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Wow....what just happened...would love some feedback from some experts
  • Wow what a day...let me start by saying I am 44 years of age, very happily married for 17 years with the most beautiful wife that any man could ask for, and very supportive of my aneros use.

    I had purchased my very first aneros and very first toy ever for that matter about 3 weeks ago. I have been regularly using it ( maximus ) about 4-6 nights a week for about 90 mins for the past 3 weeks now and each time there seems to be a slight difference, nothing pleasurable or orgasmic, it started with very slight tingles for a very short time to more dominant tingles around the prostate regularly throughout the 90 min session. I have spent an enormous amount of time researching this great and informative forum, thanks to you guys.

    Well today i am not sure what the heck happened but i can confirm that this aneros and prostate massage is for real, and it really is there. Just wanted some feedback from successful aneros users if they could inform me where i am at in this journey and some advise what i need to do. I inserted my aneros, began to relax and concentrated on my breathing, and i have always adopted the do nothing approach and it brings on that little tingle within 10 mins and will continue non stop throughout the session. Today i decided to do something different, i think it is called kegal exercises, where you use the muscle when you want to stop peeing. I done this for about 3-5 mins and this rush went all over my body and my whole body body just started to shake and jump everywhere and the aneros felt like it just wanted to push up to my throat, my whole body just tensed up so tight, it was not any sort of orgasm feeling but a very unusual body feeling which lasted about 30 seconds, then the strangest thing, i just could not control myself from laughter, as if i just heard the funniest joke. It freaked me out. This happened a further 2 times and again with the laughter.

    I had my ipad next to me and immediately jumped onto the forum during this session and there was a discussion that said to not tense up and try to keep relaxing and follow and ride these waves. Well i could feel the next one coming on and i kept relaxing and breathing and relaxing and breathing and this one heck of a pleasure wave just passed through my whole body, heavy breathing and butterflies in my stomach, it was not any match to a traditional orgasm but something that i have never experienced before. I was able to achieve this a further 2 times and could feel exactly where i needed to place the tip of the aneros to create the sensation. I had to stop after the 3rd time as i was exhausted. Again it was not more pleasurable than a traditional orgasm but it was nice.

    Could any experienced aneros users please tell me from there experience how far along i am and how well i have achieved to be where i am, and if there is greater pleasure ahead. Today was not any mind blowing orgasmic feeling as some do describe, but it was an experience that absolutely freaked me out and this little walnut prostate we have is a hidden little gem. I read in the forum that some guys have been using the aneros for months and years and have had zero success. Guys please read the forum and follow what the experience users say, have patience because i have just had the most amazing experience today and confirm that this is real.

    Sorry for the long post but any feedback or advise would be most appreciated.

    Happy anerosing guys...
  • Im no expert, but it sounds to me like you're well on your way on your rewiring process. I believe what you experienced was p-waves. Enjoy the ride, let them build up over time and new sensations will constantly surprise you. This building up can be the tricky part as you're always craving more than what you're getting, and the craving can get in the way of the progress as you'll try harder and thus not relax properly :)
  • @Donchich --- Awesome to hear of your're reaction...a little freaked completely normal. The surprises that can occur with Aneros are proportional to how able you are to allow them to happen, just as you described! Those pleasure waves can continue to grow as your prostate awakening progresses!

    The list of milestones here..., is a great list of things you're likely to experience. While some will experience more or less, and skip other steps entirely, it describes many of what you may feel during the rewiring!

    Keep going and enjoy!
  • TreiTrei
    Posts: 246
    I've been at it for about 4 months with the the progasm, and just last night i had my first set of prostate orgasms, it also triggered a yelling reflex? Like if your tickled you laugh except for it was yelling. But even if the reflex was not triggered i'd still been yelling from the intensity and merciless assault of the orgasms.

    I beleive that you experienced strong p~waves, however when you hit the laughing phase I think that that may have been the onset of a super-O, as strange and amazing things tend to happen with those.
  • slimjmslimjm
    Posts: 577
    Congratulations on your marriage and on your wife having a supportive view of your using the Aneros to increase your sexual sensitivity.  As this goes along for you, she will experience the benefits along with you.

    It sounds like you are just in the earliest phases to the so called "rewiring" process, which isn't really rewiring of the nerves there, just the "learning" of the nerves already there of new stimulation pathways that ultimately, for most, will result in some weeks to months in the ability to separate orgasm from ejaculation by stimulating the nerves that go to the penis where they cross over behind the prostate in front of the rectum, hence the importance during the training process that you do not perform penile stimulation during Aneros sessions.  The resultant "dry" orgasm will be very intense and long lasting and will not result in a "drained" feeling afterward since no semen is ejaculated.

    To get some good sensations started, I would suggest lying on your back with knees up and relaxed slightly apart and holding gentle "pulling in" contractions, like you were trying to cut off urine flow, not trying necessarily to contract your anal sphincter.  While doing this, tickle your nipples or let your wife get in on the process by doing this for you and see what interesting feelings you produce inside.  With practice you should start to feel a warm feeling growing behind your pubic bone inside that will eventually get to where it will flow out into your penis.  With continued practice, you'll finally have a session where these warm feelings will get very hot and flow all the way out to the end of your penis, which usually will become rock hard during the process and you'll feel like you're ejaculating or at least really hot in the tip of your penis like you want to ejaculate, but nothing will come out.

    Keep practicing and you'll discover a great and really fun way to expand your sexual sensitivities that your wife will love to get in on the action with.  
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,492

    Clap Congratulations, IMHO, you just experienced your first Super-O Super-O-Joy
    I think too many men misinterpret the term "Super-O" as meaning an orgasm significantly more pleasurable or intense than a traditional ejaculatory orgasm. While it is true that it may be more intense, it is not necessarily so. As defined in the WIKI, it is " orgasm that steps out of the normal frame of reference." The characteristics of Super-O's may be markedly different from traditional ejaculatory orgasms. From the WIKI definition "Super-O's come in all shapes and sizes. Some are small, some are large, some are single, some are multiple, some are centered in one area while others are in another. Some are particularly intense, while others are more subdued. ...The Super-O is very personal and different for each individual."

    You are well on your way now to a lifetime of pleasurable Anerosessions, both solo and with your wife. Some sessions may be less intense and some more intense, they are most likely going to be unique with no two sessions ever being the same. They will evolve over time to have a different quality of richness and personal meaning. Again congratulations!
    image Good Vibes to You ! Joy2
  • mdadmdad
    Posts: 139
    That sounds like great progress. I'm only a few weeks in my experience too, but I've found that the more I try to do Kegels, the slower my session goes. When I "want" it the most, the session stalls. The do nothing approach has absolutely been the best approach for me. The less distraction I have, and the more I can concentrate on relaxing and letting go and not fighting the p-waves (or actively trying to help them) the better I am. I do a couple Kegels now and then, though. I just don't make them my main go-to move.

    Your laughing story reminds me of how I felt when I first had the beginning of a Super-O. I had this sucking feeling in my chest and in my stomach, and a few butterflies. It caught me so off guard I opened my eyes and sat up. The feeling went away. Oh well! It hasn't been back. But next time I'll be ready for it. :)

    Other than my short-circuited Super-O, I've also had dry orgasms, full-body orgasmic sensations, floating sensations, and tightening up of every muscle in my core (I still can't relax against those). You described at least two of those, so I think you are well on your way!
  • Thank you guys for all the great comments. Just an update from my last post.....i still continue to use the aneros at least 4-6 times a night for around 90 mins. I can bring on the tingle now within 5-10 mins of inserting the aneros without fail, then i will start very slight contractions and try to hold and can feel these pleasure waves pass through my body. Very light but noticeable good feelings. Each session i do i find that i can bring these feelings on quite easily now but this is as far as i can go, no orgasmic feeling, just some very very light pleasure sensations. The last couple of sessions i have felt something different, i feel this sensation that someone is pushing a finger or pulling on around my perinium area, sometimes with great force, and just today i felt this little pulse happening at the base of my penis, as if it was try to pump something.

    Is there any advice from anyone if i am still on the right path or have i stalled because it feels like im stuck at this stage and not moving forward. I know that there is definitely something pleasurable there and have no doubt about the prostate, maybe a little to anxious to arrive at the orgasm stage.

    Once again, thanks for all the help, advise and responses......
  • I would say 4-6 times a night for 90 minutes is a little excessive. ;)
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,209
    I agree with @forum_jedi, that seems like alot of stimulation and may be the cause of your stalled sessions.  I would try doing a few less sessions and see if that helps.  I try to do 3 sessions a week at 2 hours each, but everyone is different.  
  • Thank you forum_jedi and ineverknew for the advise. Did'nt realize that, i will reduce my sessions and see how that goes....thanks again