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OT: Male gspot pleasure given by partner
  • Shouldn't a woman spend just as much time pleasuring her man's gspot as he does her? Or is this such a nasty thing as Helixer says that a man should be forced to do it solo?

    How is this fair at all? Once again men give more to women than women give back. There has NEVER been a relationship in history where the woman gave more pleasure than she took (considering women do not initiate 50% of the time, are not on top half the time, give less blowjobs and spend less time on them and do not spend as much time pleasuring their man's gspot as he does pleasuring her gspot)
  • newtoforum;

    Wow, you must have had some really lame girlfriends. Speaking for myself, and looking back from age 62 at a few dozen girlfriends and three wives, I'd say at least 90% of them gave as much as they received. The other 10% were duds I dropped promptly.

    Sincerely,

    Dave
  • cyrezcyrez
    Posts: 109
    newtoforum: You do know that this forum is about discussion about the aneros prostate massager right? All your postings seem to be of a different kind of nature, perhaps you should try and find another forum that is more suited to your needs?
  • impimp
    Posts: 72
    newtoforum - cyrez is right! Bitching about life's unfairness solves nothing and your posts ain't helping the cause of prostate play on this Forum.
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    newtoforums, what helped me get over this (ish) was focusing on male pleasure - I am so glad we have a G spot!! Imagine if we didn't!! This wasn't even meant to be! This is like an unplanned...loophole in the design of man. That prostate is back there for penile reasons, it just so happens to be accessible for direct pleasure. Be grateful that we have this much. Imagine if we just had penises and that was it???

    As for women, the Aneros lessens our DEPENDENCY on them. If more men anerosed, it would be women chasing us to give us pleasure. Imagine: you will not need a girlfriend EVER AGAIN to have the best pleasure EVER! Now being single for a male can be GREAT. No more desperately going to try and meet women. Now WE can be casual. They are on a time limit before their womb shrivels up. Men's value (download The Pick Up Artist or check out Pick Up Podcast on ITunes) keeps on going up.

    It is unfair, but you can get over this as I did. Now I don't even want a girlfriend. It will be to her benefit of me having sex with her, so let the girls chase me. lol. If you wanna PM me, go ahead.
  • cyrezcyrez
    Posts: 109
    Thankyou for your insight Myturn, very nice post, hopefully it will convince newtoforum that there is light in the end of the tunnel =)
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    Good job MyTurn! A well worded post to help newtoforum. :)
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Thanks Cyrez and Love_is
  • [QUOTE=Love_is;95692]Good job MyTurn! A well worded post to help newtoforum. :)

    Helpful responses but why not answer the question though?

    Why shouldn't a woman play with a mans gspot as much as he plays with her. Its not his fault where its located.
  • [QUOTE=newtoforum;95775]Helpful responses but why not answer the question though?

    Why shouldn't a woman play with a mans gspot as much as he plays with her. Its not his fault where its located.


    Why not answer the question?
    Because nobody is buying into your premise to start with! Perhaps the question you really want to ask is "why won't a woman play with my G-spot as much as I play with hers...?" I think I can answer that one for you. Because you're a guy who is totally preoccupied with what he doesn't have. It's a dreadfully negative approach. If this is the way that you relate to a woman, keeping a sexual balance sheet like this, it's little wonder that a woman wouldn't want to be giving with you. Nobody here is accepting the idea that a man is somehow saddled genetically with an iniquitous sexual potential as compared to a woman. Most everybody here that is having Super O's is convinced that men have the better end of the deal. People have responded, but you're ignoring them, because their responses are not what you want to hear.

    It's time you stopped looking for someone to commiserate with and do some work on yourself


    All the best to you,

    Paul
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    [QUOTE=newtoforum;95775]Helpful responses but why not answer the question though?

    Why shouldn't a woman play with a mans gspot as much as he plays with her. Its not his fault where its located.

    How are you doing on your Aneros journey? You came here looking for the best male pleasure. So where are you on that journey?
  • [QUOTE=MyTurn;95782]How are you doing on your Aneros journey? You came here looking for the best male pleasure. So where are you on that journey?

    I don't think this is about male pleasure, but female pleasure

    Most everybody here that is having Super O's is convinced that men have the better end of the deal.



    Still a valid point, I too believe women should be licking men's assholes ;)
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Nirwananeros, It's funny, I almost backslid a little while watching an Aneros video on youtube. A woman said that the prostate has less nerves than the female G spot, which was disappointing. Also, I can never say they are equal unless I react how a woman does during her G spot orgasm. So I understand how hard it is for newtoforums to get the obsessive thought out of his head. You NEED answers. Nothing else helps. You can't put the issue to bed.

    But I am just going to keep focusing on what I can do - explore the male G spot.
  • [QUOTE=Polecat;95776]
    Why not answer the question?
    Because nobody is buying into your premise to start with! Perhaps the question you really want to ask is "why won't a woman play with my G-spot as much as I play with hers...?" I think I can answer that one for you. Because you're a guy who is totally preoccupied with what he doesn't have. It's a dreadfully negative approach. If this is the way that you relate to a woman, keeping a sexual balance sheet like this, it's little wonder that a woman wouldn't want to be giving with you. Nobody here is accepting the idea that a man is somehow saddled genetically with an iniquitous sexual potential as compared to a woman. Most everybody here that is having Super O's is convinced that men have the better end of the deal. People have responded, but you're ignoring them, because their responses are not what you want to hear.

    It's time you stopped looking for someone to commiserate with and do some work on yourself


    All the best to you,

    Paul

    Are you sure men have the better end of the deal?

    Three more things came to mind.

    1. Women do not play with the male gspot as much as vice versa.
    2. Women are more sensitive to touch and thus enjoy foreplay more.
    3. A woman cant give a man Super-O's or assist him in the same way a man can give or assist a woman in having g spot orgasms.
  • I've been a long time lurker, but I came out just to tell you that you're still refusing to see what is right in front of you.

    Why is it a womans duty to give a man a super O?

    Foreplay isn't about touch, it's about the sensations you experience.

    g-spot orgasms are not the same as super-o's. You can argue against this but to be honest there's never been a man/woman in the history of the world who has experienced both female g-spot orgasms and male super-o's.

    What you fail to address is the social stigmas attached to anal play in male. With so many men unwelcoming of the backdoor possibilities, it's not a "no wonder" situation to figure out why women don't play with the male "gspot."

    I could go on, but you need to really think about ALL the things which factor into male anal play rather than you being bitter to women for not playing with you. Heck, i'm pretty sure you are forgetting women want men to take the initiative, so if you want something from a female you have to ask them for it. There are always exceptions but if you have needs it's your responsibility to make sure they're met.
  • B MayfieldB Mayfield
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    [QUOTE=newtoforum;95827]Are you sure men have the better end of the deal?

    Three more things came to mind.

    1. Women do not play with the male gspot as much as vice versa.
    2. Women are more sensitive to touch and thus enjoy foreplay more.
    3. A woman cant give a man Super-O's or assist him in the same way a man can give or assist a woman in having g spot orgasms.


    Newtoforum,

    Last things first, please see my response to your other thread [I]OT: Woman giving man Super-O[/I] With respect to the concept of a man giving neither is really the case, but both partners are equally capable of inducing each other to have Super-O and G-spot orgasms respectively.

    On your second point, an awakened male is just as sensitive as a female to touch and enjoys foreplay equally. As a matter of fact, foreplay alone or with a partner is an essential element in setting the stage for a Super-O.

    With regard to women not playing with the prostate as often, this is truly a function of the type relationship that one has. There are many heterosexual relationships that involve anal play...virtually all of the studies show this. The potential is there for you to have as much anal play as you want, if you're willing to try and find the right woman. As I've mentioned in the past, I've appeared at quite a number of adult expos with the manufacturer and invariably there are more women who come up to the booth to look at the Aneros than men! Why? Because they want to please the men in their lives and they're tuning into different ways to do it.


    Newtoforum, as other users have pointed out, you seem stuck on depicting your own potential in a unfavorable light in comparison to women. This is doing nothing but stalling your own journey. Even if everything that you've said was true, and it is not....what would be the purpose of stewing over it? There comes a point where one makes the best of what they've got and enjoys it.....when you're given lemons, you make lemonade. In reality there are no lemons here, it's all good. You just need to get on with it.

    It seems that you've been ignoring most of the input that you've been receiving up to this point. If you maintain this approach you will likely lose credibility in this forum and members will simply stop responding to your posts. Again, it's time for you to get on with your own journey and discover what kind of fulfillment is possible.



    BF Mayfield
  • [QUOTE=B Mayfield;95835]Newtoforum,

    Last things first, please see my response to your other thread [I]OT: Woman giving man Super-O[/I] With respect to the concept of a man giving neither is really the case, but both partners are equally capable of inducing each other to have Super-O and G-spot orgasms respectively.

    On your second point, an awakened male is just as sensitive as a female to touch and enjoys foreplay equally. As a matter of fact, foreplay alone or with a partner is an essential element in setting the stage for a Super-O.

    With regard to women not playing with the prostate as often, this is truly a function of the type relationship that one has. There are many heterosexual relationships that involve anal play...virtually all of the studies show this. The potential is there for you to have as much anal play as you want, if you're willing to try and find the right woman. As I've mentioned in the past, I've appeared at quite a number of adult expos with the manufacturer and invariably there are more women who come up to the booth to look at the Aneros than men! Why? Because they want to please the men in their lives and they're tuning into different ways to do it.


    Newtoforum, as other users have pointed out, you seem stuck on depicting your own potential in a unfavorable light in comparison to women. This is doing nothing but stalling your own journey. Even if everything that you've said was true, and it is not....what would be the purpose of stewing over it? There comes a point where one makes the best of what they've got and enjoys it.....when you're given lemons, you make lemonade. In reality there are no lemons here, it's all good. You just need to get on with it.

    It seems that you've been ignoring most of the input that you've been receiving up to this point. If you maintain this approach you will likely lose credibility in this forum and members will simply stop responding to your posts. Again, it's time for you to get on with your own journey and discover what kind of fulfillment is possible.



    BF Mayfield


    I just don't think outside of this forum relationships where foreplay is equal exist. But are you telling me there are women who give as much foreplay as they take(spend equal amount of time on his body not even a little bit less), initiate sex half the time,are on top half the time and do half the work, give as much oral and for as long as the man gives them AND play with his prostate/give induced gspot orgasms/and give him solo foreplay when he is using the aneros?

    That is awesome. Where can I meet such a woman? What signs are there that a woman is like this?? Most women would find the concept of anal play and having to give as much as they take weird.

    Also what model of the aneros do you recommend to begin with?
  • Yes, newtoforum, such women exist. I'm married to one. They are NOT easy to find, but they are out there. Happy hunting!

    As for an Aneros starter model, the Helix worked for me.

    Cheers,

    Dave
  • :(How about starting a relationship thinking what you can give instead of what you can get?

    Surely only then will you be able to receive.
  • [QUOTE=newtoforum;95827]Are you sure men have the better end of the deal?

    Three more things came to mind.

    1. Women do not play with the male gspot as much as vice versa.
    2. Women are more sensitive to touch and thus enjoy foreplay more.
    3. A woman cant give a man Super-O's or assist him in the same way a man can give or assist a woman in having g spot orgasms.

    just spotted this post by newtoforum and can't and/or won't comment on statements 1.) and 3.) butt Numero Dos is categorically not true ...

    i've ALWAYS enjoyed 4play at least as much as any partner i've had - admittedly a relatively limited sample

    ... both RECEIVING as well as giving ( - you callin' me a woman?)

    - rip
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,488
    Again newtoforum...

    you insist on simplistically and rigidly categorizing the world, women, and the possibilities of sexual intimacy in such limited absolutist ways. I must agree with Sky_Walker and the many others here who are offering alternative perspectives. In your related post http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/ot-woman-giving-man-super-o-15379/#post95832, originally posted 9 days after this one, I already answered these questions before your most recent response here. Women CAN give men Super-Os manually. I get them often as my wife's Prostate Finger Puppet!! :) :) I am very sensitive to touch and mrs. a and I equally love getting each other off!! How many women know about the male G-spot??? How many males are even willing to let them try??? Science and objective professional polls could be of real use in this regard. Good topics inasmuch as they bring out those with real experiences here. :) :)

    i've ALWAYS enjoyed 4play at least as much as any partner i've had - admittedly a relatively limited sample

    ... both RECEIVING as well as giving ( - you callin' me a woman?)

    - rip



    Rip you are a man in full and I agree completely from my own experience!!

    all the best to all who are new to this forum and hope that they can leave past disappointment behind and be open to the possibilities and the experiences of others here all

    artform
  • nurselady
    Posts: 77
    I hope you won't mind me chiming in on this thread. Newtoforum, I for one would be one of those women you would be looking for in this world. I love the attention that a man could gift upon me. However, I do love to offer attention to my partner. To touch and know that you are offering someone pleasure, and knowing that they are appreciative of all that is encountered and experienced with each other is special. Yes, I often have given attention to my man anally and to learn what pleasure I can allow him to experience in touching his prostate is a very powerful experience. I wouldn't trade it for the world. Are women more sensitive to touch than men? No. I can state that I know for a fact, that my partner thoroughly enjoys anal play and touch. Being caring and asking what feels good and what can I do to make him feel better or pleasure him is just a small part of allowing him to feel sensitive to MY touch. I can't GIVE him a Super O, but I feel I can assist him in reaching his goal. What a wonderful means of togetherness when this can happen.
    Your question of how can you know a woman is like this? I cannot answer for all women. But, I would tell you that when you can have an open trusting relationship with someone you are on the right path. I can also give you one other piece of advice... don't keep score. When you give freely to someone you care about and mean it, it will be returned.
    nurselady
  • newtoforum
    Posts: 44
    [QUOTE=nurselady;97616]I hope you won't mind me chiming in on this thread. Newtoforum, I for one would be one of those women you would be looking for in this world. I love the attention that a man could gift upon me. However, I do love to offer attention to my partner. To touch and know that you are offering someone pleasure, and knowing that they are appreciative of all that is encountered and experienced with each other is special. Yes, I often have given attention to my man anally and to learn what pleasure I can allow him to experience in touching his prostate is a very powerful experience. I wouldn't trade it for the world. Are women more sensitive to touch than men? No. I can state that I know for a fact, that my partner thoroughly enjoys anal play and touch. Being caring and asking what feels good and what can I do to make him feel better or pleasure him is just a small part of allowing him to feel sensitive to MY touch. I can't GIVE him a Super O, but I feel I can assist him in reaching his goal. What a wonderful means of togetherness when this can happen.
    Your question of how can you know a woman is like this? I cannot answer for all women. But, I would tell you that when you can have an open trusting relationship with someone you are on the right path. I can also give you one other piece of advice... don't keep score. When you give freely to someone you care about and mean it, it will be returned.
    nurselady

    Thanks for the reply. For some reason men are able to give women full body orgasms while women can only assist men. That sucks.
  • newtoforum
    Posts: 44
    [QUOTE=artform;97605]Again newtoforum... Women CAN give men Super-Os manually. I get them often as my wife's Prostate Finger Puppet!!

    How though?
  • JayT
    Posts: 14
    [QUOTE=newtoforum;97725]How though?

    I read a study a while ago that says something like; 70% of women don't have an actual orgasm (don't believe 3/4 of the garbage you see in porn) until their mid to late 30's. The 30% of women that happen to stumble upon an orgasm are VERY lucky, the way that I look at it. Could you imagine how FUSTRATING it would be, as a man, to have to deal with that? I compare it to our journey as "rewiring", which for most, is NOT 30 years long. ewww.. that would SUCK!

    If you've been doing your research, and I hope you have since this post is nearly two months old now, you would know that a "rewiring" period is required before men can feel stimulation in our prostate. If you take that into consideration, it would be a little more clear why women can only assist in a male super-o. Now, IF said women was "assisting" a male that has already been "rewired" it would be a lot easier for her to set him over the edge.

    Just my 2cents
  • nurselady
    Posts: 77
    newtoforum,
    Maybe this will clarify my prior post a bit better...

    I suppose the question is "who is responsible for my orgasm?" or vice versa? I think people can get really hung up on this part of sex. I've had some experiences where I know I was able to assist my partner to an orgasm. I say assist, because yes I am certain my actions were able to give him an orgasm. However, that was thru learning what he appreciates, directions from him and what he knows feels good for himself. So, I think we are all responsible for our own orgasms. Perhaps, that is eye brow raising for some? But, perhaps by starting with ourself and learning what we like or dislike and then sharing with our lover and having experiences together with our lover we can do this - none of us automatically know what one likes. None of us are mind readers. There is a whole potential out there if one can share with their partner/lover, otherwise one may not know their potential or what they truly may enjoy with another person. Think of the pleasure one may receive!
  • RipTheJacker
    Posts: 240
    [QUOTE=JayT;97728]I read a study a while ago that says something like; 70% of women don't have an actual orgasm (don't believe 3/4 of the garbage you see in porn) until their mid to late 30's. The 30% of women that happen to stumble upon an orgasm are VERY lucky, the way that I look at it. Could you imagine how FUSTRATING it would be, as a man, to have to deal with that? I compare it to our journey as "rewiring", which for most, is NOT 30 years long. ewww.. that would SUCK!

    If you've been doing your research, and I hope you have since this post is nearly two months old now, you would know that a "rewiring" period is required before men can feel stimulation in our prostate. If you take that into consideration, it would be a little more clear why women can only assist in a male super-o. Now, IF said women was "assisting" a male that has already been "rewired" it would be a lot easier for her to set him over the edge.

    Just my 2cents

    My understanding is that both men and women apparently have two basic types of orgasm ==> women have clitoral orgasms, and g-spot orgasms ...

    in general the former precedes the latter

    ... likewise the male universally develops the penile orgasm reflex early on - generally as early as 9 to 12 years old - long before the "g-spot" orgasm ... which many never develop (i was 49 before i first got off on my prostate with the help of the progasm)

    my wife never came - or so she avers - until she was nearly 20 and married over a year ...

    this with considerable foreplay and fucking finesse by her attentive husband LOL

    in listening to the conversations of my two sons and two daughters girls today are more apt to discover orgasm (i assume most likely the clitoral type) because they have learned to masturbate and use vibrators during their teen years ...

    so jay's statement is likely less true with the younger generation of women

    ... and previously women were the victims of the dual standard and misplaced teachings of chastitiy equating "self abuse" with immoral and indiscriminate fornicatiion

    - rip