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Question to men with wives and girlfriends
  • Just wondering in what order do you usually do things with your wife or girlfriend when you have mutual foreplay that eventually leads to intercourse? Obviously sex is spontaneous, but what do you think works best with the anatomical and orgasmic responses of man and woman that both get the most out of it, like do you play with the man / prostate first and then move on to the woman and then proceed to intercourse or the other way around?
  • devajones
    Posts: 148
    Is this question posed only to the men of this forum?
  • No, headlining is a bit misleading, woman's perspective is naturally warmly welcome too.
  • awired50awired50
    Posts: 127
    I am married. I like to get a 20 -30 minute head start relaxing with the device in doing contractions. She then joins me and gives me head. By then I am already strobing and the blowjob is amazing. She edges me over and over. Usually she then gets off with her Rabbit while I watch, ride and stroke. After she orgasms 1-3 times I'll take her in intercourse with the device still in me. Usually auto-f%^ing by this point. The Rabbit will have made her wet and creaming. This makes for an awesome fuck.That's how we do it :)
  • awired50 said:

    I am married. I like to get a 20 -30 minute head start relaxing with the device in doing contractions. She then joins me and gives me head. By then I am already strobing and the blowjob is amazing. She edges me over and over. Usually she then gets off with her Rabbit while I watch, ride and stroke. After she orgasms 1-3 times I'll take her in intercourse with the device still in me. Usually auto-f%^ing by this point. The Rabbit will have made her wet and creaming. This makes for an awesome fuck.That's how we do it :)



    I enjoy a head start too, really gets me in the mood. Lately we have been having "His night" and "Her night", where we concentrate on the other for a good 30 minutes to an hour before intercourse. We have lots of toys we enjoy using, and they are a great warmup for the main event!
  • devajones
    Posts: 148
    Well as you said sex is spontaneous but generally speaking this is what I prefer.  I dont like the sensitive parts of my body gone at first that just turns me off as it doesnt really feel pleasurable.  So I dont like my nipples, clit, or anus touched first I need a bit of warm up.  10-15 minutes minimum of kissing or massaging is enough (longer is better though).  Then more stimulation is welcomed to those parts of my body that were previously too sensitive to warrant attention.  So from there either he preforms oral on me, or which is a better mutual exchange in my eyes we do 69, however I dont like it when I'm brought to orgasm clitorally as my desire for sex drops (same as a man after he ejaculates) and my clit is very sensitive.  If giving my husband a manual prostate massage is on the menu then usually he'll massage my gspot at the same time.  This is acheived by both of us laying in opposite directions my head towards his feet, his head towards mine, both of us lying on our backs.  He is able to reach my gspot manually and I am able to reach his prostate manually (for more info on this ask @Artform about the wedding band pose, or read his blog its mentioned in there).
  • Alex_xxx
    Posts: 544
    Lets put it this way...
    I think foreplay is great. But only once in a while. As long as your gf is turned on by you and in the mood she should be naturally lubed up once you approach. Only takes a few seconds for my gf to get wet.

    Now, the thing is that I personally feel that we men have lost ourselves. I don't believe we were hard core foreplayers when we lived in caves or dirty timber lodges. A real man gets the signals, the expectations and situation gets her ready, and the sex is pure animalistic!! That is how I like it.. Foreplay is more like a once a month/week thing. If she's not in the mood, well then she's not.. Accept it and don't use foreplay as a preconditioner. Try being animalistic for a while, it's thrilling AND a real kick for you both. As for prostate play, that doesn't work very well in that setting... i think :)

    So fKuC foreplay :)
  • The vast majority of men tend to cut corners on the road to orgasm. Be it a traditional orgasm or a prostatic orgasm, it must be achieved as expeditiously as possible. This minute-made orgasm may employ various and sundry outside influences that are unrequied and unnecessary. These men travel on the Express Bus, in regard to their women and their Aneros. This type of man does not, will not, and cannot understand the nuances of a woman. This bleeds over into their Aneros sessions. They are inept with women. This particular malady of incompetence makes its way to their male poo-poo hole. When these men's stinky holes
    will not orgasm, they begin to wail and have lamentations. Since the prostate is the feminine energy, and since these men do not concern themselves with giving a female proper pleasure...these men are rewarded
    by not being able to orgasm. Or they may orgasm infrequently. Ah, the prostate is a fickle Mistress. But Karma is indeed beautiful.

    We are forced to listen to them (thread after thread after thread; post after post after post) moan and bellyache. It becomes redundant! Men of this ilk, are not at all concerned with their woman's pleasure, or any woman's pleasure for that matter. Why should these men receive pleasure, when they refuse to give pleasure to their woman? It becomes a problem when they cannot climax, yet they have no issue with their wives or GFs failure to climax. A REAL MAN goes above and beyond the call duty, in order to please his woman. He does this consistently and unwaveringly. Her orgasm becomes more important than his orgasm.
    This man is not afraid to give his woman proper foreplay.

    And men after ask themselves,"I wonder why she is not in the mood?" Now you know why. It is because most of you do not care about her pleasure. Perhaps you should finesse the way you interact with your woman, both inside the bedroom and outside the bedroom. If not your car is going to crash. It is going to be a horrendous crash. A crash of epic proportions. A crash that may require the jaws of life to extricate you from the wreckage.
  • techpump
    Posts: 117
    Alex_xxx said:

    Lets put it this way...
    I think foreplay is great. But only once in a while. As long as your gf is turned on by you and in the mood she should be naturally lubed up once you approach. Only takes a few seconds for my gf to get wet.

    Now, the thing is that I personally feel that we men have lost ourselves. I don't believe we were hard core foreplayers when we lived in caves or dirty timber lodges. A real man gets the signals, the expectations and situation gets her ready, and the sex is pure animalistic!! That is how I like it.. Foreplay is more like a once a month/week thing. If she's not in the mood, well then she's not.. Accept it and don't use foreplay as a preconditioner. Try being animalistic for a while, it's thrilling AND a real kick for you both. As for prostate play, that doesn't work very well in that setting... i think :)

    So fKuC foreplay :)



    Except for the fact that age, time of the month, and if you were an asshole that day or even the day before can have a lot to do with the girl being/getting wet or not.  Sounds like your girlfriend is young, doesn't have a monthly cycle and you're a charmer!
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,699
    We are fortunate in that we can devote an entire Saturday afternoon to a sexual encounter.   We also have the time to talk about what we have liked and how we want actions we wish to combine in the future.

    Over the years we've learned the "Hello" and, "How are you" are two distinct parts of any interpersonal encounter.   

    We dedicate sessions to acting out particular themes.  (Teasing, mild SM, His, Hers, breeding/impregnation etc.)   

    We attempt to live in each moment to the best of our individual capabilities at that moment.

    "Shortcutting" isn't just a 'guy thing.'
  • Before Aneros, @Pspotsquirter, I thought I was one of those men that thought he knew what he was doing, by spending 10-15 minutes in foreplay with a women. Then several minutes later, it was all over and time to roll over and back to sleep. I now understand that you can experience HOURS of unending pleasure from Prostate play, which I can relate to a women. I want to give the experience of hours of pleasure, because I know it is possible and reciprocation typically always follows, IE you give what you get..

    It has been very profound and for those that are looking for the "Magic Button" to quick orgasms with Aneros and pleasure in general, making a quick buck, and just with life in general just don't understand. I think some are willing, they just don't know what they don't know!
  • Thanks for the answers.

    @Pspotsquirter, wow seems that you have a lot of hate inside. Anyhow, this thread was about positive sexual preferences between loving couples and mutual enjoyment, so let's not get negative and go off topic.
  • awired50awired50
    Posts: 127

    Before Aneros, @Pspotsquirter, I thought I was one of those men that thought he knew what he was doing, by spending 10-15 minutes in foreplay with a women. Then several minutes later, it was all over and time to roll over and back to sleep. I now understand that you can experience HOURS of unending pleasure from Prostate play, which I can relate to a women. I want to give the experience of hours of pleasure, because I know it is possible and reciprocation typically always follows, IE you give what you get..



    What he said :)
  • The other night after pleasuring my girlfriend, she had a devilish grin and said, hey turn over, it's your turn. The pleasure was so intense, I was literally crying!