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Took time off - now I seem to have lost it
  • thhn
    Posts: 425
    I have had my aneros (several models) for about one year. I have made slow and steady progress but at one point about two months ago, I seemed to go through a stretch where I made tremendous progress. Almost like a giant leap forward after months of baby steps. I don't know just what to attribute that to, but none the less I was very pleased. I felt like I was right on the edge of a super O
    I had to do some traveling and could not bring the aneros along. For the better part of a month I didn't get in a session. The last couple weeks I have had a few sessions but not at the frequency that I was before my travel time.
    I am dissapointed to say my sessions have pretty much been duds. Not completly, but for sure a step or two in the wrong direction.
    Do you think I lost my mojo by taking all that time off? Would you recommed that I try to get back on a routine of having at least two or three sessions a week. I have had probably only one session a week recently
    I'm really bummed out right now and want to get back on track
  • GrandTiger
    Posts: 325
    Hello Thhn, I doubt that having a three or four week break would set you back. In fact I think a break now and then gives our brains time to reconfigure. I'd like to bet you are just at a low point in your lunar cycle right now, and you are probably tired after traveling. Rest another two or three days and then I bet you'll be right back on track. You may even discover you are enjoying it even more than prior to your break. Then if workload permits try to get back to two or three sessions per week.

    Best wishes,

    GT
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,265
    thhn,

    IMHO, it sounds like you are starting to ‘press’ the issue and may be falling into a performance anxiety mindset. I have gone through spells of markedly low response myself (dud sessions) and I have read about others ‘dry spells’ as well. I think it is just part of our human variability. You already know what your body is capable of achieving through your past nurturing, perhaps it is time to re-establish the nurturing mindset and sense of adventurous exploring that got you there before. I don’t think you “…lost your mojo…” you’ve just let it get buried under the ‘stuff’ we all encounter in life. I’ll bet it returns as soon as you stop expecting it to be there.
  • PromassPromass
    Posts: 84
    Also i want to mention what i do when i cannot use the aneros for some time such as travel company spending the night or illness etc... I have dry aneros free sessions yes aneros free sessions. I just relax as if i were having a session can be done at night before bed but in the bed. What you do is basically prep your mind like you are having a session and in no time your perineum begins to take over and the waves just expand from there. I have had very good success with this method no super o but i get mini o's and tons of p-waves its almost as good as if not better than some aneros sessions.

    These dry sessions tend to hold me over quite well until i can get a grip on the real thing :lol: I wish you the best and have a super o for me man i am not there yet and i hope we both get there eventually. Mean time don't allow frustration to get you down its not worth it. I have been there and i really do think men have cycles i have been keeping a calendar of my sessions and i have noticed the last week of february and the first week of march i was on fire really good sessions and hard ons almost all day at work. Now i am not as motivated and feel more content to skip a session 2 weeks back i could not hold my self from having multiple sessions a day and multiple orgasms a day too weird huh?

    Well sorry to ramble hope you get back on track.
  • thhn
    Posts: 425
    thanks for the encouragement guys. I had a session yesterday that was much better than the last few, so I haven't given up hope.
    As far as a sesssion with no aneros goes.... I can often do that within a day or two after I have had a session. After that, it becomes much more difficult for me to generate any feelings. Perhaps with more experience, this will change. When I was going though a spell where I was having these great sessions, I was able to have great sessions with no aneros at will. I hope these feelings will return.
    Would that not be the ultimate goal of using the aneros is to train the body and mind so that you can generate these feelings any time-any place. Is the aneros just training wheels for this?
  • plantation
    Posts: 253
    who definitely wants to answer has this question has thhn :!:
  • helixbill
    Posts: 148
    Sounds like you need to retrain yourself to just "enjoy the journey" and concentrate on letting your body tell your mind what to do.

    As soon as I start 'trying' I am off track.

    Try a session or two without and expectations of any kind of orgasm and just enjoy the feelings.

    BTW, when I am having an Aneros-free session I sometimes apply a little pressure to my perineum with my fingertip at the same time as I inhale and tighten my anus muscles. I have had some really good sessions sitting in my chair that way.