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Regular sex with the wife getting more difficult.
  • dmrdmr
    Posts: 11
    Hello,

    As my aneros journey continues on, I am finding climaxing with my wife more and more difficult. I was able to cum one night this week; but I did have a Helix buried in me. Is my experience normal? After 30 minutes of thrusting she is exhausted and annoyed. Help! I really enjoy my aneros sessions; but I don't want to lose my wife.

    thanks for your input.
    DMR
  • Hello, dmr.

    I have no idea if the problem you reported is common, but I had the same issue: inability to ejac during sex with my wife. That was the reason I quit using my Helix. The device seemed to "block" something. After half a dozen dry-Os during intercourse or a BJ, I was ready to quit, too.

    My solution was to buy a Eupho. No ejac problems with that model. Vice and Peridise work fine for our partnered sex, too.

    Best Regards,

    Dave
  • dmrdmr
    Posts: 11
    I just purchased the Eupho. I will spend more time with that and see if it improves. I agree, the peredise works well. I only wish my wife would try it out.

    thanks,
    DMR
  • DMR;

    You're welcome, anytime.

    My wife tried the Peridise and didn't like it at all. "Too hard," she said.

    Good luck with Eupho!

    Dave
  • slimjm
    Posts: 497
    Hey, dmr. If I wear my Helix during sex with my wife, it definitely prolongs the buildup before orgasm and ejaculation can occur, probably a benefit if you tend to ejaculate early. That effect is not so pronounced with my Eupho, though the Eupho is my favorite for having dry prostate orgasms. I think it's simply the mechanical aspect of the size of the massager pressing against the prostate.
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,604
    Good thread -- always nice to find that there are other guys who experience similar things. I block somewhat with any toy larger than SGX. The extreme is Program with which I retain all the ejaculate until I eject the tool to the first "notch." When I'm inserted with a larger tool I tend to go flaccid so an E.D. med is important.

    For foreplay, SGX (particularly with condom lube) works for me when I want Prostate contact throughout foreplay; however, my 'usual' is the 22mm Peridise -- nice penis-bulb contact during all foreplay moves and total freedom to let go and ejaculate when the moment is upon us.
  • dmrdmr
    Posts: 11
    I have the advanced set. Is that the larger of the two? Thanks for the input.
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,474
    Hi dmr, ten_s_nut, slimjim and rook !! :D :D

    Agree rook!! Very good thread dmr!! IMHO, we do not get enough questions, posts, threads here about couples practice. My practice has been couple with my wife since I first got my MGX and started with aneros and KSMO soon after. I was on meds that induce ED then and found having MGX inside was a good boost and I was OK getting to ejaculation. As my aneros use increased and I added Eupho and then the big guns ICE, VICE and then Max, I was less and less able to get to ejac even without any aneros in.

    In our case, it was not such a problem because we discovered our separately tangible orgasmic energies coursing through both of us, although mrs.a is not as sensitive to either mine or her own as I am, she does feel it all and enjoys it and its great satisfactions now even more than an ejac finale. I developed the sensitivity during my early KSMO sessions, working with their powerful p-waves and their by-product distributed multi-level energies.

    When I do wear Ice inside on occasion with her, she likes the transmitted "bump" as Ice "slams" my whole canal and prostate and that is transmitted from the penis bulb on through to her vagina/Gspot/cervix. So we have de-emphasized ejac as a "needed" part of our sessions and are still having a highly orgasmic time. Ass with you fellows, my wife has not taken to using peridise models either...

    If this path interests you, take a look at David and Ellen Ramsdale's Sexual Energy Ecstasy and the chapter Bio-Electric Sex, as well as Mantak Chia's The Multi-Orgasmic Couple, both of which we used to give perspective on what we were already experiencing through aneros/KSMO practice.

    dmr, Dr. von Urban, originator of Bio-Electric Sex, recommends alternately 30 minutes of thrusting with 30 minutes of complete stillness with you still fully inserted in your wife, and again and again... We do it in whatever times we feel intuitively; usually something closer to 8 or 10 minutes, more or less, and that works wonders too.

    30 minute sessions of on/off are what we get to in our Wedding Band position, each on our backs, deeply relaxed, fingering the other's prostate/Gspot and sending each other over the moon with chains of dry-Os and Super-Os, mostly Still-Body, some quite jiggly Active-Body!!! Hallelujah!!! :D :D

    all the best couples explorations of the full spectrum of orgasmic possibilities and joy all

    artform
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,474
    dmr, the Advanced Set of Peridise is the smaller of the two sets.

    artform
  • dmrdmr
    Posts: 11
    Still having the same problem! Got viagra but that really doesn't seem to help much. The problem is that my Helix Syn and Eupho are more pleasureable now than sex with my wife. Frustrated, but blissful. I'm thinking about giving up my toys altogether. Help. She knows about my toy time, but wants no part of it.
  • I have notice masturbation without aneros takes a lot longer and my hand nearly melts coz I have too go so fast to get over the edge. I have been unable to test out the wife for a couple of years now. She has no mojo because of depression tablets.

    I cant use lube because I dont get enough feeling anymore and going so fast without lube I am starting to get raw.
    If it gets any worse  I will have to stop all together and I hope by that time I am getting dry Os at least with the aneros so I can get relief. Otherwise you might see in the news a story of the exploding man
    =))
  • braveneworld
    Is it something physical, a condition, that prevents feeling in your cock?  Have you tried various lubes?  I find something in BoyButter that really helps me jo.  Have you tried cock and ball rings?  I find that repeatedly backing off when i am close to cummng, edging a long time, builds up such a dam, that it cums to a point that just a touch of the cock or slight rub sends me over the top with an orgasm like i never had before i started using aneros. It also is the way that i found helped me really feel what the dry O is like, cuz it is really strong when i masturbate.
  • paulsp@trains.zzn.com No, no physical condition, Infact a Super-T is fine. I do get feeling it takes longer than it used to without a aneros. The aneros has made me not so sensitive. This will be great when I actually do get to have sex again. When i was in my late 20s I could last for ages but started to become a 5 minute wonder. It seems that the aneros is fixing me up. I have found the opposite, my normal ejaculation and orgasm is a let down compared to with the aneros. If I use lube my hand gets tired because I can not get enough friction.
    I guess things will settle as the rewiring continues...
  • twlltintwlltin
    Posts: 569
    @bravenewworld: Try adding nipple stimulation to the mix.
  • I had a similar expereince last night, I embarked on a relaxing session while my wife relaxed in the bath and then kept my helix in while we embarked on foreplay but the helix killed our own love session. I had little feeling in my old boy and had erection issues due to lack of feeling, once i removed it i got him up but shot my load very quickly.

    I think keeping the two types of sessions is key.

    My journey is more due to pelvic floor tightness I am now thinking of getting a set of peridise instead also. I suffer from IBS and find the prostate massagers can put my gut into spasm which can also create prostitus symptoms.

    I spoke to my doc and urologist about the link and thye both confirmed this and both diagnosed me as having tight arse syndrome. :)

  • dmrdmr
    Posts: 11
    I'm not really into masturbation as that would leave me not wanting to be with my wife. I just want to make so she can get some rest. She doesn't seem to keen on staying up all night trying to make me cum.
  • slimjm
    Posts: 497
    The greatest benefit in lovemaking with my wife came from developing the ability to have super O's with the consequent improvement in erectile function and control of traditional orgasm with her.  After an initial try or two, I no longer try to use the massagers during sex with her.
  • I no longer use it before or during sex, its too body confusing. I hope it improves my erectile function though to enjoy pleasures together better.