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  • TurnrowTurnrow
    Posts: 176

    A successful businessman posted that he had ditched the aneros for pleasure because having gotten rewired, he craved the aneros so much that he found himself stopping and inserting it several times a day as the pleasure was so appealing and built up in his body to such a level that he was horny to stop and insert and go at it again. 

     He stated that prostate buzzing and aftereffects from his sessions were so ongoing, that he was distracted in his business and his personal life.  The only way he got relief to squelch the fire raging in him, so to speak, was to masturbate which he did not want to do because of his wanting to save his orgasms for intimacy with his wife. 

    I may be wrong, but I dont ever think I have seen discussed how men on these forums who are rewired control and squelch the effects of the rewiring when those effects are not wanted.   I know there are accomplished professional men on this website who must have achieved some type of control over the effects of the rewiring, or else how could they continue in their profession. I know Ten-S-Nut is an accountant if I am correct.  Linghaman/Bigguy is some type of professional.  I am sure there are others.  And even if a rewired guy is not a professional, how do you rewired guys handle the addictiveness brought about by the super O and how do you put up with, control, and squelch the distractions in your work day when you really need to think about business matters in peace and devote time to your job/calling/profession.

    Can you pro's at this help this guy.  It seems so defeating with the advent of age and its effects on a mans body to ditch what most of you have called the thing that took you back decades in your sexual life.  Artform, Rook, BMayfield, Ten-S-Nut, and ANYBODY........Please respond to this thread and tell us how you manage the addictive nature of the aneros and the rewiring distractions in your life. 

    For myself, I have declared this the year of the super O but my profession mandates planning, strategizing, thinking , and attention to detail.  I cant embark down a road that will destroy my practice.

    Thanks, guys.  I am very interested in your responses for all guys who fall into these parameter of addictive feelings and distractions.

  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,209
    good topic turnrow.  I own my own small business which makes it very easy for me to fall prey to the calling of the aneros.  Obviously I have to control myself and not let it control me.  I have a wife and three young children, so no matter what, I have to keep myself under control to help provide for my family.  For me its pretty simple, I just dont use the aneros until my day is done.  I'm sure alot of people could fall into an addiction, and some people are just that type of personality that can become addicted to lots of things.  So I guess its about setting parameters and rules for yourself and just sticking to your guns.  If things start to slip, you have to re-evalute the situation and make changes, or if things get really bad seek professional help.  I guess the old saying, all things in moderation, comes to mind, and a good rule to live by.
  • TurnrowTurnrow
    Posts: 176

    Thanks ineverknew.

    Do you have buzzing of the prostate, chairgasms, etc. on days after your use of the aneros?  How do you handle those distractions if you do?

    Also, how do you handle the build up of sexual excitement caused by the rewiring and using the aneros?.  Sex? Masturbation? Put up with it?  Other?

    How often do you generally use the aneros per week?

    Thanks again.

  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,484

    I've responded to a number of these threads concerning the topic of potential addictive behaviors associated with Aneros use, threads such as Aneros Addictions, Aneros Dependency?, Aneros Hungry!, Preoccupation with Aneros, Hi. My Name is ... and I'm an Aneros-holic. or Chronic Masturbation, Sex&Porn Addiction & the Perid.

    It is fairly clear from the number of past posts here some members have identified their behavior as “addictive”, usually with a humorous or sarcastic tone. While most of these instances are probably not real addictions in the clinical psychological sense, some could be classified as OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) cases and still others would be more likely classified as a neurosis akin to fetishism. However, it is fairly clear Aneros use can also be classified as a behavioral or process addiction when the behavior impacts other portions of one's life in detrimental ways. Fortunately, for most of us who have gone through an addictive phase, you learn to integrate your usage in a life compatible manner with beneficial results. It is really beyond the function of this forum to provide psychiatric counseling for true clinical addictions.

    That being said, I agree with @ineverknew 'all things in moderation' will lead to balance in one's life. Awakening one's prostate is akin to ringing a bell, once done, you can't un-ring it and once you've awoken your own sensuality, you need to learn to take responsibility for managing these new found capabilities and THAT you can do.

    Ironically, some of the same qualities which aided your rewiring journey in the beginning also aid your management of the echo effects. Learning to focus your attention in the moment on your inner feelings and sensations for arousal and orgasmic development also works for focusing your attention in the moment on the task at hand outside of an Anerosession. This doesn't mean you are suppressing those energies circulating in your body, you are instead choosing to use that Chi energy to aid your focus. The quality of patience we develop to allow our Super-O's to occur can also be employed to allow those echo effects outside of Anerosessions to subside naturally, as they will. Ideally, you learn to accept and enjoy these spontaneous sensations as they occur in your daily life, simply smile as those pleasure waves roll through.
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  • TomasheenTomasheen
    Posts: 277
    Very interesting indeed. I find it difficult to resist the call of the Aneros. The recurring sensations during the day remind me of my need. I am fortunate though as I an retired and have so much time. I think too that like any other part of the body, the prostate can get tired and needs to have time off. I can recognise this when after insertion , little or nothing happens. Its time for a rest. I don't see it as an addiction. It's rather like having lots of sweets in the box . "I'll have one now and keep the rest for another time!"
  • TurnrowTurnrow
    Posts: 176

    Thanks Rumel and Tomasheen for your input.

    Rumel.  Your links to other threads are extremely helpful.  Thanks for being a great "reference librarian" on this website as well as a mainstay sage voice in this rewiring business.

    I would like to hear from others giving your present gloss to this afresh and anew, especially on any squelching techiques which have worked for you with rewiring distractions.

  • xtimedt69xtimedt69
    Posts: 700

    For what it is worth from a newcomer .... I think addiction may be too strong of a word. I think about it alot and it makes me sexually motivated. I look forward to it. It is much like being 16 with a willing girlfirned again. But I find that the vigor motivates me to be more enegetic in my work and relationships and in a better mood. I firmly believe that sexual energy moves men to be better in a lot of ways. When men get older and give up and lose it that is when they really get old.

    I for one am enjoying the anticipation energy and vigor, even though it is in the back of mind all the time.

  • braveneworldbraveneworld
    Posts: 1,100
    I do not get addicted to things normally but I did to aneros use. However it has leveled out now I am using my new progasm. It must satisfy me inside. Instead of using aneros for a minimum of 5 hours a day on average for the first year now I only use it once or twice a week.
    I dont work any more but I can sit there and have chairgasms without it affecting me.
    When I am concentrating now I feel nothing, but in the first year the aneros feelings were relentless so I understand your concern.
  • TurnrowTurnrow
    Posts: 176

    Thanks Guys for giving me hope. Braveneworld, your concentrating and feeling nothing is very comforting. Also, the effects of your progasm and your acclimation to chairgasms.

    Xtimedt69, I am in my mid sixties and daily in the gym so your post really encourages me as I would like to feel 16 again sexually.

    Other guys please respond here. This is positive information on aneros use.

  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,209
    turnrow,  yes i do have buzzing and chairgasms, the buzzing comes and goes on its own, lots of times when im driving, which i do alot of for work.  I usually just smile and enjoy it or focus on something else.  Its rarely been a big concern for me, nothing powerful enough to disturb my daily work.  There are times though when my prostate gets extremely horny, though this happens mostly cause im anticipating having a session and looking forward to it.  As far as control, i used to be a constant masturbator, im 39, so kinda young compared  to a few folks on here, but once i started with the aneros and things got going, ive actually lost my drive to masturbate so much, partly because i believe masturbating wastes some of your sexual energy that can be used thru the prostate.  I have dabbled in self chastity, and like xtimed said, being constantly horny, which chastity can do, seems to motivate me in other ways, good ways, like being more productive at work, and helping out my wife around the house.  I guess in essence what ive learned is, that holding off, waiting and having incredible orgasms when the time is right is way better then rubbing one off for a quick few second orgasm.
  • TurnrowTurnrow
    Posts: 176

    Thanks ineverknew

    So you have harnessed the rewiring as much as possible to make you more productive at home and at work.  Thats very good news for me and the successful businessman. 

    And evidently, even your chronic masturbation succumbed to the delights of the rewiring.  That is a big plus in the corner FOR the aneros. 

    How has the rewiring improved sex with your wife?  Everything in your life seems enhanced by your balancing the aneros, so I bet that is much better too.  Thanks again.

  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,209
    turnrow, as for sex with the wife, well, ah, ummmm. Its complicated.  We've been married for ten years, our sex life has taken a dive over the last few years, and not really sure why.  I've tried talking to her about it, but she seems reluctant.  Ive tried numerous things to spice it up, romance and such to no avail.  In fact the lack of sex with her is what has led me here.  I think she is married to her job! LOL  She leaves at 5:30am and gets home around 6 or 7pm.  After homework with the kids she is usually out like a light.  Besides all that we do have a great relationship and I'm very happy for the most part.  She is only 33 and not quite hit her sexual prime, so I'm kinda hoping that will kick in soon.  :) But yes, sexually the aneros has definately enlightened me and improved my whole lifes perspective, for sure!
  • TurnrowTurnrow
    Posts: 176

    So sorry to hear that your sex life with your wife has nosedived.  That is the pits.  I am a member of where mostly Christians discuss sex on their forums.

    Many on that website have refusing or low drive spouses.  They counsel one another and pray for one another for the awakening of the refusing/low drive spouse. 

    Would be good to see you there where others can support you.  You are awful awful young to have sex with your wife taken from your life.

    Blessings.  Hope to see you there.

  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,209
    Thanks turnrow.  I will check it out.  I am a man of faith, and have discussed this situation with a few friends, apparently I'm not the only one in this boat.  Its definately a struggle, but I can deal with it.  Aneros use doesnt hurt either LOL.  
  • TurnrowTurnrow
    Posts: 176

    I will look for you there, ineverknew.

    I am so glad you are able to talk to other guys about your hurt.  Guys understand refusal like women dont understand.  On that website there are threads about a shot across the bow.  They address men creating a time when they can talk to their wives and be vulnerable as to how refusing and no sex affects a man. Those meeting come with a plan of attack on goals for more sex and a timeline about when sex is going to happen.  Sex is a basic need for a man.  Like food and water.  You know that.

     I have a friend whose marriage bloomed after he wrote his wife a letter telling her how much he hurt for affection and intimacy with her.  It took two letters over the space of several months.  The wife also read THE CARE AND FEEDING OF HUSBANDS by Dr. Laura.  That is a great book and it says that all a man needs to be happy is to feed him and bed him.  We are simple animals.  She is so  so so right.

    I am glad you have the aneros to comfort you.  I am looking for more comfort for you in the form of feminine intimacy down where we guys need it.  Blessings. 

  • slimjmslimjm
    Posts: 576
    Intriguing case, Turnrow, and I'm sorry to get in on your thread late but had these thoughts.  In all, I think the chances of any one person trying the Aneros for the sexual and urologic health benefits it provides and ending up with some sort of profound change in their life or some sort of addiction problem would be incredibly small and most likely related to some other influence, and would suggest this for the following reasons.

    #1 Comparisons abound both physiologically and from individual experiences that a prostate orgasm, however produced, e.g. from a sweet wife's finger who's willing to go there or from a prostate massage device, is comparable to how a female feels orgasm and most women after they've enjoyed good sex don't turn into "addicts" constantly masturbating or whatever to keep producing the orgasms over and over.  In general, they feel satisfied until the next time they have sex.

    #2 From my own experience and from what I can tell that of most others, you can't just produce prostate orgasms any time you want as they are kind of elusive and after you have an enjoyable session with them it takes a few days before your body "wants" them again or will even build up the feelings associated with them when the Aneros is inserted.  How many times can most of us remember when we felt like we'd want to have a good relaxing session and we tried all the things that usually are conducive to the prostate orgasms coming when absolutely nothing happened?

    #3 It's interesting the guy in this case is experiencing insatiable masturbation desire as prostate orgasms only come with strict adherence to avoiding penile stimulation or touch.

    #4 The concept of addiction, such as addictions to alcohol or drugs, or even they tell me to porn where a hard core user has to view increasingly shocking or violent material to "get off" so to speak, doesn't seem to have any application to prostate massage from whatever means capable of producing prostate orgasms.  As the initial learning curve or "rewiring" process is ongoing and then finally complete, it takes less and less prostate touch and stimulation to produce the orgasms.

    #5 From a medical physiologic perspective, basically what's happening in prostate massage to produce orgasms is stimulation of the nerves that innervate the penis where they travel over the back of the prostate (and thus are very close to the front of the rectum) on their way up to the spinal cord. Stimulation at that location, after you go through the learning curve, produces an orgasm but since stimulation at the level of the penis is not involved the orgasm is uncoupled from the ejaculatory process and thus no ejaculation occurs and no refractory results.  In this regard there seems to be reasonable comparison to how as teens we guys first learned how to stimulate our penises to produce orgasm.  It was great fun and we enjoyed the discovery, but we didn't turn into addicts of some sort, jerking off multiple times a day year after year as we got older. When I discovered how to produce prostate orgasms, as most guys here would probably agree, it was the most fun discovery of something sexual about yourself since you were a teen and probably didn't involve any more than that discovery as a teen did, just the pure pleasure of finding out what your body could do.  If you get heavily into porn or into some other potentially addictive aspect of sex, then it seems to me it's that which is influencing and exacerbating the problem, not the simple pleasure of producing an orgasm at your internal G-spot.
  • TomasheenTomasheen
    Posts: 277
    This is a most revealing thread. I wonder if ones wife partner might feel unwanted if she was aware that Aneros was a substitute. "He gets more from that than he does from me"?
  • ltgltg
    Posts: 36
    Thanks for the comments from all on addiction relative to MMOs . I certainly was addicted to the pleasure of masturbation and really want to avoid that with MMOs . Thanks bravenworld for note that it stopped taking over and became routine aafter a while.

    Here's to hoping that the brain processes involved in dry MMO s are less likely addictive than porn and masturbation!

    Turnrow, I just had prostate buzzing today in the car! Was a little unsure bout it and have had it before after strong sessions but am gonna do like ineverknew and just smile from now on!
  • nervenerve
    Posts: 19
    Here is my thoughts on addiction, because I too have wrestled with this question especially in the early stages of my journey dealing with what I call the cravings.
    It is not possible to be addicted to Aneros use in the same way as one would a drug like meth for one very simple reason. With meth you can force the brain to give you what you want by taking more and more of it. In that sense you control the process. With Aneros if it aint gonna happen it aint gonna happen. Your body will naturally learn to regulate its use. the only stimulants you are creating are ones naturally provided by your body and it knows best.
  • JaxsunJaxsun
    Posts: 132
    I'm 65 and retired...I have a great sex life with my wife (3-4 times a month is good for me). After about 3 years of ANEROS use, I have landed on 2...sometimes 3 sessions with Helix Syn per week for about 1.5 - 2 hrs per session. This frequency seems to be all my body needs to be happy and satisfied. I use ANEROS EVERY WEEK on this schedule. When I first started out I was doing it every day and sometimes 2 or 3 times a body rebelled and told me it was too much. I use Peridise sometimes for an hour or so when I go to bed between my Helix sessions primarily for relaxation and gentle honing of my rewiring.

    I don't consider my usage an addiction because being retired, it in no way impacts negatively on my life's activities...and it has made me a better lover with my wife. I have yet to integrate ANEROS usage into my sex life with my wife...but she is fully aware I use it for health and pleasure.

    I try to use the energy that ANEROS helps me build to enthusiastically pursue my normal life activities with a healthy vigor...I feel like I approach life more cheerfully and energetically by trying to channel this welcome energy into my non-sexual activities like guitar playing, socializing with friends, fishing, etc.