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  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
    Posts: 242
    So I talked to my girlfriend about prostate massage yesterday. She initially was pretty hesitant about it, but after I explained how I was having difficulty peeing (completely true) and that prostate massagers help relieve symptoms of bph, and showed her the HIH website, she agreed. I explained that the only other options were to get a prescription medication (expensive, and side effects), or having a doctor stick a finger up my butt (also expensive, awkward).

    This is when she really shocked me... She offered to massage my prostate for me once we get married! I was so shocked. I had to contain my excitement. I was like " You wouldn't be grossed out by that?", to which she freaking replies "You could spread your cheeks and poop in my hands and I'd still love you". That actually grossed me out pretty hardcore, but it oddly meant a lot to me that she was saying in effect that there's no part of me she would be grossed out by. (Of course that would never ever happen!)

    I'm pretty sure I picked the right girl:) Hooray for awesome girlfriends!
  • ineverknewineverknew
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    @MMO_RPGlol, Congratulations!  Sounds like you've got a winner for a girlfriend for sure!
  • newguy8762
    Posts: 198
    Congrats! Marry that one. My wife loves to give me prostate massages. It's as good as Anerosing.

    Be sure to return the favor to her. Many gals love a well-lubed finger in their backside while you're also fingering or licking the front (old bar joke: Liquor in the front, poker in the back).

    I've also had some great intercourse while doing it doggy style (penis in vagina) and inserting a couple well lubed fingers in my wife's anus. You can actually feel the top of your penis through her rectal wall this way, which is very erotic and fun.

    Be sure to prepare her beforehand so she can do some advanced prep and be good and clean, just like I'm sure you'll want to do when she probes you.

    Enjoy!
  • ctusserctusser
    Posts: 95
    Just curious, are you abstaining from sex until marriage?
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
    Posts: 242
    @ctusser
    Yeah I am. No hand jobs/oral/anal either. Also, no masturbating. Its pretty rough. Its fine though:)
  • newguy8762
    Posts: 198
    MMO-RPGlol (that is a really hard handle to remember...fortunately, I can see it from this post window),
    I think what you're doing is awesome! It reminds me of my engagement period...even though my wife and I had both been sexually active as teens prior to meeting each other, when we met and got engaged we had totally abstained  from any sex with each other and on our wedding night, christened the marriage by having incredible sex seven times. We were so horny, the first time we had sex we both had simultaneous orgasms (first and last in our entire 30 year marriage lol). It takes lots of self-control to do what you're doing but I can tell you, there are great rewards in store. 
  • ctusserctusser
    Posts: 95
    I think that's pretty cool, not very common these days.  If you can develop a deep love for someone without the distraction of sex at the beginning your chances of a lifelong bond will be greater.  No doubt you will both be good lovers as well, wish the best to you and your fiancĂ© 
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    @newguy8762 and @ctusser thanks!! That means a lot. It gets pretty difficult especially because we have been together for 2 years already And we still have quite a while until we can get married. (She is pretty young so her parents want her to finish college before we do). but I do absolutely agree that by skipping sex now and not relying on that to help us get by, we are really just getting closer as friends. I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that she is by FAR my best friend, and also honestly know I'm not just saying that because of anything physical we do for each other.:)

    Also, new guy: have you tried to have orgasms at the same time as her since then? that's suprizing to me that it is that difficult as to only happen once in 30 years of marriage.

    Its shocking to me because I have been cursed(well blessed really) with her orgasmic abilities. A list of her erogenous zones that I have accidentally found include but are not limited to her: neck, throat, shoulders, upper amd middle back, armpits, bicep and triceps area, elbows, forarms, Belly, hips, and desserts.

    As I said, this is just a list of places she can cum from that I found out about accidentally. by accidentally, I mean we were kissing and she just starts cumming because I was unknowingly rubbing any one of those Areas with my hands. I also included dessert because at least twice I have seen her start to eat a dessert and then slowly start moaning and panting louder and louder and making us get weird glances by other people in the restaurant.

    Now, is that normal? I really don't know. She was my only serious girlfriend, so I have nothing to compare it to! Does that ability go away for most women? I really like that she can do that, but just not right now! Lol

  • ctusserctusser
    Posts: 95
    No that is not common, she is gifted and you will be the beneficiary.
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    ;) I'm dating female @darwin
  • ineverknewineverknew
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    desserts?  At first I thought i read that wrong lol.  Wow, she is special!  Lucky Guy  :-bd
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    @ineverknew yeah we were in cheesecake factory eating a cheese cake, and she starts slowly giggling, and during a period of about 5 minutes it got louder and louder and turned into moaning and panting. I didn't realize what was happening and asked her if she was OK about a million times. I realized she was cumming when she start to rub whipped cream on my face and trying to make out with me right at our table. I later confirmed that she was infact Cummings. God I love her
  • newguy8762
    Posts: 198
    MMO-RPGlol:
    Was your Chyeesecake Factory date like this:
    When Harry Met Sally Fake Orgasm Scene  

    Classic line from the older lady: "I'll have what she's having".

    No, our wedding night is the one and only time in our lives we've ever had simultaneous orgasms from intercourse. I think we've cum at the same time while doing 69 (me performing oral sex on her while she gives me a BJ...very fun). Most of the time, I'll either bring her to orgasm by hand then mount up for my pumping action or I'll pump first and bring her by hand afterwards. This is probably pretty typical and I admire the guys with the staying power to not cum after 30-minutes of pumping. I'm lucky if I get in ten minutes of in and out thrusting before I blow. Most guys ejaculate in under four-minutes of pumping (this is a world-wide stat) according to the book, "Mind of It's Own: The Cultural History of the Penis" (fascinating book, by the way, on one of our favorite topics). Over 50% of women have problems achieving an orgasm from penile thrusting alone. So, most guys need to learn to be good with their hands and tongues. The penis doesn't hit the clit during sex, of course, and you have to grind your pubic bone against hers to really hit the clit with intercourse. Still, we have lots and lots of fun. 

    Sounds like your lady is highly orgasmic so you might send her into a quivering multi-gasm the minute you slip inside. I admire how you're doing things and think you really have something to look forward to on your wedding night. Nothing makes you hornier than delaying gratification. Abstaining can be highly sexy. Be sure to come back and post about all the honeymoon fireworks when you do get married. 
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    @newguy8762 haha not quite like that. But not that far from it either:)

    And I shall:) all the fireworks shall be posted!;)
    By the way, I learned a lot from your post! Thanks!
  • Badger
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    My wife and I have only had simultaneous orgasms once, early on in our marriage, about 26 years ago.  She has refused to have another since, because "she's already had one".
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    @Badger What does that even mean? 

    She cum before you or something? Or did she just not like it? Sorry, just a bit confused

  • Badger
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    Oh, she liked it, all right.  Liked it so well that she never wants to try it again.  Honestly.

    Any accomplishment that is a pinnacle of achievement, she never wants to try.  If she had a Super-O riding a motorcycle, she'd never want to ride a motorcycle and try to experience that wonderful sensation again, because she'd already experienced it.(!?!?!?!!!!)

     It makes no sense to me, either; if I experienced a Super-O riding a motorcycle, I'd be riding that damned thing all the time 'til I ran out of gas money or starved to death.

  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    @badger I sort of understand. When I was 15 I was playing this first person shooter video games, and I got a kill so amazing that I gently set my controller down and then turned of my Xbox, and then pulled the disk out and put a new one it and have never played it since. I did that because it was so good, anything else would be bad in comparason. I hope when my girlfriend and I get married, we can have a moment that good!:)
  • Badger
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    Me, I'm the kind of guy that experiences something amazing, and says, "Wow, that was awesome.  Let's do it again, right now!!!"  I enjoy and savor the moment, but I also want to see if I can repeat/better that experience.
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    @badger yeah I am the same way in most things too. I have a very addictive personalitty, so I struggle to control things like that. Fortunately, because I know its a problem, I can work on it. I have gotten a lot better:)
  • JMay
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    That's awesome, it's a lonely life in general.
    Just don't abuse that trust and do an enema before she goes anywhere down there, to avoid uncomfortable surprises.
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
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    Deffinitly. I dont think that she knnows that its gonna be a sexual think quite yet. But i know if i start getting into it and feeling good she will too! Sooooo excited!
  • JMay
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    :D