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  • View Poll Results: Pegging? Voters: 92

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    Never. No way. Forget it 4 4.35%

    Maybe, maybe not 6 6.52%

    I would if she asked me to 30 32.61%

    We did it - don't anymore 7 7.61%

    Yes, we do it regularly 21 22.83%

    I've asked, and she won't 8 8.70%

    I'm afraid to ask 16 17.39%

  • Badger
    Posts: 647

    Hey;

    Have any of you tried using a butt-plug to hold the pony in the vagina?  It was a thought I had recently.

    Also, would an inflatable butt-plug work or work better?  Something for the girls to try, namely, Ruby and Dave's wife.  Please try and report back.

  • I need some elaboration - not sure how that would work...
  • Badger
    Posts: 647
    Well, my theory is, that because double-penetration sex is much more stimulating because both cavities are filled, by first inserting the pony end into the vagina, and then inserting a large, secure-locating butt-plug into the anus, it should contact the bulbous end of the pony through adjacent walls, helping not only to keep the other end in firmer contact with the G-spot, but (hopefully) preventing the pony from moving around in the vagina so much and keeping the pony in the vagina during thrusting.  There would also be the added sensation of both cavities being filled and stimulated through the adjacent cavity walls, which, when my wife allows it, she finds highly stimulating.
  • ten_s_nutten_s_nut
    Posts: 816
    Hello, Badger.

    Good idea that would probably work. Unfortunately, my wife is not a fan of anal penetration with anything. Perhaps Ruby will be open to the concept (I know, I know, puns are pathetic.)

    Cheer,

    Dave

  • Well...I certainly have the equipment and recently enjoyed anal with a partner after years of no anal play. But I do not have a regular partner at the moment so it could be a while before I have the opportunity to test your theory.

    I'm dating a new guy but testing out equipment theories is not the best way to start...he's had (and loved) anal play but no pegging yet. This is all conjecture because we are not yet intimate but things are looking quite good.

    I can kind of imagine how it might work but I suspect it will not solve the side-to-side instability...I'm actually going to put this on my calendar some months from now so i don't forget to test it out!
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    I actually had an idea similar to Badger's a while back. But more for the pleasure and orgasmic potential of the woman driving. Why not have her wear a Peridise or Tempo while she's pegging him? That would be bound to make any of her orgasms that much more spectacular. And perhaps make it easier for her to orgasm because of more stimulation?  Thoughts?

    @Ruby - Here's an odd question for you...
    Do you practice solo with the Happy Valley Tango such that you can get more acclimated with it and the vibe, so you can figure out what movements and vibration types feels good and makes you orgasm? With the hope that your future pegging experiences will be that much better for you?
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @ten_s_nut - Thanks for the additional review of the Tango. That's great that it works really well for both you and your wife! Do you think this will increase how often your wife will want to peg you?
  • ten_s_nutten_s_nut
    Posts: 816
    Love_is;

    No doubt, the Tango/Salsa combo will make pegging a more frequent event in our bedroom. To date, pegging has been about 25% of our partnered sex life. Could be, it will move up to 33%. Any higher than that would take away from all the other sexual things we enjoy, so that's probably the limit. 

    Cheers,

    Dave

  • @Love_is - I have practiced once with the Tango solo and plan to do it much more, yes. Perfect time for it while I am (relatively) single!
  • Badger
    Posts: 647

    Hey, I just came across these panties, and wondered if it was designed for holding a Feeldoe, Share, or Tango:

    http://www.tidebuy.com/product/Inside-Charming-Thongs-9649622.html

  • Probably not. If you notice the similarities between the panties that are made for strapon use - flare-based or double-enders - they have strong and thick elastic bands for stability. The hole looks high on these. But at that price - give it a try if it calls to you!
  • @Badger wrote:
    keep the other end in firmer contact with the G-spot, but (hopefully)
    preventing the pony from moving around in the vagina so much and keeping
    the pony in the vagina during thrusting.

    Speaking for myself, I wouldn't want an insertible (in the vagina) that doesn't move. Pressure-only on the She Spot isn't what I like at all. I know that penetration-without-movement is a Tantric/Osho teaching, but those orgasms are brought on by other sensory stimuli (touch, closeness, emotion, etc.).

    However, a double-headed dildo inserted in each person anally (me and him) with his penis in my vagina (Starry Sky position?) is something I can't wait to try. Will require a little flexibility, tho :-)

    And I definitely see using something like the Share et al in a rear-entry position, with the bulbous end in me vaginally, while I thrust the longer end into his anus (him on all fours).

    Possibilities are endless. :-)

    Lava
    ArousedWomanBlog.com
  • ten_s_nutten_s_nut
    Posts: 816
    Hello, Lava.

    Just checking to see if the new Forum software allows animated gifs to be uploaded and posted here.

    Cheers,

    Dave

    Looks like you have to click on the image to see the animation.

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  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    So this idea came as a result of one of Ruby Ryder's questions elsewhere about the preference of single versus double dildo for pegging, and one of the woman's responses. My apology Ruby if I've preempted you on this. I just think this may be a really good idea for those women that find the double dildos uncomfortable or don't work well for them. As every womans body anatomy and tastes of what feels good are slightly different.

    This woman that responded preferred using a flare based dildo in a harness, with what she called a “pussy plug”. It's a Joya Natural Silicone Dildo. She said that the edge of the flare base would also push on the stem into her clitoris. She found it much more pleasurable than a double.

    http://www.goodvibes.com/display_product.jhtml?id=1-3-BA-1204

    So then it occurred to me, a woman could likely just as easily use the Aneros EVI in the same manner as the Joya to create her own pleasure while pegging with a flare base dildo. I'd guess though that the woman would need a harness that has open crotch access like the Spare Parts Joque so as not to impede the movement of the Joya or EVI?

    Ok people, start experimenting and tell us the results here. :)
  • Love_is;

    In my experience, liberated women don't want men to "fix" anything for them; they prefer finding their own solutions. As much as I've tried to assist my wife with variations on pegging hardware, she is happiest with her own approach, which does not include Evi. For many women, I suspect the very idea of pegging is radical enough, without piling on the additional stress of having to figure out how to orgasm from the act. 

    Best Regards,

    Dave

  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @ten_s_nut  -  I'm not sure why you thought I was trying to fix anything or force my will upon people. I can assure you that is not my intent. I'm just putting ideas out there for people as possibilities. What they choose to do with them is their own choice. Don't take the last sentence of my prior post to seriously. It was meant more tongue in cheek. :)
  • @Love_is - No problem with pre-empting. Hard for me to keep up with all the forums I participate in.

    For those of you on FetLife - Here's the link to the discussion thread.
    I also asked this question on Reddit - Here's the link to that discussion.

    There are so many different ways to try and make the pegging experience orgasmic for the woman and it is all incredibly individual. So many toys - so little time. But (and I think Dave was speaking to this) sometimes I think that the emphasis on the act being orgasmic for the woman gets tiring and too complicated. More often I just want to fuck his ass and revel in the power of the act, his moans and his pleasure. When I'm done I'm dripping with excitement so it's always a win-win for me. I don't need mutual pleasure because I love the act itself so much.

    Interestingly enough I do find that there is a huge emphasis on the women "getting something out of it" from the men. Almost like the men are so used to pleasing the woman that they find it very difficult to just lay back and receive, There is part of the FetLife thread that speaks to that. I will paste it here for those of you who aren't on that forum:

    "I'd argue that just because there is a very strong correlation between
    maleness and being a top doesn't make this a characteristic of being
    male but rather a characteristic of being accustomed to topping. I have
    a very hard time bottoming to anything other than a bio cock because I
    can't relax unless I know my partner is getting pleasure from fucking
    me. How do I get around this? I ask anybody fucking me with their
    hands, toys, etc to reassure me that they're enjoying themselves so I
    can lie back and enjoy without feeling guilty. Depending on the
    enthusiasm in their voice, I can sometimes just receive. But I don't
    require them to stimulate their genitals while fucking me with something
    other than their genitals just so that I can lie back and receive.
    "

    This is a comment from Strap-on Jo - a woman some of you might consider engaging her services the next time she is in your area. I agree with her assessment. I am absolutely a "top" sexually, so I find it difficult to relax and just receive. Perhaps this is what is behind men's intense desire for the woman to have an orgasm while pegging?

    I talked a lot about the whole double/single question in my last podcast. And btw my podcasts are now on iTunes!!
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @Ruby Ryder – Thanks. And excellent post! You always put up great content that makes me think.
  • Thanks for the links, Ruby. Your website is a great resource. Highly recommended:


    Cheers,

    Dave

  • Both Aneros and High Island Health got a good mention in Ruby Ryder's latest podcast at:

    http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/12/podcast-25/
  • Thanks for the shoutout, @aneros44306. Aneros toys are being mentioned a lot in my corner of the world....they really can be a "gateway" to pegging!
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @Ruby Ryder - Agreed! That's how I got interested in pegging.
  • Hello, all.

    For those last-minute Xmas shoppers, here's a photo of our two favorite pegging setups, which we use with a SpareParts Joque harness. I prefer the black Happy Valley Tango with WeVibe Salsa bullet. My wife prefers the purple Vixen Senior Double with the Doc Johnson 7-Function Wonder bullet because it is softer.

    Cheers,

    Dave
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  • Love_isLove_is
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    @ten_s_nut - Nice photo! Thanks for sharing. :)
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @ten_s_nut - Question for you...  What is the difference in the outcome of the pegging session with the different "equipment" preferences you and your wife have?
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    A quick related note here...
    As a long time Aneros user that has not super-O'd yet, I've discovered recently that my solo sessions with my Feeldoe More really seem to have woken up my prostate. I haven't used the Feeldoe in quite some time, so was quite surprised at the effect. I'm guessing it's massage of the prostate is a good deal more aggressive than what any of my Aneros do. But I've been very ass horny lately. Went to bed horny last night, woke up horny, and then realized I'd had a great sex dream that had me all aroused. Spent all this morning and part of the afternoon getting further aroused, having Aneros sessions, and solo Feeldoe usage. It's the most obsessed I've felt about giving myself pleasure for hours in this manner that I've felt in a long time. I guess that's one way to end a year! LOL
  • Hello, Love_is.

    Different outcomes with different equipment? For me, the experience is about the same, except the Tango gets me to multiple Os faster, due to its larger size and harder material. For my wife, she can fuck me longer using the Vixen because it doesn't start rubbing her the wrong way after 15 minutes. 

    Shape, size and material matter. Anybody interested in trying this activity should expect they'll have to experiment a bit before finding a workable setup.

    Best Regards and Happy New Year,

    Dave

  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @ten_s_nut - Thanks! You answered my question perfectly. That is exactly what I was wondering. Even though I haven't achieved super-O's yet, I find that like you, I also prefer the larger size and harder material of my Feeldoe More over the FunFactory Share. It just seems to massage/stimulate my prostate much better.

    I can certainly see how some people could easily give up after a first try with pegging with equipment that doesn't fit or feel good, and just lack of good technique through experience both solo and together. Thanks for your very informative posts here Dave. :)
  • You're welcome, Love_is.

    Seems like lots of guys are interested in pegging, and many couples do it, but not many want to talk about it or post about it. The stigma of "taking it up the ass" is still very prevalent among heterosexuals; both men and women.

    Cheers,

    Dave

  • Philip
    Posts: 18
    It is awesome to take the feminine role [..]
  • @ten_s_nut & @Love_is - I am hearing this in my travels that a significant amount of men enjoy the harder toys because the pressure on the prostate is more intense. Some women like your wife do not like that firmness inside them.

    Numbers? Total guess here...maybe 40 - 60% of men enjoy the firm toys. Maybe 20 - 40% of women don't like the way the firm bulb feels inside them. Purely observation, heresay and running around in the world of pegging. Those numbers could be way off. No studies have been done!

    I find all this so interesting because the last boyfriend I had introduced to me to G-spot stimulation and even squirting. This was accomplished with his fingers and the pressure was surprisingly firm. So when his cock was inside me an in a good G-spot stimulation position there were echoes of that level of pleasure but with the softer touch of his cock it wasn't as intense.

    There are certainly a lot of parallels between G-spot and P-spot.

    Edit: The "taking it up the ass" phrase reminded me of this article by Charlie Glickman
    The World Will Be a Better Place When More Men Take it Up the Ass

    And by the way he just co-wrote a book called "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" which many of you may already be aware of...it will be out any day.

    @Philip - I love it when a man can just say that straight out. Great model for letting go of society's BS rules and just embracing what feels good for you.
  • By the way - I am teaching two classes, Beginning and Advanced Pegging in Ventura, California on Saturday February 16th. Here's the link for more information. For those of you not in my area - I'm working on recording a class!
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @Ruby Ryder - Excellent post. And wonderful insight into how women feel about the firmness of double dildos. And thank you for the links. I was not previously aware of this fellow. The world may indeed change with enough people like you, Charlie, Tristan Taormino and others I can't think of right now being so high profile on the Internet and in real life trying to educate people about this subject.



    On a different note...

    I'd like to update some pegging links for the people that follow this thread, since there is new ones I've found.

    http://www.reddit.com/r/pegging
    This is by far my favorite pegging discussion, pictures, and video web site so far. If you are not familiar with reddit. Here's a quick description from their wikipedia.org page. "Reddit, is a social news and entertainment website where registered users submit content in the form of either a link or a text ("self") post. Other users then vote the submission "up" or "down", which is used to rank the post and determine its position on the site's pages and front page." And so discussions are categorized by different subreddit's depending on the topic. Be forewarned that this subreddit includes all forms of pegging play.

    http://tribes.tribe.net/pegging101
    Another nice place to discuss, view picture, and links to video of pegging. Although not as active as the pegging subreddit. This is a non-BDSM pegging tribe, and Ruby moderates it such that it's quite nice and classy. My only gripes about it is the lack of regular user activity, and their server is often stupidly slow. But otherwise a nice place.

    So you want to see pegging pictures and videos? Tumblr.com has many categories for this. Here's a short description of what tumblr is from their web site. "Tumblr lets you effortlessly share anything. Post text, photos, quotes, links, music, and videos from your browser, phone, desktop, email or wherever you happen to be. You can customize everything, from colors to your theme's HTML."  Here's the pegging categories I've found:

    http://sensualpegging.tumblr.com/
    This one also has some informational, and question and answer stuff which is great. It also seems to be the most regularly updated.

    http://bendoverboyfriend.tumblr.com/

    http://peginator.tumblr.com/

    http://fuckyeahpegging.tumblr.com/

    http://consensualpegging.tumblr.com/
    This one also has some question and answers stuff going which is a nice addition.

    http://straponboy.tumblr.com/

    http://northofpegging.tumblr.com/

    http://peggingpics.tumblr.com/

    Enjoy! :)
  • Philip
    Posts: 18
    Wow thanks for the links like i said before i get a sensual feeling when my wife is inside me i guess i am in touch with my feminine side i shave my legs as well as paint my toenails
  • @Philip - Some men enjoy feminization with their pegging, seems to add to the experience for them. Good for you! Sexual exploration is fun.

    @Love_is - Nice combination of links!! Appreciate you putting them all together like that. Awesome.
  • Philip
    Posts: 18
    @Ruby- Gettin tuned in for it tonight gonna step up a notch in size and length
  • Sounds like someone is going to have some fun...
    ;)
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    @Ruby Ryder - Thanks! Should be helpful for people. :)
  • Philip
    Posts: 18
    @Ruby Ryder it was awesome last night
  • Im kinda torn, i "think" i would like pegging, but im not submissive at all, so that might be a hurdle for me to overcome LOL.  Its funny one of the reasons I first started looking into anal play was because I wanted to have anal sex with my wife, her response was always, "if you go first!" LOL.  Regardless I havent even told her I use an aneros yet, so it will be a while before we cross that path.  Great thread though!
  • Pegging is not inherently submissive, but as a man you are receptive, open, vulnerable and not in charge of running the show. Trading roles can be an amazing intimacy builder.

    I like the way your wife thinks - I offer the same trade, with the added condition that the toy I use on him is the same size as what he offers.
  • Philip
    Posts: 18
    We have a toy that is the same size and tonight is the night that i get what i give and to be honest i actually look forward to sitting on top and rockin my world.
  • Best of luck to you and your wife, Philip. 

    Riding on top, cowboy position is the best way to start out since it gives plenty of control. And, gives your wife an easy reach.  8->

    Cheers,

    Dave

  • Hah! Hit the save comment button and there was nothing in the box...which just goes to show you that you can indeed say nothing and it will post...as nothing!

  • B MayfieldB Mayfield
    Posts: 2,077
    Curious if anyone here has ever tried any of the Vixskin products?  Supposedly they feature a life-like soft silicone exterior with a more rigid inner core.  Suitable for pegging?.   Looking at the Raquel

    BF Mayfield
  • Hey, Brian.

    Maybe there's a reason that Raquel dildo is out of stock. :)

    Cheers,

    Dave



    :-c
  • Badger
    Posts: 647
    I thought it was discontinued.
  • B MayfieldB Mayfield
    Posts: 2,077
    No, it's not discontinued, although it seems that various online sellers are out of stock on it.    It's available from the manufacturer Vixen and several online sellers still have it. 

    BF Mayfield

    p.s. @Dave, question is, is it out of stock because it's a hot item or is there a problem with it.   Most reviews are very good.
  • cj187
    Posts: 54
    Ok so decided that more exposure to the aneros for my wife may help sway her to do this with me. Wish me luck
  • Progra
    Posts: 34
    Good luck, that's how it happened for me.