penis felt like it was about to ejaculate and it bucked really hard for a few seconds and then slowly everything subsided. I didn't reach the mountain top but thanks to you guys (best gps system ever) I did go to a new place and it was very very nice. Not as good as an orgasm but some of those feelings were amazing. So glad I reached out to you before I tossed it. I'm not sure what to do next but I do know I am not giving up.

    @Clenchy
    Thanks the change of words from relax to focus is a huge help. Focus is something I can do and do very well. It allowed my mind to have something to dwell on and not go into next weeks grocery list again.

    @darwin
    I think allowing myself to be okay with the process of being the receiver and not my normal sexual aggressive giver has helped. Still have a slightly hard time saying this anal sex but hey baby steps.

    @Tickle
    Yes the tensing up was a huge problem. It didn't or doesn't have to do with living with my parents it's a big house and we don't hear or really even see each other. But it has more to do with my lack of control over what's happening to me. During regular sex I know when I am cumming I know how to stop it, I even know when I can't lol. But this is completely different. I don't know what's coming next. I can't keep my body from doing what it wants and I'm not use to that. Handing over control from myself to well.... myself is what tenses me up more than anything else. Still working on how to overcome that one. Thanks for pointing it out to me.

    @ineverknew
    I'm working on it. Hopefully I can get to the point where the pleasures of the body out weigh the bondage of the mind.

    @AneRico
    Thank you so much for taking the time to find that quote for me. I am realizing that relaxation is more then the way I feel but a state of mind that I have to work to go to. I will continue to see how deep into relaxation I can dive.
  • Engorged
    Posts: 34
    Take your time and try to enjoy the journey. Eventually when you have more practice you will find out that it will take less prep and exercises to get you primed.
    There will be times when its not so great and very good. Just wait for the 'WTFH wad that!?!'
    Keep your eyes open for sales. My first was the MGX and I wondered how the hell is this going to fit? My next purchase was a Progasm (on sale here for $40 shipped) and standing that next to the MGX really dropped my jaw. As many other users I use both depending on my mood and yes there are differences.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    Good to hear!!!!   Being excited to use the aneros can certainly help you sessions.  Dont be so afraid of speaking up if you need any help in the future, its what we are all here for.  
  • mdad
    Posts: 90
    That sounds like amazing progress. So much of this is mental, and we all face it. I'm so glad you found something new just when you needed it most. I hope you progress further soon!
  • Theme_Gasm
    Posts: 311
    That is excellent progress! Keep going! You can see the future, and it's orgasmic!
  • Vanakin41Vanakin41
    Posts: 16
    Thanks for sharing with the forum! I know it wasn't easy for you but congratulations on taking that leap of faith! I Started on my Aneros journey about 5 years ago. As with most things in life, it's had it's major peaks and some low valley's. I remember becoming very frustrated, to the point of giving up, many times during my first year or two of use. I got to a certain plateau in my journey and just stayed at that same level for what seemed like months. Each and every session was a repeat of the last... like watching a re-run episode over and over and over... I couldn't figure out what i was doing wrong? Finally I just put it down for a time and concentrated on other things. Every once in a while i'd get the call and slip away for session, but again, it seemed as though my journey had taken a wrong course and I could not for the life of me figure out what the hell was going on. It wasn't until we moved into a new home that my journey took a turn for the better almost 3 years after first receiving my helix in the mail. My new home had much less privacy than my previous home, but this turned out to be a blessing in disguise! My old home had locks on all the bedroom doors, my newer home does not. The only room that has a lock is the half bathroom down in the basement/workshop area. I have claimed this area and the bathroom as my own.. the man-cave if you will! I have daughters that are now entering their teenage years, so the need for privacy, when using the aneros, is now more important than ever. I have basically been forced to conduct my sessions in the downstairs half bathroom of all places! No pun intended... but what shitty luck right! On the contrary... This literally forced me into the position of trying a new position! Being that there is only a toilet and a sink in this tiny bathroom has left me with only one option... the sit-down on the toilet position! As strange and or gross as it may sound, this position works better than any other for me. I've tried everything suggested in this forum... every technique, every position imaginable, literally hundreds of hours and none even come close to the Super-Duper-O results that I have achieved in the sitting position! To make things a little more civilized, I maintain a spotless, super cleanly bathroom environment. I also, put a towel over the seat, push it down a little to create a pocket between the seat hole and the water... to prevent any slip-out accidents and this also provides tension and acts as a sort of barrier to keep it from slipping out altogether... you ever had it pop out of your ass at that crucial moment? well with this method, pop-out never occurs and the orgasms just keep on cumming ;) After years of use, I highly recommend the sit-down position and never do it any other way... even when my family is out of town. i highly recommend and suggest you give this a try.. I will almost bet you will achieve the results you are looking for. Do not just sit down on a flat surface, it freaking hurts man! The seat hole is necessary for this to work, and you need that towel pocket for more reasons than one! Btw, I read a older forum post from a guy named shadow... Thread title is "why isn't this common knowledge" in the Testimonials Category. He achieved the sit-down method by placing two folding chairs together and using a towel. Due to my circumstances, I have no other choice but to use the bathroom, lol! But it does work very well :) Anyway, here is Shadows Method if you'd rather give that a try: https://www.aneros.com/forum/discussion/12966/why-isn039t-this-common-knowledge#Item_18 Best of Luck to You!

  • Ok guys I don't know what's going on now I've been trying to sleep for a few hours but every half an hour or so my prostate keeps fluttering. It has been light but still strong enough to wake me up. I know part of this is giving yourself away to the pleasure but does the recoding process continue with and without your control as well. I have to be honest I'm a little nervous that I have done something to myself wrong. Don't get me wrong it feels good but it's just a little weird.

    @Engorged
    I will keep up with it bro lol. I was a little surprised at how quick the roller coaster took off this time but like you said the ride goes both up and down and I'm looking forward to all parts of the ride. I don't think I'm ready to get something new yet still trying to get a hang of the current aneros I have.
    @ineverknew
    I have certainly learned that it's better to ask you all then to hold it all inside. Don't be surprised if I am constantly filling you all in on every new experience I have.
    @mdad
    Thanks for your help in this exciting process.
    @Theme_Gasm
    If that's a glimpse of the future then I'm so excited for what's next.
    @Vanakin41
    What a great and creative idea. I too have tried a number of positions over the years. I have never even thought about sitting over the toilet. How clever to take what to most would seem as a hindrance and turn it into your launching pad. I really appreciate the level of detail you placed in your response. I want to ask you when you first transitioned from your plateau to your next level of aneros discovery, what were the first physical and or mental changes did you get. How quick did things go from 0 to 100 once they finally got started. Was it a slow steady climb up or more of a quick rocket shoot to the top of your pleasure threshold.
    Thanks again guys for all your help.
  • Vanakin41Vanakin41
    Posts: 16
    Well, there were a few things that I had to figure out before I really transitioned. I had to let go of all my expectations and just enjoy the ride for what it was. I had to learn how to be satisfied with where i was at, at that moment. I also had to allow myself to be ok with what i was doing and realize that there is no right or wrong way to experience it. I began to incorporate vocalizations into my sessions such as dirty talk and soft moaning, nipple stimulation (use vasoline on the nips) I mean why should women have all the fun? ya know! And I had to realize that it was ok for me to experience these things and that i didn't need to feel embarrassed about it... after all it's just me, my personal time, no one can see what i'm doing! I started out faking the moaning and forced myself to vocalize the dirty talk... but in doing so, something happend... my body began to respond and then it became real. These things really help in the process of letting go and giving in to your greatest sexual desires. Now i do these things without even thinking about it. The funny thing is, I'm manly man... a tough guy. i do manly things like ride motorcycles, hunt, fish, listen to metal \m/ but in a aneros session i am a total slut, lmao! And it's ok to pursue total sexual bliss and experience orgasms like a female! it's ok to be ok with it! just don't tell your friends ;) I mentioned this before, but i want to re-direct your attention to nipple stimulation. maybe you already do? if not, lube up the nips and give it a try.. do so when the aneros is in place. may not be for everyone, but for me it's like there's a invisible connection between my nipples, ass and cock. I find that nipple stimulation provokes anal contractions and increases pleasure waves not only in feeling but also in frequency. again, its not the same for everyone, but certainly worth a try. I've also discovered that smoking a little marijuana before a session acts as an aphrodisiac and can send your pleasure receptors into a blissful overload, throwing you into Super-O Heaven! I've only done so on rare occasion and again this is something that is not for everyone. i certainly would not want to encourage recreational use to anyone with issues. just ideas, that's all. In any event, once i figured out the things mentioned above and incorporated vocal/nip stimuli is when I transitioned from 0 to 70 within a week. The problem was is I stayed at 70 for a very long time. It wasn't until I made the switch to the sit-down position, that i graduated to about a 90. The other 10 i choose to leave open for the sake of the journey... and the journey is far from over :)
  • ineverknewineverknew
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    @vanakin41, i just read somewhere about the toilet method and tried it but was so worried it would fall into the toilet water LOL.  It obviously wasnt a good session from the worrying.  I have a fear of toilet water being a germaphobe.  Thanks for the towel idea, will give that a try!  Also why not just put locking door handles on in your home?  Might raise some flags? lol
  • mdad
    Posts: 90
    Ok guys I don't know what's going on now I've been trying to sleep for a few hours but every half an hour or so my prostate keeps fluttering...  I have to be honest I'm a little nervous that I have done something to myself wrong.

    It's all normal, especially in the beginning. Mine does this too, especially after a long session. And again, it's a GREAT sign of progress.


  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    i agree, completely normal.  Eventually they wont seem so distracting as you get used to the feelings.
  • Tickle
    Posts: 22
    How lucky you are, I wish my prostate was fluttering, ah heaven.............
  • Vanakin41Vanakin41
    Posts: 16
    @ineverknew yes exactly! i woulnd't want to raise suspicions, lol! besides, everyone knows to stay away from the basement/workshop area, as i always have a few projects going on down there! before the rule, tools and parts always came up missing. they can have the run of the entire house, just stay away from the man-cave! and no surprise visits, unless it's to bring me a beer, LOL! ;)

  • @Vanakin41
    You give the best, most descriptive and visual responses. It's almost like I'm there with you (no offense). I am normally not into nipple play but if it gets your gears grinding the way you say it will be worth the try.
    I think instead of 0 to 100 most of my process has had me sitting in the parking garage and occasionally in reverse. All jokes aside mine was definitely on its way to the trash until reaching out to the people here on this site. In the last five years of our off again on again relationship my aneros may have taken me from 0 to maybe 20 25 tops and recently I was back in the teens. So after my recent session which I would say revved up my engine to at least 40 I was taken by surprise by how quick the leap up was. And for the last two days I have had this almost constant hummmmmmmming coming from my prostate. It's had me questioning if I've done something wrong or even worse hurt myself. I can be honest enough to say I have slight control issues and it feels like my body is now controlling it self. Usually I can turn my self off and on but this humming, this perpetual buzzing that's going I have no control over all day at work today every time things were slow I would notice it. Am I still humming a few times while I was there I went to the bathroom hoping that it was just a sign that my bladder was full. Nope I was still humming, buzzing, vibrating. I feel like I may have opened a can of worms with this thing has everyone else experienced this?
    @mdad
    You said yours does it too, do you have any control over this? And how long has it been going on?
    @ineverknew
    Is this an experience that is going to be a new permanent feature in my life will it continue to be delightfully annoying lol?
  • Theme_Gasm
    Posts: 311
    It may evolve into a very pleasant feeling ache that reminds you that your prostate is very much awake and ready for stimulation! That's what I feel every day!!!
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    @Vanakin41,  I hear ya! lol  My mancave is my shop in the back of the garage.  It used to be just my area for playing PS3 cause the wife was getting sick of me playing inside.  Now though she comes out to my area to get away from the kids.  Well I can at least lock the door on her and the kids.  She has interrupted some sessions in the past and asked why the door was locked, my response was usually just you never mind, what happens in the mancave stays in the mancave!!  lol  I dont try to hide my aneros devices from her, i have some in the house and in the garage.  If she looked she could easily find them but we havent broached the subject.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    @domscraigslist, I'm not sure that its permanent, but yes i feel something from my prostate almost everyday.  Depends on what I'm doing or thinking.  If I'm working its usually not a bother, but the second I see a sexy lady it will start getting fired up.  The feelings may seem significant right now but as time goes on they will be less bothersome and mostly enjoyable.  So no worries, you didnt break anything, what you described is normal and will be less bothersome soon.
  • @Theme_Gasm
    Are you serious every day lol. How come I never heard this before? I knew that the prostate awakening process was filled with all types of new things but this is really surprising.
    @ineverknew
    Every time I see a sexy girl? Lol so what you guys are telling me is this thing is going to act like I did during my teenage years. The difference is erections just were hard to hide but these have pleasurable pulses that catch me off guard. That's going to be kind of hard to hide. I have been cautious to even have a session I'm a little worried things might be progressing to fast for me. Lol remember just a few days ago I was having almost nothing happen! Thanks for the help you all.
  • Vanakin41Vanakin41
    Posts: 16
    @domscraigslist the awakening of your prostate, this humming that you feel, is a sign that you are on the right track and on your way to experiencing the super-o's you've been trying for so many years to achieve. just go with it, no worries, just allow your body to experience these waves of pleasure... it's completely normal. moreover, a congratulations is in order here! Good job brother \m/ And to think, you were just about ready to throw it away! Your last ditch effort really paid off man :) Maybe this all had to happen.. I have a theory... In short, sometimes the only route to the top is from the bottom... no pun intended, lol!

  • Vanakin41Vanakin41
    Posts: 16
    @domscraigslist btw, I do remember feeling a bit of concern when i first awoke my prostate. You are not alone. this initial feelings seem unpredictable and beyond your control. but don't worry, your not going to have some kind of orgasmic meltdown! it's kind of like when a blind person all of a sudden able to see or someone who was born with no feeling in his hand is all of a sudden able to feel. your prostate is now awake and able to feel for the very first time. you are the driver, you own the road... you have the keys to start it up or turn it off. soon, you will get used to it and have full control over it. but in the meantime, have fun with the unpredictability :)
  • Theme_Gasm
    Posts: 311
    @domscraigslist - Yes, every day! It's not annoying at all ! In fact, it's a very comforting feeling that I cherish because it reminds me of how amazing my journey is, and continues to be!

    So, a little each day, at work or anywhere, when I need a mental break, I'll sit down, relax my mind a bit, and do some gentle contractions, and I'll get some of the absolutely most exquisite p-waves flowing from my head to my toes, and I'll do this for 5-15 minutes...waves flowing about every 10-15 seconds...and I just enjoy it, no pressure, and nobody can see anything outwardly from me! It's my own secret garden of orgasms!

    Then I'll tell myself how lucky I am to be alive and to be able to give myself these feelings, then I take a deep breath and get up and walk away with a smile on my face and in my heart! I feel so blessed with this ability!

    I actually dreamed, early in my journey, that I would be able to achieve this level of nearly on-demand pleasure, and this is one dream that came true!

    Lately, I have more fun without my Aneros than with it! That's another amazing thing to me! I could never have imagined it was even possible!
  • Vanakin41Vanakin41
    Posts: 16
    @ineverknew lol! i've had a couple sessions interrupted as well... my wife knocking at the door, "what are you doing in there?" ummm... honey, what do people usually do in the bathroom? i'm reading national geographic and taking a dump! now take your sweet ass on up out of here.. i'll come upstairs after i'm done! my wife knows all about my aneros... she actually welcomes it because of prostate health issues in my family line... my grandpa, my uncle both died from prostate cancer and recently my dad was diagnosed with it, but had treatments and surgery, he's now in remission and in good health. She actually encourages me to use it but has no idea how often i do so. She understand the aneros from a surface standpoint... and i did admit that i liked the way it feels... but has no idea of it's depth or how important it is to me. At one point, i had thought about incorporating it into our lovemaking... but there have been times recently, when in a fight/argument, she has let her insecurities and anger fly and has said to me, "well, why don't you just go fuck your toy, you don't need me!!" There is absolutely not truth to that statement, she knows it and has apologized. Even still, maybe out of my own insecurities, i've decided against bringing it in to our bedroom. As it stands at the moment, I feel it would only complicate matters. As i'm sure you know, women may say one thing and feel another.. I dunno, it's confusing... On one hand it might be a awesome experience! but on the other hand, who knows really what a woman is thinking.. I don't want to give her the impression that i am relenting any kind of control over it. give em an inch, they'll take it a mile, lol! As selfish as this may sound, the aneros is mine! A personal journey and i feel it is intended to be a personal journey. As married men, we give up a lot of freedom and a lot of ourselves as protectors, providers, etc.. we share pretty much everything! but when the lady goes fucking around in your personal space, placing doilies and flower vases in the man cave, it is then time to put up the no trespassing signs and escort her back to the kitchen... haha, that was a joke... but really, somethings are just personal and should remain that way!
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    @Vanakin41, yeah my wife was teasing me not too long ago about me getting to that age where the ole DOC needs to put his finger up my bum, my response was, hey I'm good in that dept. LOL  She just looked at me puzzled.  I'm turning 40 this year, so I really do need to start thinking about prostate health, but now im worried i might get a hard-on when the time does come for the finger!!! LOL  I've actually had sex with her a few times with my MGX in, didnt really do too much for me and she didnt even know, but we rarely have sex anymore anyways.  She's actually married to her job I think.  She's 5 yrs younger then me so I'm just waiting for her to hit her sexual prime, which can happen any day I hope  :!!.  She usually doesnt mess with my space too much though I have noticed a yankee candle and a plug in air freshner which I'm positive isnt mine LOL
  • Alright guys just found out due to the bad weather I have no work in the am. With all the humming I've been getting I almost feel like my body will be mad at me if I don't have a session with it tonight so here goes. I am not expecting anything special. Like I've heard it stated before I'm going in with a blank slate and an open mind.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    @domscraigslist, let us know how it went.
  • @ineverknew it didn't go well. The first 10 minutes were amazing I got my first involuntary twitches and I think I had a few light p waves but after that the rest of the session was just occasional light flutters. After 2 hours I called it a night. I am still glad that I'm making some progress. Even if it's little. Also today those constant prostate hums have stopped.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 860
    @domscraigslist, well its good to have realistic expectations.  They arent all gonna be great sessions.  I'm learning myself more and more each time that having a desire in a sexy way to have your prostate massaged will give better sessions then when your prostate is horny, if that makes sense.  My prostate will get fired up giving me all kinds of pleasure just yearning to be touched, those are the times my sessions feel good but never seem to amount to much, but if the thought of it being massaged starts making me horny and my prostate is sorta quiet those seem to be the best sessions.  So I guess what I'm saying is having a session just for the sake of just doing it or for other motives may not yield good results, it has to almost be a turn on just thinking about before the session.  at least thats my take lol.  
  • @ineverknew
    No that makes perfect sense. Prior to my session my prostate was begging to get touched. All day it hummed for me to pay it attention and I finally gave in last night. I thought since I was going to be snowed in at the house alone it was perfect. I did all the things that get me going a nice shower and walking around the house to dry off. Setting naked in my massage chair always gets me going. So then I read up on the site and got myself ready. But I honestly wasn't horny and your comment makes since I think that made the difference. Great observation.
  • Hey guys got a question does the number of time you ejaculate have an effect on your aneros sessions. I have had a few mediocre sessions and I'm wondering if it has anything to do with my normal sex with my girlfriend? If it does how often should I go without cumming/ejaculating?
  • Theme_Gasm
    Posts: 311
    If you're having sex with the gf everyday, then so be it! If not, then don't jerk off on the days you're not! Leave those days for the Aneros!
  • Vanakin41Vanakin41
    Posts: 16
    @domscraiglist I really don't think it matters that much... some of my greatest sessions were the day after having sex with my wife. however, i would wait at least 24 hrs just to insure your horny. for some ppl it doesn't matter at all.. for me, the hornier i am, the better the session.

    on another note, lately my sessions have been pretty lame... not sure why? my prostate is not responding as usual... i think it's something mental... i dunno? whatever it is, i need to hurry it up and figure it out! makes me a little nervous!
  • @Theme_Gasm ok thanks I can have sex with her and not ejaculate but it's good to know I can keep doing the regular things.

    @Vanakin41 Great to know that I can enjoy my aneros but also enjoy my girlfriend as well. I sympathis completely with sessions that are duds. If only there was a way to get your mind and body to do what you want them to do whenever you want this whole journey would be so much easier!
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,257

    Hey guys got a question does the number of time you ejaculate have an effect on your aneros sessions. I have had a few mediocre sessions and I'm wondering if it has anything to do with my normal sex with my girlfriend? If it does how often should I go without cumming/ejaculating?

    IMHO, it is your arousal level which has the greatest influence on your body's response in an Anerosession. Depending on your age, physical condition and libido level there is no particular formula one can point to, however, there is evidence that short periods of abstinence can elevate one's arousal level thus making successful Anerosessions more likely, see Aneros, Arousal & Abstinence & Are you "aroused"?

    If only there was a way to get your mind and body to do what you want them to do whenever you want this whole journey would be so much easier!

    I have a very different viewpoint on that concept. IMHO, it is our ego consciousness trying to control everything that gets in our way to the Super-O zone. it would be much easier to get to the pleasure our bodies are fully capable of providing if we would just let the body do its thing while our overly analytical egos sit on the sidelines observing. Your body is not a puppet that responds to every whim of the ego and your subconscious has far more control and influence than you are currently aware of when it comes to the body.
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