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A surprise for him...
  • hiswifehiswife
    Posts: 4
    My husband is coming home from Iraq and we have 15 days together before he has to go back. I want to give him 14 nights that he will remember forever.

    I have told him to prepare for at least one night where I have a big surprise for him.

    I am planning on starting the night role playing that he has entered a spa for men to go and be pampered.

    Then I want to introduce the SGX to him and possibly blindfold him and then play the hypnosis CD while he experiences the SGX for the first time.

    Here are my concerns:

    1. I want this to be a special evening with both of us but was wondering if I should leave the room and allow him to just experience the CD and toy alone.
    2. Should I participate in touching the non-genital erogenous areas of his body?
    3. What can I do to make this a fun night for him?
    4. I understand that he may not have a prostate orgasm that night and that it may take time to train his body to do that. Any tips on how to make the experience rewarding anyway?
    5. Does this sound like a good idea or should I approach the experience differently?

    He usually leads in our sexplay and I usually am submitting to him. I really want to give him a wonderful experience like he usually gives me and this was the best idea (in my opinion) that I have come up with. It might be helpful to know that he has only had anal play once before and seemed open-minded to the experience.

    Any feedback or input would be really appreciated.
  • South7856South7856
    Posts: 46
    Hats off to him for his service to our Country....

    I think this can be a good thing depending on how comfotable he is with anal play around you...
    If he is comfortable with it i think it could be a great time for both of you.....

    but i think you are on the right track with the pampering....

    using the aneros requires some wat of a learning curve that can go on for months or if he is one of the lucky ones he'll have success the very first time(highly unlikely)....

    and wat man will be able to concentrate when he has his beautifull wife in the next room ready to go!!!!!!LOL

    you sound like a good woman....

    Good luck...

  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,492
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    Welcome to the Forum,

    WOW, what a wonderful “Welcome Home” fantasy that will be! I will give you my thoughts in regards to your concerns, though you may easily choose other options as there are no wrong answers in this regard.
    "1. I want this to be a special evening with both of us but was wondering if I should leave the room and allow him to just experience the CD and toy alone." Normally, I would recommend that he be allowed to listen and learn about the Aneros and his body while alone, but in this case you have an opportunity to become well versed in the important aspects of Aneros usage prior to his arrival and thus can offer valuable tips to accelerate the process. I invite you to read the Women too section of the WIKI
    "2. Should I participate in touching the non-genital erogenous areas of his body?" Yes, I think you can supply most, if not all, of the touching as suggested by 'Alana' in the “HypnAerosession” CD. Arousal is key to generating the orgasmic response.
    "3. What can I do to make this a fun night for him?" The idea that you are pampering him and guiding him in this experience is excellent in relieving him of any performance anxiety or expectation of any particular outcome. The blindfold idea is an excellent one as well, this will cut down on visual distractions and allow him to more easily tune into and focus on the subtle inner sensations the Aneros will generate.
    "4. I understand that he may not have a prostate orgasm that night and that it may take time to train his body to do that. Any tips on how to make the experience rewarding anyway?" While it is true that few men reach orgasm through their first few times with the Aneros, hopefully, he will be having enough good feelings being generated that by the time the first CD ends, he will be extremely aroused and the subsequent lovemaking session with you will be special.
    "5. Does this sound like a good idea or should I approach the experience differently?" I think you have devised a devilishly wonderful encounter for you and your husband. I would encourage you to read the many posts by member 'lynn2694', whose partner is also away in Iraq and is scheduled to return in the near future. You could easily share strategies through this site's Private Messaging capability.

    P.S. Did you know there is a unisex Aneros model too? You might be interested in checking out the Peridise model for yourself and reading what fellow member 'lynn2694' had to say about it.
  • TenmagnetTenmagnet
    Posts: 4
    My suggestion is that once he get the aneros in to tell him to just relax and then give him strip tease for 5 to 10 minutes followed by starting foreplay with loads of kissing. Slowly and extremely lightly scratch your fingernails around all areas of his body while making out but focus more on the armpits, sides of the rib cage, nipples, breasts, triceps, back of the knees, back of the elbows, back of the neck, inner thighs and collarbone. After about 25 mins of my girlfriend doing this general routine with a little bit of mixing it up everytime (feel free to do the same since you probably know his body the most out of anyone) I can hardly control myself from being too randy.
    While he might not be able to experience the seperation of orgasm and ejaculation along with prostate orgasm his first time, you can inform him that no matter what you can still ride him cowboy and give him a super traditional orgasm that will blow his mind.
  • Diesel2215Diesel2215
    Posts: 105
    Hi Hiswife and welcome to the Aneros family.

    Firstly I think you are a wonderful wife, and think it is amazing that you would do this for your man.
    IMHO seeing as you guys have such a short time together I would do what Tenmagnet said. Buy him an ipod with the “HypnAerosession” mp3 loaded on it, and send the SGX with him to Iraq. There he can practise a by himself.


  • darwindarwin
    Posts: 1,357
    i am going to give an unexpected response. i have no idea what it is like to be in the military, to be a military wife at home, or to come home for a visit like this, so please take my thoughts with a grain of salt.

    i worry that scripting anything during this visit might backfire. i think you should use communication, communication, communication to guide you. let him decide what is best, not us.

  • SerenitySerenity
    Posts: 13
    Hi hiswife,

    Your plan sounds great to me!

    I have only one suggestion. Unless you know for certain that he is not allergic to glycerin, have a glycerin-free lubricant ready. Having an "urge to purge" in the middle of such a wonderful welcome home would be quite a disappointment.

    I personally have this allergy (as well as others on this board).
    Lubricants that I have had success with are:
    1. 100% Shea butter (pure, unrefined) available in most health food stores
    2. Probe Thick-n-Rich
    3. Maximus

    Give the hubby our best and have a great time together!
  • hiswifehiswife
    Posts: 4
    Thank you so much for your input! It has been really valuable!
  • GrandTigerGrandTiger
    Posts: 325
    Darwin has a good point. Men can separate sex and love, and though your husband may be starving for sex, I'm sure that what he desperately longs for is simply to be with you and to be one with you. May God bless you both with a wonderful intimate time together.
  • hiswifehiswife
    Posts: 4
    Thank you so much, there will be no doubt that there will be a great deal of communication and great sex and reconnecting going on. We have a real sexual connection and have had one for 17 years. We have a list of about 20 different things we are going to do to connect and have fun.

    I am just usually on the receiving end of an adventure and I want to give him one of his own. He is usually trying to push me past my limits and into new things to love and enjoy and I want to give him something like that in return.

    I don't have time to send him the CD or Aneros before he arrives, he comes home in 2 weeks and he wouldn't get a package in time.

    He lives 90 km from civilization in Iraq in a little makeshift hut/tent thing and has no running water and extremely little privacy. Uses a portajohn, takes bucket showers, and eats 3 MREs a day for meals. The only luxuries are the ones I ship into him and they take over a month to arrive. He lives with Iraqi troops with 7 other US soldiers and is very isolated.

    I have 15 days to pamper him and give him 6 months worth of amazing memories to look back on and I really want to do that.
  • hiswifehiswife
    Posts: 4
    He is 5'6... should I get the SGX, the peridise, or both?
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,488
    Hi hiswife and welcome to this unique expanding adventure for couples!

    To offer a suggestion to your current question, both would be appropriate, because they each operate on different principles.

    The Peridise is unisex and operates by setting up rhythmic pulsations in the anal/rectal tubular wall muscles, rather than focusing on the male prostate gland as the SGX and all the other Aneros models do. The Peridise is available in sets of two in either the slightly larger Beginners or the smaller Advanced pair. Either set, as you may choose, would let you try these together as well as solo. :wink:

    Given his height, the SGX could well be the best introductory model for him. Each male's anatomy is a little different, and it takes time, even for those with anal play experience to relax enough and get accustomed to the feel of the prostate focused aneros, and the actual prostate feel for the presence, contact and subtle movements of the aneros.

    all the best you wonderful woman 8) to you both

  • pifpif
    Posts: 30
    So???? How did it go??!! We want to know!! LOL
  • InverseInverse
    Posts: 36
    Yikes, I'm a two time Iraq vet myself. This could go good or bad... honestly, Iraq can change people, even if they weren't in combat. I hope this didn't blow up in her face. But it's all too possible that it did. I'm a pretty kinky spouse with my wife, we're very open... but if I wasn't at that level with her, or if I've never done any kind of anal play with her before... something like the Aneros would be kind of a shocker.

    From the description of his situation, he was on an MRX, probably training iraqi troops. They can get pretty isolated. No big cushy fob to live in. Possible attacks. Basically a squad and a bunch of foreign troops and not much else to save you.

    I hope it all went well, she really seemed focused on making him happy. Let's hope no matter if he was for or against it, that he saw the purpose behind it. That's what counts.