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  • Admittedly, I am female and am in a committed relationship with a man I have been seeing for over a year. He's a bit "shy" when talking about sex (which I find quite liberating since I have been the "shy" one in the past). The weekend before last, while engaged in foreplay, my fella spread his cheeks while I was massaging his anus - which I took as a "please insert your finger" and thought nothing of obliging. It wasn't long after that when he breathily asked me to "stop." Which I did (removing nothing but my mouth). I guess he'd waited too long before letting me know he was "there" since even though no movement was taking place he was cumming just the same. Of course, the mere mention of what just happened turned him beet red and sent him running from the room.

    On our way to the movies that night, I brought it up again in the car (he couldn't run from the car) and asked was that a never again, do it again, or maybe again incident. Giggling furiously, he said "maybe." Well that got my curiosity up and I did a little research over the last week regarding the male prostate (was actually looking for a site that had instructions or a diagram so that I'd know the best way to do this should that “maybe” moment happen again) when I ran across a discussion about the Aneros. Reading the testimonials I felt a little jealous that a woman's body is not as sensitive as the male's - but nevertheless, was intrigued enough to place an order for the Helix.

    Now it is in transit and should arrive sometime this week. I'm tempted to forewarn him that it is on the way so that he can read the testimonials here and elsewhere to be a little familiar with what to expect and how it works... but so far, I've left him in the dark!

    Question -- he didn't ask for this device and doesn't know it's trekking cross-country in a little brown truck... any advice on coaxing him into this? Should I just print the testimonials, give him the box, shut the door and let him figure it out??? Personally, I'd love to watch him experience it the first time - but think that might be a little too much for my shy little fella.
  • First, get a peridise for yourself!! You can have fun too you know don't get jealous. :wink: :lol:

    We have a few women here that have had great success themselves with the peridise. I know this doesn't answer your questions though, but I thought it was worth mentioning since you said you felt a little bit jealous. There is fun to be had from both sexes.

    I think it would be an incredibly erotic experience for both of you if you wrapped it up with like a heart on it or something (something romantic lol) maybe a rose or chocolate strawberry on top? heheheh whatever you think is cute.

    Then get in the 'mood', hot shower/bath etc..., and then show him his 'present' and have him unwrap it (you can help if you'd like).

    I'm tempted to forewarn him that it is on the way so that he can read the testimonials here and elsewhere to be a little familiar with what to expect and how it works... but so far, I've left him in the dark!


    Your lover should stay away from this site and do not tell him anything about the pleasure this thing is capable of from the testimonials (PLEASE DO NOT). This will lead him into expecting something from this device, which is the main reason people do not get the results you read. He must relax, let go of any expectations (He won't have any!!) and just surrender his body to the Helix. Keep him in the dark and surprise him. Men love surprises!!

    Once you have the box unwrapped and the device in your hand, lube up your finger and lube up his asshole or however you want to turn him on anally. Tell him just to relax and shut his eyes! Insert your lubed finger into his anus very slowly and gently. Stop if he tells you to. Make sure he's relaxed.

    Once inserted about 2-3 inches inside do a very slight come hither motion with your finger. Just ever so slightly that it teases him. See what his response is. Do it again only this time press a little bit harder then last. See if you can feel something that feels different (like the outer skin of a walnut). Focus on this gently at first and then if he responds well then just add a bit more direct pressure (not too much though - this is like your g-spot ;)). Now go ahead and remove your finger. Now lube up your other finger so you now have 2 fingers lubed. By now, your lover should be relaxed and wanting you to go back in there to massage his "g-spot." Slowly repeat all the above only this time with 2 fingers.

    Why 2 fingers? Because if you look at the diameter of the helix you'll be glad you did!

    After all that, remove your fingers and now lube up the Helix. The process is the same do it very gently and stop if he says so (COMMUNICATE). However, don't TELL him that you're using the aneros until after it's inserted. (Maybe preheat the aneros in some luke-warm water so it's not cold to him). Just make him think it's still your fingers. Once you have the device inserted ask him if he likes the feeling and does he feel any sensations. Now let him know that he has the aneros inserted in him! SURPRISE!!! :lol: :D :wink:

    I'll let the others go from here!
  • rumelrumel
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    OnAMission,

    Welcome to the Forum,

    First let me say I think what you are doing is a very wonderful gift you are about to bestow upon this shy man and I applaud your initiative for doing so. From your description of the event it is fairly obvious he has very “turned on” by the experience of anal play but may be a bit embarrassed to admit it, for fear of a negative reaction from you.
    While reading the testimonials is interesting and stimulating, personally, I feel they can be counter-productive because they set-up “expectations” of spectacular sensations. More often than not new Aneros users experience low levels of pleasure from their initial usage, there is a learning curve here as a man goes through his ”prostate awakening”.
    ‘ArcticWolves’ suggested the surprise approach and I think that has merit on the other hand you could help prepare him for the associated learning journey in another way.
    I would recommend that you initially have him read the Sticky post titled "B's Keys to the Backdoor"
    by 'B. Mayfield', also the "Aneros Basics", "Getting Started" & "The Super-O" sections of the Aneros WIKI, there is a wealth of essential information contained within the WIKI, which will save him a great deal of time and frustration during his learning process, plus it will answer a good many questions he will undoubtedly incur.
    My recommendation is that you let him explore the Aneros experience solo until such time as he wishes to bring it into a shared experience. Above all it is very important that you be supportive of his efforts in this endeavor to maximize his learning rate and chances for success.
    As ‘ArcticWolves’ already mentioned, while he is learning from his device, you may be interested to do your own learning with the uni-sex designed Peridise. There is certainly no reason why you can’t be having some fun time too! I suggest you read A WOMAN IN “PERIDISE” by ‘lyn2694’ for a little first hand knowledge about this little gem of a toy.
  • Thanks for the reply ArticWolves!! I'm squirming waiting on the device to get here (and I won't be the one using it!!) I'm curious what his reaction will be, and hope that his experience with it is as favorable as several of the testimonials. As far as getting the peridise for myself... I'm not fond of anything being up my bum! Instead, I ordered myself a "We Vibe" -- and that won't come out of the toy box unless his toy does too! :)

    Love the visual you painted with the Surprise!! I think I'll take your advice and just keep quiet until it is in hand. No sense in exciting him about something that's yet to arrive. However, I don't think I will gift wrap it... he really hates gifts (seriously). I do intend to send it home with him and hope that he will use it in private until he's comfortable sharing his experience with it with me (which, oddly, I've never been a peep-show fan... but really would love to be a fly on the wall for this one!)

    Thanks for the instruction on prostate massage (that was the first I'd ever had my finger up someone's bum and wasn't quite sure I did it right until I read your message -- I think I did). :)
  • Rumel -- thank you too for your reply. The links that you've suggested, I think I will print out for him to read while he is alone. Although I believe he will enjoy this experience, I think it will take him a while to be comfortable enough with it to use it in my presence. I know he knows that I will not sit in judgment of him (that's been proven before when I came across some pictures in his camera that were shockingly risque for him - and they were OF him!) I don't know what happened in his past that has nearly crippled him to talk about sex, but I still live in hope that he'll gradually get over it. He's a great guy -- I want to see him enjoying something sexual even if he cannot talk about it.
  • Oh I didn't realize he was shy about such things. Disregard me surprising him as that would be a bad route. I was under the impression he liked anal play. My bad...

    Wish you 2 the best of luck! Keep us informed.

    Also, if you don't like anal play OnAMission, you could try the progasm. I hear our beloved Alana has had remarkable success with the progasm (vaginally) in stimulating her g-spot and wonderful orgasms.
  • ArticWolves -- he wasn't shy about the act -- he was shy about talking about it. Amost one of those "it's okay to do it, it's not okay to talk about it." Very strange really. I could tell he enjoyed it by the amount of cum, and I know he's experimented with some strange cock contraption with lots of straps [I saw the pictures] and does appear to have an anal interest [more of those pictures]... it's just getting to the point of being able to use them without turning him sun-baked red from passing out on a nude beach. He actually loves strutting around the house nude (and I enjoy the view -- he's got a gorgeous body)... he just cannot talk about what's been done or what he'd like to try. Instant giggling and he's burnt red.
  • kaco
    Posts: 12
    A newbies perspective.
    Your relationship sounds exactly like mine right down to the " gorgeous body", ok some differents lol.
    Imo, the day it arrives I would recommend you go out for awhile let your hubby get to know the helix with little to no destractions. Plus you need 24 hours to charge your "we Vibe". My 1st experience was as follows. Ups arrived we went into seperate rooms. I went in to bedroom, she had a bath. I was to interested in how she liked her toy, to enjoy my toy. She got the snuggel puss and I got the eupho. After about 45 mins - hour she made it to the fininsh line but I didn't. She hated the snuggel puss and with all the distractions of the jacuzi tub etc. I was disapointed as well. I tryed a few more times with better results.
    Recently, we bought the 'We Vibe" and the prograsm. She loves her new toy, togetter or solo. Its well made, it could have a few more horse power.
    I am slowly starting to feel different feelings, good feelings. I beleive things would go a lot faster for me if she went out more often. We both have winters off and love staying home. Unfortinate for me, I had big expectaions from reading all the forums before trying. As Rumel already mentioned. I have now tried to forget all the rules, others experiments and experiences. So I can start fresh with no expections. I continue to read the posts and take advise from others but I know that there is no fast tracking to the big O. and it will happen, when it happens.

    I wish I could write like others on this post. As it turns out I am just a stupid trucker, so please forgive me for my writing skills.
  • Kaco -- how you write matters not as much as what you write. I perfectly understood your comment. As for him having private time alone with his little toy... he lives nearly 100 miles away but comes down to see me every weekend - so he has 5 solo days during the week to get comfortable with it. I'm just hoping that he'll be comfortable enough to bring it back down here and not go 100% solo Aneros.

    I'm curious -- how's the We Vibe going for you and your wife? Do you enjoy it as much as she does? That was the reason I purchased it was because it severed a dual purpose (that and I didn't want to embarass my guy by only getting HIM a toy and solely focusing on him... if there's one for me, I think he'll be more intriqued and more likely be willing to experiment). As long as it's not all about him... he seems to be a bit more relaxed.
  • kaco
    Posts: 12
    Onamission, thanks for your understanding.(foniks din't worc fore mez)
    Imo, 100% solo aneros could be a good thing. I have been able to go longer and harder with some use of aneros solo. Aneros has opened up my mind so I can enjoy sex more and not worry about the finish line so much. Up until recently, I was hard wired from childhood that sex is dirty and under no circumstnce don't get caught masterbating so my orgasms were fast and not saticifing for me or my wife.
    As far as comfortable enough for your hubby/bf to use with you. You have done the first step by buying it for him. My wife bought mine for me so there was no shame or hidding it. The only problem I have, is the giggle factor. If I hear her giggle or make jokes, I feel withdrawn from talking about it or using it. It was easier for me to experiment and talk about what I felt, when she bought a toy as well.
    With the We Vibe the jury is still out. The day after u.p.s came, something else arrived. Unfortionally when my wife has aunt flow she has it for months on end. We tried the We vibe once. To make a more pg13 reply, I can say it was interesting, but I do what to give it another chance (asap).
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,254
    kaco,

    You said, “I wish I could write like others on this post. As it turns out I am just a stupid trucker, so please forgive me for my writing skills.” First off, your occupation has nothing to with your writing skills, it just takes some practice, a willingness to read and repetitively edit your own text. Use of a spelling & grammar checking program has caught more of my mistakes than I can enumerate. Secondly, you are NOT stupid, anyone who diligently pursues learning about the Aneros prostate massagers is pretty smart in my eyes and is demonstrating some good wisdom as well. Thirdly, all human beings are fallible creatures, so we can certainly forgive you for any minor lexicon errors.
    You might find the following interesting, it was passed along to me by my friend, (“HypnAerosession” collaborator), member ‘Hlaser99’.
    if you can raed tihs, you hvae a sgtrane mnid too.

    Can you raed tihs? Olny 55 plepoe out of 100 can.

    i cdnuol’t blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch sudty at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! if you can raed tihs frowrad it.
  • Kaco -- you sound a lot like my boyfriend ("sex is dirty")... but let me give you a look from a woman's point of view (giggling at you while you're enjoying your toy) -- women love to see their man happy. If that includes a giggle fit that you are enjoying yourself, it's not intended to embarrass you, but to enjoy it with you. I fear that my fella is going to be of the same mindset as you and want to keep his pleasures to himself... and I honestly couldn't guarantee him that I wouldn't be grinning like the Cheshire Cat if I were in the room watching the scene with a huge tub of popcorn. I would LOVE to witness him allowing himself to be free -- would I be laughing AT him? Heck no (after all, I'm the one who bought this thing). Would I love to see him uncontrollably pleasured?? You know I would!! Would I smile or giggle about it (smile most definitely -- giggle... I don't know, never seen one of you guys with an Aneros).

    Again, thanks for reassuring me that getting a toy myself would possibly ease his mind. Like I said, you sound a lot like him. Can I ask a simple question?? If your wife could do ONE thing to put you at ease in the bedroom, what would it be? If your wife were to perform for you first, would you feel more comfortable as a couple? I'm curious what would put your mind at ease that you weren't being judged or laughed at?? Maybe I can help you while you help me with a man very similar?
  • RTGoose
    Posts: 30

    Your lover should stay away from this site and do not tell him anything about the pleasure this thing is capable of from the testimonials (PLEASE DO NOT). This will lead him into expecting something from this device, which is the main reason people do not get the results you read. He must relax, let go of any expectations (He won't have any!!) and just surrender his body to the Helix. Keep him in the dark and surprise him. Men love surprises!!



    Worth a try I suppose although I'm skeptical if I'd have kept going after my first few tries if not for the wonderful descriptions this site provides of what is possible.

    Even without the expectations it's possible (probable) he'll experience very little his first couple of times -- at that point, if he doesn't see the point in continuing, then I'd suggest pointing him toward the forums.
  • RTGoose said:

    Your lover should stay away from this site and do not tell him anything about the pleasure this thing is capable of from the testimonials (PLEASE DO NOT). This will lead him into expecting something from this device, which is the main reason people do not get the results you read. He must relax, let go of any expectations (He won't have any!!) and just surrender his body to the Helix. Keep him in the dark and surprise him. Men love surprises!!



    Worth a try I suppose although I'm skeptical if I'd have kept going after my first few tries if not for the wonderful descriptions this site provides of what is possible.

    Even without the expectations it's possible (probable) he'll experience very little his first couple of times -- at that point, if he doesn't see the point in continuing, then I'd suggest pointing him toward the forums.


    Okay -- monkey wrench!! Tell or don't tell??
  • rumelrumel
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    OnAMission,

    I agree with ‘ArticWolves’ that your man should NOT read the Testimonials Forum for the very reason we both stated, that is, avoiding “expectations”! That said, after you have given him this wonderful surprise gift, I think it would be equally wonderful for you to immediately direct him to the valuable information in the links I pointed to you, which are a part of this site, so he can learn how to get the most from his new Helix. The information in those links is not “hype” or exaggerations but good solid information that will make his learning easier, especially if he does not approach this experience with false or inaccurate notions which can lead to frustrating expectations.
    I think that after one experiences some pleasure from their initial Aneros rewiring sessions, then reading some of the testimonials can provide motivation to keep them going through the inevitable plateau periods. I think it most important to give the truthful information before the glowing hyperbole. The fact is many men will not get to the same levels of pleasure as some of those reports would imply, but he can certainly experience his own level of joy through Aneros use.

    My advice – DO Tell about the WIKI, Don’t tell about the “Testimonials”.
  • rumel said:

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    OnAMission,

    I agree with ‘ArticWolves’ that your man should NOT read the Testimonials Forum for the very reason we both stated, that is, avoiding “expectations”! That said, after you have given him this wonderful surprise gift, I think it would be equally wonderful for you to immediately direct him to the valuable information in the links I pointed to you, which are a part of this site, so he can learn how to get the most from his new Helix. The information in those links is not “hype” or exaggerations but good solid information that will make his learning easier, especially if he does not approach this experience with false or inaccurate notions which can lead to frustrating expectations.
    I think that after one experiences some pleasure from their initial Aneros rewiring sessions, then reading some of the testimonials can provide motivation to keep them going through the inevitable plateau periods. I think it most important to give the truthful information before the glowing hyperbole. The fact is many men will not get to the same levels of pleasure as some of those reports would imply, but he can certainly experience his own level of joy through Aneros use.

    My advice – DO Tell about the WIKI, Don’t tell about the “Testimonials”.



    Okay -- question (I know... I'm full of them)... without prior info, how do I introduce this to him without humiliating him?? Even if I have to back off and not participate (really, really disappointing, but I'd do this for him)??? Do I explain to him what the "health" benefits of this are before directing him to WIKI or do I just give it to him with a link? I wish he were reading this to understand my concern and wish to be a part of this... but suspect that even if he knew, he'd not reply (even anonomously) due to embarrassment. Hey K -- when I do provide you this link, I hope you know I love you and want to be a part of your sexuality... even the embarrassing to you parts. :)
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,254
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    OnAMission,

    I am assuming you will personally hand him this gift and that you will have access to the website immediately thereafter. Your dialogue might go something like this :

    “Honey, after last weeks exciting discovery of a new erotic play area on your body, I started doing some research on why this is so. I am amazed what I have found out in a short time about a man’s possibilities to experience pleasure and the core of that pleasure is his prostate. I had no idea you guys had that little jewel so well hidden. As I went on the web to learn more about just what makes you tick and the prostate in general I discovered that prostate massage is actually a very ancient eastern practice for maintaining a man’s sexual health but western medicine hasn’t yet caught up to some of this eastern wisdom. So as I read more I kept coming across the name Aneros associated with prostate massage. It turns out this company is considered the premier prostate massage manufacturer in the world and has a patent on their design. So, I went onto their web site to do some reading and learn more about this fascinating area of men’s sexuality. After reading the manufacturers literature, I thought this is too good to be true so I went over to the user Forum to see what the real male users had to say about this toy. After reading for awhile, I was convinced this was more than a typical sex toy so I went ahead and bought one for you. I want you to know that I care very much for you and want you to experience as much joy in life as you can, so here it is.”



    “It turns out this simple little device can lead to some pretty intense pleasure once a guy learns how to use it. I found out they have a lot of good information in a user compiled information section called the Aneros WIKI where I printed out some of the information to help you get started.”



    “If you’d like we could go take a look at it together right now or I could write down the web address so you could look at it later, anyways this information and the information in the package should get you started on a whole new adventure that I hope you’ll soon invite me to play along with you too.”
  • rumel said:

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    OnAMission,

    I am assuming you will personally hand him this gift and that you will have access to the website immediately thereafter. Your dialogue might go something like this :

    “Honey, after last weeks exciting discovery of a new erotic play area on your body, I started doing some research on why this is so. I am amazed what I have found out in a short time about a man’s possibilities to experience pleasure and the core of that pleasure is his prostate. I had no idea you guys had that little jewel so well hidden. As I went on the web to learn more about just what makes you tick and the prostate in general I discovered that prostate massage is actually a very ancient eastern practice for maintaining a man’s sexual health but western medicine hasn’t yet caught up to some of this eastern wisdom. So as I read more I kept coming across the name Aneros associated with prostate massage. It turns out this company is considered the premier prostate massage manufacturer in the world and has a patent on their design. So, I went onto their web site to do some reading and learn more about this fascinating area of men’s sexuality. After reading the manufacturers literature, I thought this is too good to be true so I went over to the user Forum to see what the real male users had to say about this toy. After reading for awhile, I was convinced this was more than a typical sex toy so I went ahead and bought one for you. I want you to know that I care very much for you and want you to experience as much joy in life as you can, so here it is.”



    “It turns out this simple little device can lead to some pretty intense pleasure once a guy learns how to use it. I found out they have a lot of good information in a user compiled information section called the Aneros WIKI where I printed out some of the information to help you get started.”



    “If you’d like we could go take a look at it together right now or I could write down the web address so you could look at it later, anyways this information and the information in the package should get you started on a whole new adventure that I hope you’ll soon invite me to play along with you too.”



    GREAT Info!!! Thank you very much!
  • kaco
    Posts: 12
    Anamission,
    Also consider...
    Like a fine diner, presentation is everything.
    I don't know your relationship but just based on my relationship, I am/was open minded but also a homophobe (small town trucker). So wording is very important, to me ass toy is to doll as prostate massager is to action figure lol. Imo aneros is not gay, but using a dildo shaped like a dick is on its way to beening gay (there is nothing wrong with gay some men get bent out of shape because they are homophobes).
    With Rumel's dialogue as a starting point and your personal touches, I think you could be onto something.
    Timing is also important. I fine my self more open during foreplay like most ppl. I don't think I would talk about it over dinner or after an orgasm. (ok, that was a stupid point)
    Be perpared for the worst and the results can only be better. Don't be upset if he doesn't show an interest. Like any gift its the thought.. He may never use it and delievered right it should only bring you two together more. If you believe its staring to go wrong just concern your self with him not the aneros. Give it a few weeks or so, he just might not be on the same page as you. Let him bring the subject up.
    Aneros is NOT a plug and play model don't expect major gains over night.
    last don't forget to acesorize.
    Make sure you read about lube. Don't use your $ store vasaline. I have used FDA appoved lube and sometimes asterglide. It is very important to find out what is good and what is harmful know one likes a pain in the ass.

    It is hard to be open minded in regards to race and sexuality when you grow/live in a small town. I am not racist (my wife is 1/2 black,my friend is gay)and I would like to change a joke... with been hot and sweaty a co-worker says " I am sweating like a black guy trying to read" (very wrong) it should be, I am sweating like kaco trying to spell. lol.
    Thanks for your encouragement Rumel

    Anamission wrote "If your wife could do ONE thing to put you at ease in the bedroom, what would it be? If your wife were to perform for you first, would you feel more comfortable as a couple? I'm curious what would put your mind at ease that you weren't being judged or laughed at??"
    One thing she could do, is tell me more of what she wants. (talking sexy to a woman is sexual harassment, a woman talking sexy to a man is $5.99 a minute)
    I love it when she performs anything lol, first would be a bonus. Yes, it does make me feel closer to her. To have her horny and relaxed with me is great. love it, even after 9 years with her.
    I guess, if she was to try the aneros on her self. (as if)
  • kaco said:

    Anamission,
    Also consider...
    Like a fine diner, presentation is everything.
    I don't know your relationship but just based on my relationship, I am/was open minded but also a homophobe (small town trucker). So wording is very important, to me ass toy is to doll as prostate massager is to action figure lol. Imo aneros is not gay, but using a dildo shaped like a dick is on its way to beening gay (there is nothing wrong with gay some men get bent out of shape because they are homophobes).
    With Rumel's dialogue as a starting point and your personal touches, I think you could be onto something.
    Timing is also important. I fine my self more open during foreplay like most ppl. I don't think I would talk about it over dinner or after an orgasm. (ok, that was a stupid point)
    Be perpared for the worst and the results can only be better. Don't be upset if he doesn't show an interest. Like any gift its the thought.. He may never use it and delievered right it should only bring you two together more. If you believe its staring to go wrong just concern your self with him not the aneros. Give it a few weeks or so, he just might not be on the same page as you. Let him bring the subject up.
    Aneros is NOT a plug and play model don't expect major gains over night.
    last don't forget to acesorize.
    Make sure you read about lube. Don't use your $ store vasaline. I have used FDA appoved lube and sometimes asterglide. It is very important to find out what is good and what is harmful know one likes a pain in the ass.

    It is hard to be open minded in regards to race and sexuality when you grow/live in a small town. I am not racist (my wife is 1/2 black,my friend is gay)and I would like to change a joke... with been hot and sweety a co-worker says " I am sweeting like a black guy trying to read" (very wrong) it should be, I am sweeting like kaco trying to spell. lol.
    Thanks for your encouragement Rumel

    Anamission wrote "If your wife could do ONE thing to put you at ease in the bedroom, what would it be? If your wife were to perform for you first, would you feel more comfortable as a couple? I'm curious what would put your mind at ease that you weren't being judged or laughed at??"
    One thing she could do, is tell me more of what she wants. (talking sexy to a woman is sexual harassment, a woman talking sexy to a man is $5.99 a minute)
    I love it when she performs anything lol, first would be a bonus. Yes, it does make me feel closer to her. To have her horny and relaxed with me is great. love it, even after 9 years with her.
    I guess, if she was to try the aneros on her self. (as if)



    Kaco -- I live in Alabama (if that explains any phobias to you). Your "homophobia" is common here, although I don't share it (when my Dad died, it was the homoxexual community that brought me out of my funk -- and I still respect them and love them today), I understand it. Your openess to help me is greatly appreciated. The Helix arrived today and I've had a chance to read the package - it's not a testimonial such as yours. YOU (with your insecurities) are so in line with my guy --- I don't want to "use" you, but I want you to know that I'm here to share with you and learn from you. I hope you are not offended that I laughed at the "One thing she could do, is tell me more of what she wants. (talking sexy to a woman is sexual harassment, a woman talking sexy to a man is $5.99 a minute)" comment -- that was hysterical!! :)
  • rumel said:

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    OnAMission,

    I am assuming you will personally hand him this gift and that you will have access to the website immediately thereafter. Your dialogue might go something like this :

    “Honey, after last weeks exciting discovery of a new erotic play area on your body, I started doing some research on why this is so. I am amazed what I have found out in a short time about a man’s possibilities to experience pleasure and the core of that pleasure is his prostate. I had no idea you guys had that little jewel so well hidden. As I went on the web to learn more about just what makes you tick and the prostate in general I discovered that prostate massage is actually a very ancient eastern practice for maintaining a man’s sexual health but western medicine hasn’t yet caught up to some of this eastern wisdom. So as I read more I kept coming across the name Aneros associated with prostate massage. It turns out this company is considered the premier prostate massage manufacturer in the world and has a patent on their design. So, I went onto their web site to do some reading and learn more about this fascinating area of men’s sexuality. After reading the manufacturers literature, I thought this is too good to be true so I went over to the user Forum to see what the real male users had to say about this toy. After reading for awhile, I was convinced this was more than a typical sex toy so I went ahead and bought one for you. I want you to know that I care very much for you and want you to experience as much joy in life as you can, so here it is.”



    “It turns out this simple little device can lead to some pretty intense pleasure once a guy learns how to use it. I found out they have a lot of good information in a user compiled information section called the Aneros WIKI where I printed out some of the information to help you get started.”



    “If you’d like we could go take a look at it together right now or I could write down the web address so you could look at it later, anyways this information and the information in the package should get you started on a whole new adventure that I hope you’ll soon invite me to play along with you too.”



    I followed your guideline, but not verbatim - it worked!! We played, he played, we played again! WOW! 2 hours, 2 showers later - I'm exhausted! I've never known him to be so frisky (or open - he admitted he liked his new toy [mine too] and thanked me for it). The funniest comment was, "Hmmm.... interesting... I think I'll have to take this home and do a little more research." Ha, ha -- he "researched" it here to his liking, but wants more already! I love it!

    When I got out of the first shower (been cleaning/shampooing rugs for a reappraisal to refinance at the record low interest rates currently on the market), he was lying naked in my bed when I got out. Needless to say, I didn't fret to put on any clothes and just climbed in next to him (this was about 7PM). After our little discussion (almost immediately started with him when I laid next to him), he just giggled. So I explained a little about what I'd read about the prostate and how to massage it manually, but worried that with what I was reading that it might be uncomfortable due to location or pressure points that I did not feel he'd be comfortable to direct me or stop me, especially if the nails (fairly long at times) were to start damaging him due indirection. Then I told him as I continued to do research that the Aneros kept coming up over and over again and that after reading the testimonials over several sites, that it would do what I would be too insecure in myself to do for him manually due to the reasons I stated. Within 2 minutes of that open discussion, he was willing to give it a try so long as I was willing to let him snack at Y in the meantime - deals were made. The first time, I could tell every time he got a "feeling" from it from the giggles and throbbing. They took awhile to kick in (30 minutes or more) and began coming in multiple waves (and multiple giggles) and that's what lead to our second shower (and him removing the Helix).

    He had to take it into the shower with us to give his new little friend a bath too, I got out first and went to the kitchen for something to drink, here he comes (both of us still naked) to get himself something to drink, turned and grinned and went back to bed. I figured since it was a little after nine and close to his bedtime, that he was snuggling in for the night (until I saw the white handle protruding from his bum). Within 10 minutes he had to get up and run to the restroom). He comes back empty (and handed too).

    As we are lying there, he's kissing my neck and playing in my hair, occasionally giggling (memories) and soon is rock-hard again. We play until my body just gives out from the long day today, but I continue to stroke him until he appears to lose interest. I roll over to go to sleep, only to feel him behind me working himself over manually (now that's a first - he's NEVER been aggressive in bed - not with me, and certainly not himself!) About a minute later, he jumps up and heads to the bathroom (I'm thinking to make a nighttime deposit for a quick flush), but comes back out with the Helix inserted for round 3! At this point, I'm grinning but say nothing. He climbs back in bed and says, "roll over." I do, he's working himself, looking me in the face grinning and asks, "where's yours." I pull it out, turn it on, and the first place I place it was at the base of his testis and he's giggling again. I explained how it worked and he wanted to try it. So off we go to insert the We Vibe (which hits me front and center) and he enters center stage where all the good vibrations were going and the Helix is bringing UP the rear (not any less important in being considered “bringing UP the rear” – it was bringing him up rock hard and solid). It didn't take but a couple of strokes, pressing hard and low on his groin area that he starts giggling again -- but this time, *I* feel his wave after wave of orgasms, throbbings, and pulsations inside me. At that point, I just remained still - kissing his neck and enjoying him and enjoying the pleasure we both were getting from these 2 devices coupled up. That was the most aroused, sustaining, and orgasmic sex we've had since we met (WoW-o-WoW).

    Since you guys were so kind to offer a girl some advice -- I thought I share with you that your pupil did listen and did learn enough from each of you to take it to heart – and am amazed at how easily it worked! Fabulous! Now I'm going to take my tired butt to bed -- I'm sure to have a "hard day’s work" ahead of me in the morning! ;):)

    P.S. I won't direct him to the forums -- if he finds them on his own, it's because he's researching his new toy himself for other information (but I think he already is intriqued enough with what it will do and instantly "got it" on how to squeeze/relax - so I'd imagine he's going to search for those testimonials I read about to see if he can pick up a trick or two [extremely smart man, follows directions well]).

    Thanks again to all who responded!
  • rumelrumel
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    OnAMission,

    I am happy to hear that your present was warmly accepted and that you have both launched yourselves into a new level of sensual awareness that may have no boundaries. You’ve only touched the outer layer of this experience, I wish you the best exploring these new ecstatic frontiers.
    Thanks for your report of the initial experience but I do hope you will let him know about our wonderful little Forum here to get answers to questions not discussed in the WIKI.
  • Wow!! Congrats Girl!! You're hard research and dedication has shown its rewards. Great job. 8)