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Having sex without the partner knowing the aneros was inside
  • I am thinking about having sex with my wife with the aneros inside me AND without my wife knowing. I'm curious if it would enhance regular sex.

    1. Has anyone done this secretly without your wife/girlfriend knowing? If so, what was your experience?

    2. In general, does the aneros make sexual intercourse anymore enjoyable than it already is?

    I think I'm going to do this tonight!
  • GrandTiger
    Posts: 325
    Well, if you just unzip your fly and keep your pants on, then maybe she'll never know!
  • Well, my wife usually never ventures around my butthole or approach me from behind while having sex... so I don't see how she would notice. Regardless, I chickened out this evening. I thought it would be too much of a distraction since I'm not comfortable with it yet.

    I'd still like to hear from anyone else that has actually tried to hide it.
  • JayD
    Posts: 38
    I did it once but I was too concerned about her finding out that I couldn't really enjoy the experience.
  • When I first received my Aneros I tried with the woman, and it was ok....made me harder than usual and the orgasm was intense!!! But on the down side I lasted much shorter than usual...
  • catchemup
    Posts: 43
    I hate to admit to being that sneaky but I did it on two occasions. It was tricky since my wife will wander around down there if she feels like it. When I had the aneros in I kept my butt beyond her reach and got away with it. The sex was great, maybe because I thought I was getting away with something. the orgasms were intense but I did cum quicker than usual. Just got too excited by the confluence of the aneros and the sneaky maneuver I was pulling.
  • Last night I actually put in the aneros for about 45 minutes while hanging out with my wife. This is probably TMI but... one of the reasons I chickened out and took it out was because all of a sudden I felt a rumble like I needed to pass gas. Only problem was I couldn't because of the aneros. Long story short... I removed the aneros in the bathroom. We had sex shortly after.

    I have to say that my erection seemed rock hard the whole time (more than usual) and my orgasm seemed very intense. That was my first prostate message ever. I think maybe it was much needed... Or maybe I was just horned up from the foreplay from my aneros. Who knows?
  • nodak
    Posts: 24
    Why hide it? Doesn't she know you have it? If not, maybe introduce the the idea of it slowly and see how she reacts. You may be surprised. She, like my Wife, maybe VERY turned on by the idea. I know my Sex life has improved since getting my first Aneros.
  • nodak said:

    Why hide it? Doesn't she know you have it? If not, maybe introduce the the idea of it slowly and see how she reacts. You may be surprised. She, like my Wife, maybe VERY turned on by the idea. I know my Sex life has improved since getting my first Aneros.



    I just got it yesterday. No, she doesn't know. I'd like to tell her. Maybe I will someday. I also have a "Fleshlight" that I never official told her about. You know the stigma attached to male sex toys. For some reason it is perfectly acceptable for women to have vibrators and dildos, but when a man wants a sex toy he is either gay or a pervert. Which is of course rediculous.

    The fleshlight is in the closet right next to the shoebox that contains her "toys". It's been there for several months. I'd be shocked if she hasn't ever seen the fleshlight, but she has never mentioned it. She is the type to kinda give me my personal space. Or, maybe she just feels uncomfortable talking about it. I should probably just bring everything out in the open myself. I think it would be easier to talk to her about the Fleshlight. It's pretty easy to justify it. I can just say "hey, you've got toys that look and feel like a cock. Why wouldn't I want a toy that looks and feels like a pussy." I'll do that when I get the courage. After I see how that goes, I'll see about bringing up the Aneros. That's a "hole" different topic. (pun intended)
  • nodak
    Posts: 24
    I do admit, I was uncomfortable just bringing up the subject directly so, I slowly tested the waters so to speak. Some pillow talk (OMG, I'm starting to sound like Oprah) :) I started reading the forum here and she would ask me what I was so interested in and I showed her. I spent a few weeks reading a lot of the posts here and other places and shared some of the info with her about not only the sexual but also the health benefits of prostate massage. I then told her I would like to try it and she was like "go for it". I ordered the Helix and the rest is history. She even surprised me by getting me a Progasm. :shock:

    Hope you can break the Ice so to speak. The reward is very sweet indeed.

    Nodak
  • nino
    Posts: 28

    I am thinking about having sex with my wife with the aneros inside me AND without my wife knowing. I'm curious if it would enhance regular sex.

    1. Has anyone done this secretly without your wife/girlfriend knowing? If so, what was your experience?

    2. In general, does the aneros make sexual intercourse anymore enjoyable than it already is?

    I think I'm going to do this tonight!



    Hi m,

    I did this for a couple times without my wife knowing and then one time she noticed it becuase of the position we were in. She was like, "what is that white thing" which I played dumb about and tried to ignore. Which pissed her off even more. She got really pissed. It made for a very uncomfortable evening.

    She eventually said she was mostly pissed that I didn't feel that I could tell her about it and that I was hiding it from her and that was not a good thing in a relationship. She wanted to know what else I was hiding from her.

    I explained to her about the male g-spot and she understands but sometimes rolls he eyes when I use it. I actually don't use it much at all with her anymore. Maybe she is intimidated by it or it brings up memories about my being decietful about it. I don't know.

    I have also have been able to have dry orgasms without it so things have changed for me.

    Lesson learned, being honest and upfront may be a better approach and a sign (to her) that you trust her with your most intimate feelings. Which she may respect way more than hiding it.

    Just my thoughts...

    Best to you and yours!

    Nino
  • bonerownerbonerowner
    Posts: 121
    nino said:

    Lesson learned, being honest and upfront may be a better approach and a sign (to her) that you trust her with your most intimate feelings. Which she may respect way more than hiding it.

    Great advice - and I agree completely.
  • Thanks Nino and Nodak - based on what you have both told me, I think I will wait a little while and fly solo with the Aneros to make sure that I even like it. I'm undecided right now. It could be a "fad" for me. I've purchased a few toys in the past only to be disappointed and throw them away (only exception so far has been the fleshlight). If I end up liking the Aneros, I think I'll be up front about it before using it while being intimate with my wife.

    Nino - maybe you should have your wife read this thread so she can see that you are not the only one that's afraid to disappoint his wife. :oops: My guess is that you love your wife (as I do mine) and you were just embarrassed and afraid of disappointing her. All along you just wanted to experience something exciting with HER. Anyway, I could totally see my wife discovering it and getting upset too. We live and learn. Thanks for sharing your story so I could learn a lesson from it. :wink:
  • NunyaGA
    Posts: 38

    nino said:

    Lesson learned, being honest and upfront may be a better approach and a sign (to her) that you trust her with your most intimate feelings. Which she may respect way more than hiding it.

    Great advice - and I agree completely.


    as a woman, that's just recently had "the talk" I totally agree. As shocked as I may be (remember - my guy and I are not married and have been dating a few months) - I completely had to respect his "bravery" (maybe self-actualization is a better word) and take it as a HUGE compliment.
  • nodak
    Posts: 24
    Hi Megabyteme,

    I think you being wise not to try and sneak it past her. Hopefully you will be pleasantly suprised and your Wife will be turned on by your interest in anal play. You never know. Let us know how things work out.

    Good luck and enjoy

    Nodak