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  • View Poll Results: How many others know about your aneros use? Edit Voters: 467

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    No one 71 15.20%

    My spouse 40 8.57%

    A friend 14 3.00%

    A relative 2 0.43%

    Other (explain) 0 0%

    More than two people 2 0.43%

    3 - 5 people 9 1.93%

    5 - 10 people 3 0.64%

    10+ 2 0.43%

  • Edit
    Posts: 0
    Some have said they wish they could tell others about this product. Does anyone else know about your aneros use? If so, how many?
  • BusterBuster
    Posts: 953
    Do you guys count?

    Just kidding. This has helped me in so many ways (sorry Hitachi) that I would love to spread the word. But alas, my upbringing. You just dont talk about this kind of stuff. My answer was nobody.

    Good poll ohmy06.

    Buster
  • I have a lady friend that I converse with online on a regular basis. We started out as cybersex partners but over the last few months we mostly chat about everyday things.

    At one point I mentioned I had purchased an Aneros but her reaction wasn't what I expected. We plan to meet, and she feels a little insecure that I will prefer this to having sex with her. I tried to explain its purpose but she seems to have an aversion to "toys". I'm hoping she gets over it because I'd like to experience sex while using one.
  • gravel
    Posts: 53
    I told my best friend back when I first got it, but I hadn't gotten very far at that point. She seemed intrigued by the whole idea, but we haven't spoken about it since. I'll probably tell her about my successes with it at some point. She's just a friend, not my girlfriend, but we're still pretty open with each other when it comes to discussing sex.
  • Billdo
    Posts: 25
    Wife. Use it with her.

    Close friend, figured he'd want to know.

    My brothers, and one of their partners.

    Told my dad, since he has some prostate trouble, and next time I was on the phone with my mom, she brought it up and asked if I really thought it would help. I said I thought it would, and she should just let him use it during their lovemaking.

    We have a pretty open family. :lol:
  • Edit
    Posts: 0
    I often wonder, how does one bridge the subject? I mean I have a friend that I think could benefit but there's always the thought that they'll think it's a bit odd. The health benefits have been great for me - but the fringe benefits have been even better!! :D
  • gravel
    Posts: 53
    I'd direct them to the High Island health site for Pro-State massagers. It's the exact sam product as the aneros, but is presented in a far more medical than sexual context. I think people are more likely to take the product seriously in that way.
  • Enemagra
    Posts: 104
    ive accidently left both my mgx and helix sitting on the bathroom counter, post-session after cleaning it, definately seen by others. however, at the time i was living with females so hopefully, if indeed they did think it was a sex device, theyd assume it belonged to a female.
  • I have not yet bought anything, but my girlfriend and a couple of friends they know my intention to have one someday. I have asked them (the couple) to send me a CD with instructions about prostate massage i have found in a site in internet, as some sites with e-shops they don't deliver to Greece.
  • tnkyln
    Posts: 22
    No One
  • I told my wife about the aneros and prostate concerns and when I received it, after trying it out alone, I showed her the tool and how it was used. She was interested but from a distance. :)
  • OH!!
    Posts: 260
    Yep, no one knows. I'd probably be embarrased to try and explain. I may try and break it to my wife someday. She probably wouldn't care or would be glad I am helping my prostate, but might not understand all the time I like to dedicate to it. I concentrate a lot when I am using the Aneros. Seems a partner would be very distracting unless she was doing something similar at the same time. That would make it more Tantric I suppose, but is an idea.
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    No one knows at this point. But the more success I begin to have with it, the more it is hard to contain my joy and confidence in who I am as a person. So perhaps someday I might talk to a friend about it.
  • Told my girlfriend.
    She was completely supportive of using it as she encourages sexual exploration.
  • My wife knows and is very happy that i want to do more with my exploration. She has always had her toys and now i have mine.

    handlebar
  • Yes, my wife knows. With some minor prostate problems, I mentioned the device and its use to her; as a result, she encouraged me to get an Aneros.
    The benefits are tangible, and my Urologist tells me that whatever I'm doing (he doesn't know) it's working!
  • gm501
    Posts: 87
    kagey01 said:

    Yes, my wife knows. With some minor prostate problems, I mentioned the device and its use to her; as a result, she encouraged me to get an Aneros.
    The benefits are tangible, and my Urologist tells me that whatever I'm doing (he doesn't know) it's working!


    So I'm curious, kagey, what prostate problems you think have been helped by the Aneros.
  • gm501 said:

    kagey01 said:

    Yes, my wife knows. With some minor prostate problems, I mentioned the device and its use to her; as a result, she encouraged me to get an Aneros.
    The benefits are tangible, and my Urologist tells me that whatever I'm doing (he doesn't know) it's working!


    So I'm curious, kagey, what prostate problems you think have been helped by the Aneros.



    ----------------
    gm501, good question. Actually, I'm glad that you used the word "think" in your question. It made me re-consider my reasons for thinking about the Aneros role in this.

    Some time ago, I was put on medication for a "mild" case of BPH. However, the medication did not do a full job and some swelling still was present. The next step was too be either increase the meds I was already on or additional meds. I did not like either option and the choice was to leave things as they were for another period of time and watch (wait and see)

    There was the purchase of the Aneros in the meantime.

    My last visit to the doctor indicated that there was no swelling involved this time around. I told him I had tried some prostate massage (I offered no other details) which, from what I've read, can help.

    That is why I think that the difference is attributable to the Aneros.

    Could other circumstances have caused this positive change? Yes indeed! The change could simply be spontaneous or the medication could be doing its job (although, I'm not convinced about the medication "suddenly" doing it's job and clearing the swelling completely)
    While keeping the door open for any reasonable explanation, the only real change was use of the Aneros; therefore, that's why I think that it has been a benefit, as well as a pleasure, to use.

    This my personal experience and, as with most things in life, Your Mileage May Vary.
    But please, don't take this as medical advice :!:
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,487
    OK, I'm the blabbermouth with 5 - 10 knowing, which I voted some time ago.

    In addition to my dear wife, and my friend who was my male "gay explorer" in my youth, I am assisting a male to female transsexual through some medical bureaucracy and encouraged she and her male friend to take a look at the Aneros site and possibilities.

    I also list Aneros/HIH as my current treatment for the BPH on my printed medical history and medications summary sheet that all my doctors and any new specialists get. My urologist hasn't seen it yet kagey01. I haven't needed to see him since I started using my Aneros for BPH therapy almost two years ago!!! :lol: My cardiologist is cool with the Aneros and also approved the use of e-stim, which I wanted from him before I tried our Slightest Touch (this is NOT medical advice to anyone here - consult your own physicians!). So maybe I'm helping to bring the medical community here on board the Aneros voyage!

    Butt, Buster and I and others have had discussions in threads and chats here (and also at KSMO) about how to get this wonderful knowledge more widely accessible to males, and males' partners, out there in the media and interpersonal mainstream. Any ideas?

    all the best to all

    artform
  • artform,
    I haven't got any ideas for you at this point in time; however, should anything in the way of a good idea comes up, I'll pass it on.

    The reason I have not passed on the info to my urologist is, and I'm not taking any kind of shot at him, is because he lives in a very narrow corridor of thought. If he didn't learn about it in med school then it's not part of the plan. Other than that, he's a good doctor; he's just too old and set in his ways to change now. That's the way things are with my urologist and I'm OK with that.

    I think, as time passes, more and more men will hear from friends or find for themselves, through various ads, that there is a new world (of pleasure ...and possibly other benefits) to discover. With some, of course, it will take longer because they will have to get past the idea that it is somehow taboo.

    I regard this as a quality and pleasurable time ...time for me ...alone.

    In the encyclopedia, if there was a section on "Conservative Straight Guys" there would be a picture of me; therefore, regardless of a man's orientation, this is a not-to-be-missed opportunity to feel good.

    Men should not let some unfounded thought or belief stop them from expanding the limits of their pleasure. Some men I have met think that everything that makes you feel good is inherently wrong; however ...feeling good is not a bad thing. (To those who disagree, go flog yourself and give up ice cream) There are enough things out there that can leave a man feeling emotionally and physically drained, here is a practice that can put some of the positive and the pleasure back into the mix.

    Regards
    kagey01
  • BusterBuster
    Posts: 953
    You know what? I really think that if some guy from my outside world (brother, friend) was looking through a magazine or came across the Aneros somewhere and asked me about it, I am pretty darn sure that I would step right up to the plate. I just don't think that I would be the one to bring it up.

    Things could change though.
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,487
    Thanks kagey01!

    Right on Buster! That's the least we each could do, and it could spread with increasing rapidity statistically speaking...

    I haven't seen any magazines with Aneros ads yet. Who knows of any carrying such? Support, could you provide a list of any HIH or Aneros print advertising?

    continued curiosity all

    artform
  • insert
    Posts: 4
    I was wearing it secretly. My wife found it in me. She knew about it before I knew she had known, and she didn't say anything. After I was confronted I explained how good it is. Now I use it at my discretion. She is a little grossed out, but she it getting used to it. I will not tell anyone else about it. It is my own little secret. I, at least, have mastered its use. My favorite way to get going is a nice bumpy car ride.
  • Dakota
    Posts: 1
    lol.

    I had finished a session at my dad's house (home for a visit), and I had showered, and cleaned it, along with a Fleshlight I had. (My dad knows what a Fleshlight is, and has one too). But I forgot about the aneros prostate massager! I left it in the shower on a hook, and he came in the room holding it and asked what it was used for. I told him what it was used for, and wrote down the webite on a post-it. :) It wasn't a big deal, and he seemed to have no opinion about it.

    Dak
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    You know, this is an interesting topic to re-visit for me since I last posted. At this point my ex-girlfriend knows. As she participated with me using them. I guess I must have changed over time. Because I find myself more open to sharing that I use these Aneros prostrate massager's with trusted friends.

    Love_is
  • My wife knows even though i am trying to get used to it she thinks it is different for me to want to do this .
  • rickg
    Posts: 94
    Wife knows, and enjoys putting it in. She likes to see it get sucked in. LOL
  • A mate who is gay suggested I try using an Aneros because of bouts of prostatitus.
    And all I can say is I am glad he did because it works.
  • I lost a testicle to cancer about 15 years ago. About 3 or 4 years ago I had signs of BPH. My urologist\surgeon started massage. I found the Aneros as a result. He knows, my wife knows, and a good friend with BPH also knows. I told him as a friend hoping to help him out.
  • Vinestal
    Posts: 48
    no one. I married the biggest prude on the face of the earth. If she found out she'd probably go verbaly abusive *sigh* We couldn't be a worse match sexually, always thought sex was suppose to get better not worse in a marriage. She pretty much ignores me sexually and complains that I masturbate, its a terrible situation really. M daughter is the most important person in the world to me though and I could never be a single parent, at least I don't think it would be good for her if I tried.
  • I feel that way too.
  • [QUOTE=gravel;66179]I'd direct them to the High Island health site for Pro-State massagers. It's the exact sam product as the aneros, but is presented in a far more medical than sexual context. I think people are more likely to take the product seriously in that way.

    I agree. For me, if I mentioned to others, it would have to be via the medial aspect. I couldn't push the other aspect of it......"takes playing with yourself to a new level" sort of thing. who would take you seriously?
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,604
    Three to five category. Four others.

    First it was just my wife. We were expanding our toybox and bought the Helix to compliment her new g-spot toys. Started out as a foreplay tool for me and she's been OK with that since first insertion. She is adverse to being penetrated anally and set that boundary before we were married--blamed an abusive event in her teens. (I've learned to not push that boundary-- immediate turn off).

    She's not interested in pegging me but occasionally will jokingly play with the Aneros handle. Has also assisted in a couple of bondage games that involved the Helix.

    Job-ONE:
    Maintain a solid communication and loving+sensual support of our marriage to ensure her that, although I do experience bi-curious thoughts, I'm in an avowed monogamous relationship with her. Generally, she would prefer to be in denial about my shift from militant homo-phob to a bi-curious straight; however, she stands by my Aneros use.

    When I got serious about my 'journey' I shared my use with my Urologist. He was familiar with the Aneros/HIH product line and noted it in my patient chart. This year we'll expand the conversation and find out how my bhp'd prostate feels to him after a year of TLC by dame Aneros. Will ask how common Aneros use is among his patient load.

    When I had issues with glycerin I made individual approaches to two buddies, who are gay, for suggestions about anal lubes and anal health. (first asking permission to discuss the subject.) Both granted me permission to ask and were very open with their opinions. Surprise -- both denied knowledge of the Aneros.

    One of these gents seemed interested in trying an MGX and he may now be active in this Forum. We both value our anonymous entities and have never shared handles even though we exchange thoughts on the mechanics of anal play. We seem to avoid addressing the emotions of male-male sexual interaction though and we are OK with that boundary. I think I get far more from these communications than does he.
  • My wife knows and she is happy for me. She said, I have that many toys; nice that you found something that suits you!
  • The more people who know about this, the better.

    If you're married, you have GOT to use the Helix during sex. Getting oral with this thing inside is just amazing.
  • My wife is the only one who knows now. She is very happy that I am enjoying it and exploring my sexuality.

    After experiencing several Super Orgasms last week, I feel like telling all of my male friends. That may come later.

    I did have time the day after my first Super-O experiences to tell my wife about the experience. It was the other night, while laying in bed with my wife. I began to have p-waves, mini-o's, and dry o's. While that was going on, I talked with my wife about the Super-O experience. She was very interested. The fun part was that while we were laying there chatting, I was having mini-o's and dry-o's. I would have to pause occasionally to let the orgasm to subside and then continue chatting. We finished the conversation, and my orgasms got stronger. The whole time I was holding my wife's hand. Then I had a really nice, medium strong Super-O. It was the first one she has seen me have. It was a very sensual and intimate moment. I did tell her that that Super-O was about one fourth as strong as the ones I had the days before. A short while later, she and I had a great session of sex. Ending in me having three traditional orgasms during intercourse. Incredible.

    All of this is to say...tell your partner, guys. It takes the journey on a beautiful path!
  • Turnrow
    Posts: 123
    Brianadams

    Three traditional orgasms? Is this the norm for you or do you attribute the three traditional orgasms to the benefits of your aneros experiences?

    And, please give us your age. I had three tradtional orgasms per day (not all in one session) on my honeymoon almost forty years ago. But what you describe is super human. Tell us more.
  • Three traditional penile orgasms, not ejaculations, during one session of intercourse after some non-Aneros Super O's. They came in pretty quick succession, within about a minute. I'm not superhuman, but I DO attribute this new skill to my prostate awakening with the Aneros. I'm 53.
  • This thread is so interesting admitidly I have a funny story for the first person who knew lol was actually my mum I live at uni and didnt want her to know tbh , I got a phone call when I was at uni and she was like do you know about this package someone must have sent it as a joke as i sent it to the wrong address lol had the syringe and lube and everything must have been a major shock tho she is a nurse, she then thought i was gay I admitted it was me that brought it tho as i dont like keeping stuff to myself I just mentioned th health benifits. she then called me up about 30 mins later and said it was cool that I owned one. I have told a few people at uni just a few guys I get on with i couldnt help tell them the funny story and I told a close guy m8 and a close girl m8 who where cool with it :) guys shouldnt be too scared to share with woman they can be pritty cool with this stuff i mean one of my ova girl m8s even knows about my fleshlight, I voted 3-5
  • just gf but i would like to tell the whole world like every toy we buy, but with the way i scream maybe the whole world knows so many men are so homophobic or afraid of anal play and so taboo if they only knew what they are missing out on.
  • o well we cant point n laugh at those peeps and be like we get more pleasure than you :)
  • Simmo
    Posts: 9
    Well i have just ordered my first Aneros (Helix) and ill be telling my step dad as he's a GP and he has had some major prostate problems (an operation to help him) I think ill be showing him the HIH site and when he is comfortable with the concept ill go in for the kill with the sexual benefits (aneros website). What a fabulous product where the initial aim can be health and oh what wonderful extras that comes with it.
  • I told a female friend and she was rather incredulous so I emphasized the medical benefits and left it at that.
    We are long time friends so I felt as if I could rely on her discretion but it is not that vital to me. I do plan to keep my participation in aneros private from now on.
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,604
    The, "10+" group is now one rather than zero. Butt I'm locked out from making a change.

    Perhaps this post is more about "spreading the word" rather than "who knows."

    A week ago, I left the vibe capsule from my Vice lying on my nightstand as a reminder to change the battery. Since it's rather innocuous and was lying alongside a stainless steel pen and pencil, I figured that no one would recognize what it was.

    Youngest son dropped by last weekend and he asked to use the phone in our bedroom for quiet during a conference call.

    Last night he and I were in a Skype chat regarding a mundane business matter when he asked, "was that steel cylinder on your nightstand what I think it was ? I own one just like it."

    Looks like 'itchy-prostate' is an inherited quality. :D
  • l¤ve h¤le
    Posts: 55
    All I can say, is I've told 20 odd thousand people now.
    But in all honesty, 0.
    My new g/f is from Texas & she's a bit of a God botherer.
    So no way am I gonna upset the applecart at
    this minute.
    In fact one of my bro's came over my joint a few days ago and he saw my Aneros on the shower curtain rail.
    He asked 'What's this thing here our kid ?'
    Oh my god I struggled with that.
    All of a sudden, a bolt from the blue hit me.
    My girl friends new toy l've just bought her, came my reply.'
    Luckily he'd just seen her the night before, so he did'nt think I was making her up to impress him.
    Then he hit me with a 'BOMBSHELL'
    'If she's having a dilldo that size, that does'nt look too good on you.'
    Shit, I thought.
    Quick as a flash I said 'it's one of her butt plugs.
    By the way, my new gf is very religous, so I'm not expecting any 'hows ya father? ' till we've been wed for about 70 yrs.
    If he had got to know, my name address, everything would have been doing about 30 tours of the internet after about 10 seconds.
    Brotherly love, hey?
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,487
    HI rook!! :D :D
    [QUOTE=rook;97918]The, "10+" group is now one rather than zero. Butt I'm locked out from making a change.

    Perhaps this post is more about "spreading the word" rather than "who knows."

    A week ago, I left the vibe capsule from my Vice lying on my nightstand as a reminder to change the battery. Since it's rather innocuous and was lying alongside a stainless steel pen and pencil, I figured that no one would recognize what it was.

    Youngest son dropped by last weekend and he asked to use the phone in our bedroom for quiet during a conference call.

    Last night he and I were in a Skype chat regarding a mundane business matter when he asked, "was that steel cylinder on your nightstand what I think it was ? I own one just like it."

    Looks like 'itchy-prostate' is an inherited quality. :D

    Great family tale rook!! Make that 2 in "10+"! As some ancient post above asserts, "I'm the blabbermouth in the "5-10' category." And I am well past that now too. More communicating this great story soon! :D

    artform
  • ten_s_nutten_s_nut
    Posts: 818
    Hello, ohmy.

    Good poll. I answered "Spouse" plus 3 - 5, who are my brothers and brother-in-law. If a friend were to mention he has a prostate problem, I'd clue him in, too.

    Cheers,

    Dave
  • MindTravels
    Posts: 79
    3-5.

    My ex girlfriend found out early on and was quite open to it, although not actively participant in my Aneros use.

    I told a close friend and actually left the massager with him for a period of months, but he didn't use it. He has a pretty modern approach to sexuality but he also has a girlfriend so he never felt a need to try it.

    Once when I was pretty tired, I brought up the subject of prostate massage/sticking things up your butt to my close friend group of 3 or 4 people. They were all uncomfortable with it and have poked fun at me for it afterwards, but I've never broached the subject with any of them personally.
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,487
    "Blabbermouth" reporting in again!!

    As an incentive, maybe we need to add a 50+ category in this poll! :D

    I am at 70+ now and spreading fast!! :D :D

    Here is my post today in the "Ideas for Spreading the Word" thread in the General Discussion Forum:

    artform said:

    So, I'm just doing it!!

    Attended a public science event focused on de-pathologizing LGBTTQ (lesbian–gay–bisexual–transgendered–two-spirited–queer) sexuality and orientations, wearing my first Aneros t-shirt with the Helix in white on the front and "Have Courage" with "MaleGspot.com" on the back. There were about 60 people there, men and women about equally.

    Had great conversations with quite a few. Gave the "aneros.com" address to many verbally, with the brief explanation of what's it's all about. Good humour about it and a good reception. Was amazed that no one said: "Oh yah! I know about that!" Not one. Sitting next to me was a friendly psychotherapist from another city and we had quite a detailed conversation. He made notes, including the links. May then advise clients...

    ...just doing it...

    artform



    It feels SO GOOD to be able to just talk and share with people in appropriate settings!! :D

    artform
  • ten_s_nutten_s_nut
    Posts: 818
    art;

    It's great that you've had opportunities to tell people about Aneros. Most of us who work in commerce, services or industry don't have any appropriate venue to discuss a topic like this. Too many men carry too much baggage about sex, which makes broaching the subject very risky, especially among colleagues, co-workers and casual acquaintances. Consequently, the burden of spreading the word has to be taken up by the manufacturer. Advertising and public relations efforts to put the subject and the products into the mainstream will pay off in sales and in public awareness. At some point, the general exposure levels of the subjects, prostate massage and anal sexual pleasure will become high enough to make it easier for users to discuss these matters more openly.

    Best Regards,

    Dave
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,487
    Hi ten_s_nut!! :D :D

    Sorry if I seemed to be pushing people hard with the post above. Not my intention. I understand that chances to "share in appropriate settings", as I said above, can be rare for all of us. Yet I think our sharing whenever possible is what will build the phenomenon and this community along with the growing membership from interested internet browsing. All the best all!!!

    trusting our intuition as with this practice we quietly share this possibility wherever appropriate all

    artform