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Need help getting over this wall that I feel is so close in overcoming.
  • Hofdude
    Posts: 18
    So I took a break from masturbating for about two weeks because I've been busy, and was hoping to have an awesome aneros session yesterday. It was great at the beginning. I was feeling all the feelings I have felt before but was hoping to get a little further. Unfortunately, nothing has happened and I'm starting to feel like I'm at a wall.

    I use a helix and my sessions will always be as followed: shower, clean up, prepare. I put on some porn and just lie on my back. Usually in the first 2 minutes the helix feels firm in my anus and there's a lot of pressure everywhere in my prostrate. The minute I start playing with my nipples sometimes I get hard and the feelings ignite. Once my dick was throbbing with my heart beat for a good 5 min. 

    The problem happens after about 10-20 min. Everything just kinda slows down a bit. Keep in mind I'm watching porn this entire time which may or may not be a problem. I don't really know how to get aroused without it. In normal everyday life when I see someone I'm attracted to I get a hard on just thinking about it. But when I settle down with the aneros my mind wanders too quickly to sit on one image or fantasy, so the porn kinda helps keep me focus. It's a double-edged sword though because I start getting really excited, wanting to orgasm. During this time I'm contracting my muscles and I feel this push with the helix that makes me want more. The pleasure is awesome but it always stops at a limit when I keep pushing it in. It literally feels like a wall since I feel so close to an explosion of awesome feelings. Eventually about an hour after all of this the pleasure either stops or its just so unbearable that I need to pull it out and jerk off. 

    Basically I'm wondering if what I'm doing is right or maybe I need to adjust something to be more patient and focused. It sucks because sometimes I'll wonder if my model should be bigger or if because I'm on my back I get paranoid that maybe the handle is stuck on the bed and messing stuff up. Maybe I should just throw out the porn altogether, but then what should I do to get myself the same arousal from watching porn? Thanks for reading and I look forward to the suggestions. 
  • Porn can create a problem def and its actually hurting everything your doing. You say the pleasure is unbearable? That means your on your way! Let yourself go with it. You sound like your gonna cum hard but stop. Don't stop! Let it happen! I've had the pleasure disappear also before. I just had my first orgasm about a week ago. I'm telling you it will happen and when I did cum, it was so intense! It has taken me months to get to this point. When you do cum, it's gonna be intense but you'll love it.
  • JMay
    Posts: 113
    You have to focus on what YOU are feeling, not what porn actors appear to be feeling.
  • Hofdude
    Posts: 18
    Alright I'll keep going at it Johnspiker haha. 

    Do you guys think I should it cut porn off completely or just turn it off when those feelings start? It's tricky because then I have to take a break, bend over and pause it, then settle back into the mood. But then like if I'm in the mood and getting into the feelings, the porn sometimes suddenly switches to something that is distracting. It's so annoyingly tricky lol
  • MMO_RPGlolMMO_RPGlol
    Posts: 242
    Dude I would cut out porn all together. I get too distracted.
  • HellyesHellyes
    Posts: 25
    Hofdude - I know exactly what you are talking about.  I have been at this for two years now and just in the last few weeks I am able to produce reliable rocking results.  I believe there are two areas of focus for success:  muscle and mental, both of which are part of rewiring.  

    Mental is far more important but it does take some time to develop your body.  Anal and sphincter control take time and you may just be getting fatigued. Hence the slow down after 10min.  At that point you really need to clear your mind and find the fantasy which gets you going.  I recommend not looking at porn at this point.  Choose an image and create a fantasy.  Get into your best position and relax and focus.  My best position is on my back with my hands under my butt with legs out straight and crossed at the ankles.  I can then get good deep contractions and it gets going from there.  

    Porn at first is great for arousal but it becomes a distraction at some point during the session.
  • Clenchy
    Posts: 100
    As corny as it may sound, you have to turn your focus inwards. Be still and silent. Concentrate on the porno that's going on inside your own body. Observe it and want it completely. After a while you can get to a place where you're alone with your pleasure, everything else fades into the background. I can only get there when I have no distractions.

    Wanting to cum too much is also distracting. You have to understand that what you're going to get with the aneros isn't the same as cumming, so stop chasing it. What you get with the aneros is more about experiencing various states and levels of orgasm. You have to - for a time - throw away what you know about the traditional experience of orgasm and ejaculation and tune into the more nuanced version. Which is one of the hardest things about learning how to work with the aneros. The sensations are so familiar that there's a temptation to grab on to the session and take the lead, as if you know exactly where the path leads, but you really don't. The major landmarks look the same, but it's not the same country. Your efforts to control it with what you think you know only steer it in the wrong direction.

    With time and experience, your body and the aneros will show you which way to go, inch by inch along the path. You only discover more of the path when you accept the fact that you're lost and pay attention to where the guide wants to take you.

    I know it sounds abstract, but I've been banging my head against this wall for over 3 years and this is the only way I can explain it.
  • isvara
    Posts: 588
    @Clenchy, excellent and extremely helpful - hopeful
  • gdunn
    Posts: 7
    @clenchy. After having used aneros helix syn for about 6 months now.... i completely agree with you. I would like to add that so called Anerosless sessions have also helped me on the path to reach a super O.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 869
    @clenchy, great description of the path!
  • Hofdude
    Posts: 18
    Thanks a lot guys for the advice. Last night I shutoff everything and just tried being aroused from the inside and everything going on. There was a lot of interesting feelings and subtleties. After about an hour (which seemed like only 20 min), I decided to go to bed and jerked off as a small reward for patience and had a body shaking, toe curling Super-T. It was pretty amazing, especially since this was the greatest I've ever had without even looking at porn. I'll try to remain patient and keep the sessions pornless and relaxing. Next time I'll see if I can go without jerking off just to help disassociate penile orgasm with what I'm trying to go after with the aneros. Thanks for everything, everyone! 
  • twlltintwlltin
    Posts: 571
    Word to the wise: if you can avoid associating ejaculation with Aneros use whilst learning, all the better. You wouldn't want to get stuck with every Aneros session resulting in an ejaculation, would you? I'm sure you'd prefer your Aneros sessions result in multiple dry orgasms, rather than suddenly end with an ejaculation.
  • Hofdude
    Posts: 18
    @twlltin

    It's just the initial temptation I have to get over. I get horny as all hell when I use the aneros. But I will try to re-wire that out. I'm sure I'll be convinced once I have my first dry orgasm 
  • gdunn
    Posts: 7
    I just read the thread on Penis Not. I really recommend you to read it.