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what came first aneros or anal?
  • mikeyg
    Posts: 14
    just wondering if the majority only use aneros or started with other toys that lead to aneros or if aneros lead to other toys. i have been using other toys for about ten years and just now getting into aneros. just curios to see what most people use or start with
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,604
    After age 8 I was anal-curious but seldom pleasured myself. Other rewards were easier to get and there was stigma associated with anal action.

    Following marriage we accumulated a few anal toys from 'party pack' purchases. Ignorance of proper pre-lube led to neglect.

    Aneros was bought to enhance sex. Once I learned anal basics with Aneros I began to revisit the old anal toys. :D
  • rickg
    Posts: 94
    Before my Aneros purchases, I had had had dildos and penises in my anus. The Aneros was a very helpful transition to my need for anal sex.
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,488
    Well mikeyg!! :D :D And rook and rickg!!

    Very important question, IMHO, mikeyg! (Are you and rickg related?? We have several members from the "g" family here now...:D)

    This is one of several key questions about a man's background/history that can be significant conditioners as his aneros practice unfolds and develops. The great thing about aneros is that it can reawaken old anal/prostate orgasmic events and their stored and probably forgotten neural and muscle memories, in addition to awakening a guy for the first time. I am so grateful that I found aneros and all that it has been a part of developing for me and my wife over the past almost four years.

    A little over 50 years ago, I felt a calling from inside my abdomen, up inside against my rectum. I was 13, at a summer boys camp, and we all talked sex, even with many things still unknown. I discretely answered the call by fingering my anus and rectum, and found this magic nugget behind the rectum muscle wall. It was VERY responsive and gave me many many gifts. I'd discovered my prostate gland and some of its potential. I kept it to myself at camp. No one else talked about anything anal far less prostate.

    When I got home, I added two model rockets as dildos, focused on anal stim and prostate massage, in addition to my fingers. I had fantastic day after effects of great visions sessions and out-of-body-travel, although I didn't know that term. I called them Intellectual Orgasms. See the early post on this in my blog: http://www.aneros.com/displayblog.php?id=3544

    My whole body and mind were incredibly hungry for prostate stim and all its effects: carved vegetables, automobile column shift levers still attached to the car, chromed yacht throttle levers, thick glass cocktail stirring rods, utensil handles, on and on... whatever was alluring and cleanable as an answer to the call from inside!!!!!!!!!...... From 17 to 19, had a gay exploratory relationship with a long time male friend and we each penetrated the other and orgasmed/ejaculated in each other, butt that dropped off and did not continue through the whole exploratory period. The penis didn't do what the finger and rockets could do. Never cared for penis replica dildos or other commercial sex toys. I didn't and don't equate prostate stim with sex per se.

    Soon we were both married to girl friends ( we had both continued our girl friend relationships ) and I continued my solo prostate massage practice with all manner of things that were smooth and rounded and could be manipulated to achieve the DESIRED prostate effects! Anus quite liked the whole operation too! Gradually this tapered off as conjugal love was the real focus for me in married life. Even as our children were born, and as they grew and matured and got established, I would occasionally have a great solo Super-T ending session a few times a year, particularly on business travel opportunities.

    Although Mrs. a would tickle my outer anal area from time to time, prostate massage did not become part of our sexual relationship until we talked about it and her desire to explore her ejaculatory response about four years ago, and decided to do it all together!! Hallelujah!!

    Now we are both extraordinarily grateful for where our male/female mutual ecstatic energetics explorations have taken us through this last four years!!!

    Let's hear from many more men here.

    artform
  • For me it started with a fingering experience and a couple of days later I was researching prostate stimulation and came across the aneros. Since then, it has awakened me and lead me to try other toys and even the real thing a time or two. All of it has produced a wide variety of enjoyable experiences and have given me a different perspective on sexuality and masculinity.
  • VoyagerVoyager
    Posts: 200
    I was anal curious as a teenager.
    Played around with vibrators and such.
    Continued with anal play, enemas.

    Like most people generally ignorant of what was inside.
    Found out about the prostate and Aneros about the same time.
    The journey continues.
  • Liam9
    Posts: 25
    Me and my buddy were prolly about 13 when we first tried anal, the curiosity got the better of us. I liked it so much had to try it with a few other friends. Now my wife uses strap ons to feed my anal hunger lol. Still continuing the long road to achieve the super O with my progasm :) Oh ya, I also have a suction cup 8" I use in the shower every once and awhile but nothing comes close to the real thing ! :D
  • rickg
    Posts: 94
    I really never got much prostate massage with another guy f--king me or using a dildo. It felt great and there was emotion involved( if I happen to like the guy) but, unlike some here, the penis didn't really stimulate my prostate like aneros or having it massaged with a finger.
  • Love_isLove_is
    Posts: 1,672
    Hello Mikeyg, :)

    An interesting question...

    I started a fair amount of discreet solo anal exploration as a heterosexual teenager a bit after I discovered masturbation and ejaculatory orgasm. I'm not quite sure what prompted me to do so, as I never got crazy incredible pleasure from it. It seemed more like exploring a taboo area of my body. But perhaps I was feeling some prostate arousal and didn't know what it was but was trying to itch it. Then in my twenties I explored this even less. Maybe once or twice. Then nothing until my mid-30's when I discovered the Aneros prostate massager's. Once I got to the point of partial re-wiring where I get nice pleasure most sessions, I discovered a strange fascination with being pegged by a woman. So I bought a double dildo and have experimented solo with that, but have yet to be pegged. It's a shame that our society typically looks down upon anal play as gay for men. Because there is a treasure trove of wonderful sensations to be had from the anus and prostate. And I haven't even achieved super-O's yet, if that tells you anything! :D

    Love_is
  • dtmsmith
    Posts: 219
    Ok, I guess I'll chime in...
    I'm straight and never paid any attention to my anus until I was in my late 30's. Even then, any messing around was infrequent. And, I never really got much from it even though I would read about others getting a lot of pleasure from anal play. Once I bought a butt plug and didn't really like it (I threw it away after one use). I had read a lot about prostate massage and even tried doing it on myself. But, I never managed to get any pleasure from it. Then I discovered Aneros and my world changed forever.
  • Badger
    Posts: 656
    My first experience, aside from a Proctologist shoving a periscope up my butt, was a couple of years after we were married. My wife was gone for the afternoon, and I was feeling horny. She had a set of rubber orgasm balls on a string that she never used, so I lubed them up and slowly inserted them, and I remember the delectable sensations I felt inside, when the balls would roll around. It encouraged me to do all kinds of exercise upside down, and then I went on a run around the farm. I never orgasmed from it, but I certainly enjoyed it, but did feel somewhat guilty about it for some reason, and curtailed my anal adventures for several years.

    I came across the Aneros after looking for a Kegel exerciser for my wife, and happened to insert "male Kegel exerciser", and found this site. I lurked on and off for years here, and finally bought a Helix about four years ago.
  • My experience is similar to dtmsmith, but without the butt plug. I'm 58 and about ten years ago I started being concerned about prostate health (my best friend had prostate cancer). I'd also read in a number of sex books about the possibilities of 'anal pleasure' but it held no appeal to me. I had tried giving myself a prostate massage once or twice, but it didn't feel pleasurable to me. About 18 months ago I started doing a Tantric meditation involving contractions of the PC muscle. About six weeks into the meditations I discovered that I could generate very pleasurable erotic sensations. This has progressed in very interesting ways. I was searching the web for some place I could discuss my experience when I came across a reference to Aneros. The guy said, "don't just click on the picture, buy it now." He said his only regret was that he had waited so long to buy it. I took his advice and ordered an MGX that day. That was the three days ago and I'm eagerly awaiting its arrival.

    And interesting thing: In reading about the Aneros I learned that it is "controlled" by the anal sphincter muscles. In my meditations those muscles are almost always completely relaxed. Since ordering the Aneros I've imagined it inside me and I've flexed my anal muscles. Just doing that has already significantly intensified the sensations I get in my meditations. (BTW, I know it's normally called "session", but I prefer to think of it as a meditation. If this isn't getting closer to god, I don't know what is.)
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,604
    [QUOTE=aneros_user44994;93325]And interesting thing: In reading about the Aneros I learned that it is "controlled" by the anal sphincter muscles. In my meditations those muscles are almost always completely relaxed. Since ordering the Aneros I've imagined it inside me and I've flexed my anal muscles. Just doing that has already significantly intensified the sensations I get in my meditations. (BTW, I know it's normally called "session", but I prefer to think of it as a meditation. If this isn't getting closer to god, I don't know what is.)


    Congrats #44994

    Welcome to the Forum. Since you're doing what we refer to as "Anerosless Contractions" you sound gtg and easily four months ahead of where I was when I walked into the door. Suggest looking of the WIKI -- Aneros Main Page - Aneros Wiki -- The first three sections are germane.

    I view the first two phases of my sessions as meditation and the remainder as response. I find that the meditation pattern I employ sets the stage for all the following events.

    warmest regards and blessings
  • artformartform
    Posts: 1,488
    Warm welcome aneros_user44994!! :D :D

    [QUOTE=aneros_user44994;93325]My experience is similar to dtmsmith, but without the butt plug. I'm 58 and about ten years ago I started being concerned about prostate health (my best friend had prostate cancer). I'd also read in a number of sex books about the possibilities of 'anal pleasure' but it held no appeal to me. I had tried giving myself a prostate massage once or twice, but it didn't feel pleasurable to me. About 18 months ago I started doing a Tantric meditation involving contractions of the PC muscle. About six weeks into the meditations I discovered that I could generate very pleasurable erotic sensations...
    ...And interesting thing: In reading about the Aneros I learned that it is "controlled" by the anal sphincter muscles. In my meditations those muscles are almost always completely relaxed. Since ordering the Aneros I've imagined it inside me and I've flexed my anal muscles. Just doing that has already significantly intensified the sensations I get in my meditations. (BTW, I know it's normally called "session", but I prefer to think of it as a meditation.


    Welcome to your unfolding aneros journey and this our unique open community of exploratory men and women. Thank you for your initial introduction. You do indeed seem to be a natural for this practice and its complementary possibilities, both with your existing practices and related potentials.

    If this isn't getting closer to god, I don't know what is.)



    I agree completely!

    all the best openness and meditative inward and outward reflections and resonances in orgasmic energetics and ecstatics all

    artform
  • I started first with dildos and vibrators. Then my bf gave me a good prostate massage and told me about the aneros. Like and enjoy it.