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My problems with anal stimulation
  • So I've tried a few toys (and an occasional tongue) in the past, but I recently bought the Aneros to give it a whirl because of the claim that it can give full-body orgasms. I've been working on it, but haven't made much progress thus far. I know manual stimulation is discouraged by using the Aneros, but my question is more about anal stimulation in general... My problem with anal stimulation is that when ANYTHING is inside me, if I touch my dick I cum almost immediately. I'm 22 years old, and for the past few years I've been able to have multiple orgasms and also go all night long. But if I get off with something inside me, I'm done for the night. Will using the Aneros help me with this "problem"? Are there any specific tips for how to enjoy anal stimulation but become less sensitive to manual stimulation while doing so?
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,460
    Hi collegeguy21bi,

    If anything, the Aneros in place may make you more susceptible to premature ejaculation. Think about it, you are now adding three new areas of sexual stimulation into your erotization. You will now be stimulating 1) Your Prostate, 2) Your Anus and 3) Your Perineum simultaneously.
    The full-body orgasms described are in conjunction with experiencing a Super-O (see - ) and are obtained primarily without penile stimulation. You may be pursuing a 'fool’s quest' attempting to obtain those full-body orgasms through conventional penile masturbatory techniques combined with the Aneros massagers. It is possible some of the commercially available desensitizing cremes may slow the ejaculatory inevitability, but once you ejaculate, the Super-O is postponed until the full refractory period has occured.
    I suggest you do some extensive reading in the WIKI to more fully understand the journey upon which you are embarking.
  • darwindarwin
    Posts: 1,335

    what rumel says might be the case or might not. by learning how to enjoy prostate stimulation and getting used to it, you might find that everything gets in line. typically premature ejac is treated by exposure training, working up to increased stimulation, which you could work on w/ the aneros in place. plus, many men find that the locus of their sensitivity shifts from the penis to the areas touched by the aneros. and, in general, the aneros improves most things sexual.

    i would say it is definitely worth a try. plus, it has the added benefit of opening up a world of new sensations and pleasures.

    also, for me, i can often continue to have orgasms after i cum, so i think you might be ok even if you do cum, which could temporarily desensitize your penis while you concentrate on the other feelings.

  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,460

    Darwin makes a good point about using the Aneros as an exposure training tool. If you are willing to look at your initial sessions as training exercises and dealing with the frustration of some quick ejaculation episodes, it is probably worth the effort. I would recommend you begin such training with the Peridise model as it is less stimulating to the prostate and perineum areas and thus less likely to trigger your early ejaculation.
    I defer to Darwin’s judgment here as he has much more experience in Aneros usage than I. Your questions illustrate the multiple views one can have on a particular issue.