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New to this. Could use some advice
  • Hello,

    long story short, my wife and I decided to buy some toys for eachother, i pick one out for her, she picks one out for me...

    My eyes bugged out a bit when she added the progasm to the cart! But after reading some reviews that all sounded amazing I thought why not. I love my wife, and maybe we could have fun exploring eachother!

    But since ordering I did some reading and found out this model is the biggest one! Im new to this and dont wish to be ripped in two! Was this a bad model to get first? Im 5'7" 135lbs.

    Lil scared, could use some advice...

    Canadiandude
  • twlltintwlltin
    Posts: 571
    Clean out your rectum first. You might want to douche.

    Pre-lube your anal passage as far as you can reach with your finger. Vaseline will do to start with. Put a good coating of lube on the progasm, and insert it very very gently and gradually. Angle it for easiest insertion. It is big, but it's not bigger than some of the stools you'll have passed in the past.

    Once it's in, don't try to do anything with it for at least 10 minutes. Just let your body get used to its presence.

    Personally, I'd have recommended something a bit smaller to a beginner. That said, there are many guys who started with the Progasm and liked it.
  • hydrogen
    Posts: 115
    I'd start with GSX (the Asian model) to start. It's relatively reasonable priced around $40. When you decide to go bigger later, you can use it as walk around model. Most advanced user here ended up with more than one Aneros anyway. I'd say you're better off to start small.
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,488
    HI canadiandude!! :D :D

    Welcome, and what a wonderful wife your have indeed!! My wife and I have had a wonderful journey together opening new erotic and orgasmic possibilities here and with complementary practices.

    For your height and weight I would suggest that you get an SGX Aneros, which is the smaller of the two introductory models with the satisfaction guarantee. I used only the MGX, the slightly larger one for taller heavier men, for my first 9 months. I am 6'4" and 200lbs.

    Even though I had previous anal experience, I would not have had the ease of involuntaries massaging had I started with the progasm. I do have a progasm Ice now and love it!! So hang on to yours. Happy to answer any questions you may have (see my PM to you). In order to really relax and allow your body to take control, solo sessions are highly recommended as you first become adapted and rewired. You can still also enjoy during sessions with your wife!!

    all the very best to you and your wonderful wife as you adventure solo and together

    artform
  • slimjm
    Posts: 497
    Yeah, keep your Progasm and if you're like me, you'll enjoy getting it out once in a while once you've gotten the hang of this, but as with many others, "less is more" for me.
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,488
    "Less is More" indeed slimjm!! :D :D
  • Hello Canadiandude,

    The fist thing I'd say to you is learn as much as you can about the whole process/experience of prostate massage by reading here and elsewhere. Then consider whether what you've read makes sense for you and whether you're comfortable with what's been written. Uses of and experience with prostate massage are as varied as your imagination will allow.

    Next, always remember to be careful, gentle, and kind with yourself when exploring this new dimension of sexual awakening.

    You will often find members hanging out in the chat room. You can pick up some pointers there in realtime when you have questions. The folks @ HIH have kindly opened the chat room for the entire month of January 2012.

    SS
  • thanks for the advice guys. This particular definetly sounds too intimidating for a beginner like me. Im still awaiting shipment, and havent seen the unit in person yet, but Im sure the wife and I will share a laugh lol.

    Weve yet to decide on where to go from here, thanks again for the info guys.

    Canadiandude
  • GeogioGeogio
    Posts: 107
    I started with the MGX, which is okay, then I got Progasm which I personally feel is too long, as it doesn't fit well and want to come out that 1/2 inch that makes it longer the the product line. The girth is not a problem is not a problem. I would recommend the Helix first, skip the MGX. If you want comfort and largeness then perhaps try the Maximus same 4in length but not the 4 1/2 inch length of Progasm. That might be okay for your physical sizing in the rectum.

    It is difficult to assume. Has your partner given you a finger wave? If not, research and perhaps she can ascertain and measure with her finger the length you would require as a starting point. A womans finger is tolerable where a mans might be uncomfortable to the uninitiated.
  • Well, I thought I'd update the thread...

    I received the progasm last week, and have since had 2 sessions with my wife.

    When I opened the package, I was suprised that it wasn't as big as I had it built up to be in my head. Still intimidating mind you, but I at least found the courage to try the damn thing.

    1st session:
    showered then laid down on my belly and attempted to relax while my wife lubed me up and inserted the unit. This took place over a half an hour or so. Upon first insertion when it got past the midway point of the big hump, it took over and shot in on it's own, fast and hard, this unusual feeling shocked me and my insides, I had an uncontrollable squeeze that actually shot the progasm out again! Anyway we eventually got it to stay after i was able to relax a bit more. Not much of a session, more of an introduction. My wife finished me with an amazing bj in which I unleashed the most cum i ever felt from an orgasm. I did have some slight discomfort for a day after but all in all I say it was a good first experience.

    2nd session:

    Last night we tried again, this time the wife sent me to bed early to get started/relaxed/aquainted with progasm. I found inserting it myself easier and less shocking/painful. I tried to follow instructions and just totally relax, after a few mins it actually felt like it was not there or maybe a lot smaller than it is. I attributed this to relaxing my insides. I then started trying contractions of varying strengths, after a few mins during contractions my muscles would quake a bit, not pleasurable, not unpleasurable. At this time my wife came and gave me a little show, and then proceeded to ride me to an AMAZING orgasm.. Again with LOADS of cum.

    So nothing really pleasurable happening on its own yet, but good super ts I guess.
    How am I doing so far?

    CanadianDude
  • good point about it coming out that 1/2 inch. I noticed that too, had to push it in a few times to get the ptab to make contact. Is that normal for progasm? Or is it my anatomy tellin me to get a shorter one?
  • Hello Canadiandude,

    I think you're well on your way. You noted that your "muscles would quake a bit" during your second session. This is pretty good evidence that your body is responding to the Pro in a good way.

    One thing I forgot to mention in my post above is that warming the device can help to make the first minutes after insertion more pleasant. Before I learned this trick, I would get cramps in my rectum if the device was room temperature before I inserted it, and it took a few minutes for it to warm up inside me. You can warm the device by soaking it in a sink filled with hot water from the tap (not boiling water).

    Congratulations on your journey so far!

    SS
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,265
    CanadianDude,

    [QUOTE=canadiandude;103382]... So nothing really pleasurable happening on its own yet, but good super ts I guess. How am I doing so far?You are doing great but please, Please, PLEASE do not undervalue the wonderful sensations you have already received. ... I unleashed the most cum i ever felt from an orgasm. ... At this time my wife came and gave me a little show, and then proceeded to ride me to an AMAZING orgasm.. Again with LOADS of cum. You've just begun your adventurous new journey and the initial sensations are usually very subtle. IMHO, too many new users discount these sensations as insignificant but they are not insignificant! These are the very same sensations that build upon themselves to create the joyous orgasms and Super-O's you've probably already read much about. When you deny acceptance of the small sensations you are limiting yourself and impeding the rewiring process. Why image
    would you wish to do that?

    With only two Anerosessions in your resume, you've already hit at least 8 of the Milestones listed in the Aneros WIKI, so, congratulations. image