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Question for the girls
  • GrandTigerGrandTiger
    Posts: 325
    First I thank you ladies who have contributed on this forum for your helpful insights and advice. If I may, I would like to ask you a question concerning the difference between boys and girls!

    For as long as we can remember, as kids, we guys have experienced random pleasurable erections, and frequent twinges of pleasure even without an erection. And of course the pleasure becomes more frequent and intense as we go through puberty from which time we pleasure ourselves to our heart's content as the urge to masturbate is absolutely irresistible.

    Please correct me if I'm wrong guys. I'm assuming my experience is normal.

    My question to the ladies is - do girls also experience similar pleasures from early childhood, and do girls also find masturbation to be irresistible as we do?

    These are the kind of questions that could never be asked in the society in which I, and many others around my age, grew up. And now we are learning so many things we wish we had known and understood decades ago, things that would have helped us better understand our partners from the beginning.

    I'm sure the guys here, and I for certain, would really appreciate your answers.

    May God bless you ladies,

    Grand Tiger
  • zanebluezaneblue
    Posts: 224
    No, the urge to masturbate is not irresistible for most girls. Some don't even have their first orgasm until their twenties and a few never have an orgasm.
  • GrandTigerGrandTiger
    Posts: 325
    Thanks Zane, very interesting, and no random twinges of pleasure as kids?

    Although I'd had such random twinges from being very young, the first one that really got my attention was when I was 11 years old and had my first taste of sherry. I approached it cautiously, taking only the tiniest sip, but as soon as it touched my tongue I got a spontaneous jolt of pleasure in my penis that made me gasp! I probably never toughed anything alcoholic again for many years, but I felt it again once or twice but then the effect stopped. But now, on account of the incredible rejuvenating effect of prostate massage and multiple sustained orgasms, the effect has returned !
  • buttercupbuttercup
    Posts: 44
    I'm sorry, I have to disagree with zaneblue. I can remember getting into trouble as young as 3 years old for laying on the couch rubbing myself; eventually I stopped for awhile and even forgot about it, but one day when I was approaching my teens I suddenly remembered that I used to do something that I had really enjoyed, and since I was home alone then I set about remembering just what it was. During my teens years I masturbated probably equally as much as any of my male counterparts, and I still do it now.

    Oddly, the urge is stronger the more I have sex; when things were bad between hubby and me I would only do it when my hormones "made me", but now that we have a very active sex life I'm turned on most of the time and I do it more frequently.

    As far as experiencing twinges of pleasure, of course women have them too, although they are probably brought on by different stimuli. For instance, I've mentioned that hubby and I haven't had much time together during the week for the last 2 weeks; one night he hugged me (just a regular hug, nothing sexual), and a few minutes later I had to check to see if I'd started my period because I was suddenly very wet down there. All it was was a response to having his arms around me. :lol: Sometimes he'll call me from work and the sound of his voice will set me off or I'll put on his robe that has his cologne on it and I'll get a jolt. And of course, reading some of the experiences men have had on this website can get me going as well.

    It's possible that I have a stronger sex drive than a lot of women I suppose, I don't actually know much about other women's sex drives, but I'm also capable of totally shutting down sexually if I'm unhappy or not in a relationship. Hubby is happy that he can make me come over and over again, and pretty easily too, but if I didn't trust him so much experience tells me that wouldn't be the case.
  • GrandTigerGrandTiger
    Posts: 325
    Thank you dear Buttercup for your informative reply. Evidently girls are very different in this respect, one to another, whereas boys are much more alike, unless we hear otherwise from the other guys on this forum.

    Certainly, once we start feeling attracted to girls we are very easily aroused. I used to be embarrassed because I'd get a wet patch visible on my trousers from all the pre-cum I'd make just giving a girl a goodnight kiss, not to mention my big bulge!
  • Old WolfOld Wolf
    Posts: 114
    Hi GT, I can remember a time well short of puberty when cuddling a pillow between my legs would feel 'nice' without understanding why.

    Isn't it said re a 'survey' about men and masturbating that 99% do and the other 1% are lying?

    LOL at bulge/wet patch from kissing, I can remember ditto just from holding hands!

    To stay with the subject matter, however, I remember Mrs OW saying that she was never interested in masturbating. She did, apparently, try it when we split up for a while but said it didn't do anything for her. Whether she does or doesn't now I've no idea, we don't talk about that kind of thing any more.

    GT, I don't think that you are going to get a representative sample here with only 3 or 4 (where's nikki these days?) female contributors, nice to get the replies so far, though.

    Zaneblue, you surprise me! I had this idea that girls explored their 'bits' form quite an early age and accidentally discovered how nice it was. Oh well...

    Buttercup, thank you. Your reply was, in itself, a turn on. But then most of your posts are :twisted:

    Are there any other ladies lurking who care to register and chime in?

    Old Wolf

    p.s. a quick google brought up with the origin and more surveys linked from
    No surprises there really, 11-14 for roughly 47%. Now, remind me, what is it happens around that time? :wink:
  • zanebluezaneblue
    Posts: 224
    I hate to say this, but those sorts of surveys are self-selecting. Women who don't masturbate are unlikely to take a masturbation poll.

    I think it's true that women's sexuality varies more widely than men's. I personally also think this is mainly due to varying nutrition--I think women's sexual response is much more sensitive to good nutrition than men's is (which makes sense evolutionarily speaking, since women have much more to lose by procreating during a time of famine).
  • buttercupbuttercup
    Posts: 44
    I've never given it much thought, but I believe zaneblue is right about the effects of nutrition on women's libido's. Other things probably figure into it too though, like hormone production and even emotional states. Supposedly women who are entering menopause frequently experience a drop in sexual desire, but I started just about one year ago exactly and mine has increased to more than what most people half my age probably have; I attribute this not only to my hormones going nuts but to being in a much better emotional frame of mind.
  • Very good question GT!

    This might help a bit too: and

    Zaneblue:You have an advantage tho :twisted:

    Buttercup:You one of the exceptions to the rule! (As is Zaneblue)

    Old Wolf: lol I thought I was the only one who had that just from holding hands or an innocent hug, made going out in public very awkward sometimes hehe!

    Seemed to have calmed down in the last few years though thank goodness!
  • NunyaGANunyaGA
    Posts: 38
    i can't remember what it was like when i was much younger, but around 13 or so, i became a masturbating fool. i would make myself cum everyday until i was about 25 or so, when things started going haywire hormonally. got that medically corrected and now it's definitely cyclical (at 36). some days i high-strung - other days far too busy. but sex is always on my mind.
  • johntrevyjohntrevy
    Posts: 221
    NunyaGA said:

    i can't remember what it was like when i was much younger, but around 13 or so, i became a masturbating fool. i would make myself cum everyday until i was about 25 or so, when things started going haywire hormonally. got that medically corrected and now it's definitely cyclical (at 36). some days i high-strung - other days far too busy. but sex is always on my mind.

    Awwwww, No one who masturbates is a fool. Girl, or Boy. I think its really cute that there are girls that do masturbate. Im one of those guys who thinks everything about a woman is special, Her face, her smile, her curves, her uterus, even her periods (Why are so many women put of by their own bodies. A period is like ending the old and begining the new- so cute in itself). Too many guys dont understand that a womans body is actually alot more complex to understand than their own. It causes alot of arguments :(.

    "God, women are beautiful"

  • NunyaGANunyaGA
    Posts: 38
    well aren't you sweet johntrevy!

    I agree with you regarding periods. I've always thought of it as a time of renewal, and i think that mindset makes mine rather uneventful, and more oftent hen not a positive experience. I see my friends who carry this baggage about how awful and terrible it is and they invariable have miserable periods. I'm not sure which comes first the mindset or the physical symptoms.

    One thing I do know is that i get incredibly horny during mine. and dominant.