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Couple of newbie questions
  • RogerT
    Posts: 79
    I just used my Aneros MGX for the first time yesterday. After doing an enema, hot shower I lubed myself up with the Marksman lube and lubed the Aneros really well. It went in easily and half way in it was drawn in like the Wiki said. Within a few seconds my sphincter muscles started contracting and while I didn't have full erection within the next minute I had an orgasm and ejaculated. Is this normal for first timers? I mainly bought this product to enhance my sex life with my wife and have Super T (not sure what T stands for). My other question is this. How long will it take before inserting the Aneros doesn't make me cum right away? Any advice and suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
  • Badger
    Posts: 652
    Not really; you are one of the lucky few who have had a great measure of success the first time out. Congradulations! I believe what you had is called a Hands-Free Wet-O, and they are good as well.

    Super-T means Super-T(raditional Orgasm).

    I don't think you'll get all of your Os that quickly; usually, the more often you use it, the longer it will take to achieve O. Besides, there's still much more to experience, so enjoy the ride. Have you tried leaving it in after your cumming to see what happens next?
  • RogerT
    Posts: 79
    After cleaning up, I did leave it in for a little while and enjoyed the feeling. However, the wife was coming home and I didn't want to explain anything just yet. Here's hoping I have better success leaving it in next time without ejaculating too quickly.
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,604
    [QUOTE=RogerT;91575]I just used my Aneros MGX for the first time yesterday. After doing an enema, hot shower I lubed myself up with the Marksman lube and lubed the Aneros really well. It went in easily and half way in it was drawn in like the Wiki said. Within a few seconds my sphincter muscles started contracting and while I didn't have full erection within the next minute I had an orgasm and ejaculated. Is this normal for first timers? I mainly bought this product to enhance my sex life with my wife and have Super T (not sure what T stands for). My other question is this. How long will it take before inserting the Aneros doesn't make me cum right away? Any advice and suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

    Badger's covered the definitions. So, here's my cut on the "how long" and the foreplay/intercourse questions. Since you're not yet interested in dry orgasm right now, (what most of us desire), I'll stick to Trad-O and foreplay where we have less written information available:

    I'd guess some 'first timer' anxiety or apprehension got you wound up into that instant HFO. Many newbies are just the opposite and require four or five sessions just to sense prostate contact. You might just take a few sessions to adjust to these new sensations. There's some bad news in this in that you are really 'wired' into ejaculatory orgasm so when it comes time to start your journey to 'Dry-O country,' you'll have a lot of rewiring to do.

    Allow some extra time for your next session to allow for refractory if it's needed. Should your next session result in another instant HFO, try following Badger's suggestion, leaving the tool inserted while you go through your refractory period. Then see if you can start contractions and massage your prostate without triggering another HFO. Then, with plenty of prostate arousal, award yourself with a proper Super-T.

    If over excitement continues to be an issue, it may be that the enema is overly arousing. Consider doing that an hour or two before you shower and lube. If that doesn't help, consider standardizing on a j/o a few hours before sex or consider the other standard preventions of PE/EE.

    Foreplay: Don't be surprised if you remain flaccid during foreplay -- most of us are flaccid when inserted, only going erect when we deliberately go to penile self-stim or get oral from our mates. Dabs of Redi-whip may be helpful :) . Using the Aneros, your mate will be more challenged in getting and keeping you erect bringing a new dimension to foreplay.

    MGX maintains good prostate contact in a variety of body positions (more so than Helix or Eupho) so is a great choice for foreplay. If you feel any discomfort in extreme positions or during sudden moves, consider switching to the SGX or Peridise.

    Hygiene: Early on I was using a water based lube (common K-Y) and that became a hazard when in missionary position. Lube would work its way downward and onto my shaft -- causing e-coli contamination of my wife's vagina and urethra. She contracted a urethral infection which our doc stopped before it reached her bladder. Not good, particularly if one's mate is post-menopausal.

    Here's what should help. Don't skip the enema but use several small ones rather than just one or two larger doses; and, clean out well before you lube (to aborb any fluid you didn't expel.) I adopted a thick lube and not liking Vaseline I settled on Crisco. (not what I use for 'journey' sessions when I'm looking forward to dry orgasms or a Super-O)

    I eventually made the move to Peridise and like it's feel during all phases of sex. Peridise needs less lube, an advantage.

    Welcome man and enjoy. Visit often and when you're ready to Super-O and enjoy the stuff you wife experiences, we can help.
  • RogerT
    Posts: 79
    Rock - Thanks for the welcome and great explanations and detailed advice. I'll let you all know how I make out with this going forward.
  • slimjm
    Posts: 497
    Likewise, congratulations on the hands free orgasm--and right out of the chute! Over the year it's taken me to rewire to where I could have prostate orgasms, I kept hoping I'd get at least once to experience a hands free ejaculation like that just to see what it feels like, but it's never happened. I suspect as you get more relaxed with using the Aneros, you'll not experience these so uncontrollably which actually will be a good thing as they could make it difficult to learn dry orgasm techniques.

    And just as learning to have dry orgasms has enhanced traditional sex with my wife, I feel sure it will for you too. Keep up the work and have fun as you do.
  • RogerT
    Posts: 79
    How many dry orgasms do you typically have when having sex and what's the time interval in between? I've never had one and I am dying to do so and learn more about how. Thanks so much.
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,604
    Nice work Roger T. !!
    Great makings of a Community Poll.

    Answer: Average two or three per session. Best was a chain of five or six spanning a minute or two. Focus is usually ano-rectal or Den Tien-abs depending on body position/posture. Nothing resembling heavy whole body waves or approach to a Super-O that I get when I'm solo.

    I'm wary of going HFO(wet) since I've done that several times -- which at my age and refractory is a session killer. Not good since it hands me a sense of failure and having cheated my wife. So my emphasis is far more conservative than when I'm solo.

    I do contract frequently though just to 'spike' my arousal when I'm heavily involved with my sig other.

    On the plus side, my ejaculatory orgasm lasts about 4 times as long as it did a year ago and I visualize it separately from the muscular action and discharge.

    So, while I've done some MMO, I'd not call it a rousing success yet and haven't yet been able to integrate it with my wife's orgasm. I'm not KSMO trained and think that's my best approach to lengthening my orgasm during sex and going MMO dry.

    I've not searched Community Polls to see if this has been asked before. I think the Forum would profit if you crafted a poll and posted it.
  • slimjm
    Posts: 497
    Like you, rook, I feel my wife's been cheated if the sauce gets spilled, but after a little over a year of this now and never coming close to a hands free wet orgasm, I guess that's something that's probably not going to happen. As to the dry O's in a session, RogerT, I'll get 3 to sometimes as many as 5 or so with a good session, but I hardly go beyond 30 minutes or so with sessions. With others, not much other than some fun pre-orgasmic building up feelings come, but none are complete duds.

    The fun with Aneros sessions and dry orgasms is having no refractory afterwards. When I was younger and she didn't want to be bothered and would say "just take care of it yourself", I'd masturbate (no porn or anything bad--just let off a little pressure) and I felt better. But now the refractory if I do that is a desire-killer and the Aneros has become just the thing for having a little fun when she doesn't want to plus ramping up the desire for next time she does get interested. Funny how when the girls aren't in the mood, they're just not in the mood...