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No P tab complaints = Aneros isn't situated right? Arousal
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Hi, some tidbits:

    1)
    I have had next to no pleasurable sensations from the Aneros although a few sessions back, I did have a very slight dull nice feeling with it in, nothing major, and not since that time.

    I read of people having problems with the P tab on the Aneros. I have no irritation or uncomfortableness with it, so I am wondering if I have it situated right, or are there some people who are ok with the P tab?

    To be honest, it doesn't make much contact with my perineum unless I am standing up or force it to have more contact. Defaultly, it bare touches.

    I noticed today that the Aneros slips in easily now. I must be "widened"!

    2)
    Also, I watch porn during Aneros sessions for arousal, but I find that between getting different clips, waiting for different sensations, and just a general growing "immuneness" to the "arousing power" of porn nowadays (maybe it's depression/anxiety related), I lose erection during watching porn. Does this mean I am not aroused enough for an Aneros session?

    If you are supposed to be aroused for a whole session, what defines arousal if not for an obvious erection? Can relaxation be just as good for this rewiring process?

    How many of you have yet to feel Pwaves let alone superOs?

    3) Saw psychiatrist today to do with lack of sexual pleasure (penile). It was an assessment. Seeing her again soon.
  • tdt422
    Posts: 43
    I tend to have a flacid penis during my sessions.
    It is a different feeling concentrating on what is going on inside me with my progasm.
    I do have a good flow of precum and I do get hard by playing with my penis, but I have to stop since I am after dry-Os and don't want to finish wet. So for me I'd say that it isn't unusual to be soft.
    I have only been at it for a month or so - but I think I have had some mini-Os for sure and plenty of P waves. No super-O yet, but I am looking forward to it.
    My P-tab gets pretty tight up against my perenium so it puts a good squeeze on the prostate.
    Hang in there & try different positions. What works for me is on my back with knees up and with feet flat.
  • smapti
    Posts: 4
    With regard to 3): How can you expect your dick to be happy if you're not happy?

    Judging from some of your other posts, it sounds like you suffer from some sort of mood disorder. I chafe at classifying any further than that, as we each have individual psychological processes. I've suffered from depression, but I try not to "identify" with it. Rather than considering myself a "depressed person," it's more of being a "person-with-depression." As far as industrial/medical pharmacology is concerned, I've found bupropion (AKA Wellbutrin) to be extremely helpful--it also does not dampen the libido, like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (e.g., Prozac, Lexapro, et. al.).

    In my experience, bupropion also gives me firmer erections and stronger ejaculatory contractions. YMMV.
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    tdt422 - so I should aim for the Ptab to be pressing right in? I'll have to try some different angles and stuff then. But that means shoving the Aneros in further which goes against something I read here:

    Think of the Aneros as an upside down T (for simplification). I read around here that the last "nodule" or "bump" before the horizontal bar should be outside the anus. BUT for good Ptab contact, I would have to shove that last bump inside too.

    smapti - so true. I am trying to be positive (positive-thinking etc), but it's been a tough decade. Really unexpected shit out the blue. And not stuff that I can talk to people about (although I have) and expect them to help or understand. Unless someone is dead or your arm is falling off or its terminal, people seem to have this "get over it", "you are doing it to yourself", "it's nothing" attitude.

    I have heard good things about wellbutrin. It even ups libido vs the other SSRIs. I don't want to be dependent on wellbutrin for libido, but an increase would be great, no matter how it comes about. It would be hard to quite wellbutrin after seeing a libido increase. Unfortunately. I will look into it. It's the only SSRI I am open to trying possibly.
  • tdt422
    Posts: 43
    MyTurn-

    It sounds like it's too long maybe? Or the shape doesn't agree with your body.
    I wouldn't feel comfortable getting that last bump in if it's the one I am thinking of.
  • smapti
    Posts: 4

    so true. I am trying to be positive (positive-thinking etc), but it's been a tough decade. Really unexpected shit out the blue. And not stuff that I can talk to people about (although I have) and expect them to help or understand. Unless someone is dead or your arm is falling off or its terminal, people seem to have this "get over it", "you are doing it to yourself", "it's nothing" attitude.



    Emotional dysregulation is hard for the majority of the population to grasp. Looking for sympathy from those who have not been afflicted with depression is pretty much equivalent to beating your head against the wall. There is a wonderful book that helped me through a difficult period in my life (hell, I'm still in a difficult period), called "Feeling Good" by Dr. David D. Burns. It's the best trade paperback self-help book I've come across--with proven clinical efficacy, to boot.

    I have heard good things about wellbutrin. It even ups libido vs the other SSRIs. I don't want to be dependent on wellbutrin for libido, but an increase would be great, no matter how it comes about. It would be hard to quite wellbutrin after seeing a libido increase. Unfortunately. I will look into it. It's the only SSRI I am open to trying possibly.



    Unfortunately? If you were a diabetic, there would be no qualms about supplying your body with the insulin that your pancreas are unable to create. For some reason, people have hang-ups about certain aspects of their body, like sticking things in their butts or taking psychotropic medications. I can't say that I'm entirely outspoken about anal pleasure, but I am a strong advocate of "better living through science." Yes, psychiatric illnesses are socially constructed, and pharmaceutical companies are, for lack of a better description, evil. But damn it, the pills work. I have started and stopped taking Wellbutrin a few times, and life is better with the pills. I may be taking this medication for the rest of my life. I've come to terms with that fact--I will also need vision correction for the rest of my life. It's possible that I could get laser eye surgery, or an effective non-pharmacological treatment for depression will go commercial (transcranial magnetic stimulation seems to be a likely candidate), but for the time being, faux neurotransmitters are the way to go, just like the little wads of plastic sitting on my eye balls. When I talk to some people about contact lenses, they cringe, saying that they simply could not imagine sticking a foreign object in their eyes. It's a silly response, but also a human one, and understandable.

    But to get back on topic: Wellbutrin has no affinity for serotonin receptors. It is classified as a SNRI, a selective norephinepherine reuptake inhibitor. There are also apparent effects on dopamine levels as well. I took 450 mg of Wellbutrin daily for a year or so. I've had a few "drug holidays" lasting several months, including my most recent one lasting two months. I've just re-started a 300/mg day dose, and I'm already beginning to notice a boost in my mood. To reiterate, my quality of life is enhanced when I am engaging in pharmacotherapy.

    also: P-tab pressure is essential for the Aneros feedback loop to occur. My progasm "does the trick" out of the box, but it sounds like you might need to make some modifications.
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,257
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    MyTurn,

    Re: Tidbit #1 – You might want to read my response in this thread.
    Re: Tidbit #2 – IMHO, watching porn during a session is more distracting than enhancing to one’s arousal. It can be effective prior to the start of a session, but as you have already noted its effectiveness at arousal quickly fades. Erections during an Aneros session are not indicative of your arousal state, some men get them, others DON’T, please do not fret over this fact.
    Arousal is a condition where both your mind and body are actively engaged in satisfying basic biological urges for pleasurable sexual release, Aneros use may deflate the penis but the physical desire will remain.
    Re: Tidbit #3 – That is wonderful that you are getting assistance in dealing with some of the emotional issues you are obviously facing. Discussing these with a professional counselor in a safe environment will allow you to get a fresh perspective on them and she will undoubtedly suggest a course of action to help you surmount these emotional obstacles.