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Aneros vs Digital Stimulation
  • My wife has offered to help me "get into the groove" while sorting out the feelings coming from my prostate by giving a manual massage. She is willing to be a live version of our favorite toy but I have two questions:

    a) Would she likely be more successful with a gloved finger than the Aneros used by an amatuer? I really don't see her doing this for months with no result.

    b) Would it cause me any set backs in learning to use the Aneros?


    Any advice would be welcome.
  • mobilesub said:

    My wife has offered to help me "get into the groove" while sorting out the feelings coming from my prostate by giving a manual massage. She is willing to be a live version of our favorite toy but I have two questions:

    a) Would she likely be more successful with a gloved finger than the Aneros used by an amatuer? I really don't see her doing this for months with no result.

    b) Would it cause me any set backs in learning to use the Aneros?


    Any advice would be welcome.



    A) If she was trained in that sort of thing, I'd say yes. However I think you're probably better off sticking with the Aneros. Less potential risk of injury and it will help teach you which muscles to use.

    B) If you're substituting a massage in favor of using the Aneros, I'd say yes. Used in conjunction with Aneros sessions though, I don't think there should be a problem.

    I am not a trained professional and can't even achieve a super o by myself let alone a mini o or anything close to an orgasm so this is more of an opinion than advice.
  • Hi Mobilesub, I have been thinking about your post as to how I would respond if my wife offered the same and it prompted me to respond to you. The questions you pose are relative to the Aneros Super O journey. There is another journey involved here and that is the journey towards greater and greater intimacy with your wife. I think it would be awkward for me, but very worth the stretch to allow my wife to masage me. If your wife were to read up on it, and you took it slow together, it seems to me that the progress in your mutual journey to greater intimacy would trump any lack of progress in the solo quest. I hope this was helpful to you, your question sure got me thinking - maybe I will have the blessing of entertaining such an offer some day. Happy Holidays, grateful
  • Well, it could have been better.

    I really have no issues inserting the Aneros but despite repeatedly lubricating her single finger, it felt like she was trying to insert her elbow. I tried to relax and breath deeply to loosen things up but she didn't feel much change and it was uncomfortable at times.

    Despite the discomfort, she was able to learn a little about my anatomy and find the edge of my prostate. It was difficult for me to keep a breathing regime going and there were times when I was about to crawl out of my skin. I honestly can't tell you if it was intusion of her finger or that she was actually stroking my prostate but I was frequently hyperventilating and begging her to slow down.

    I think she actually hit square center of the prostate when all pain disappeared and my lower body felt 'lit up and very sensitive.' We did our best to communicate and it was clear when I enjoying myself but I have to write that one off as a learning experience. She actually called it off for fear of hurting me and probably because there was no blood left in her finger from the tournequette wrapped around it.

    There were no ill effects and I could tell later that she had been in the neighborhood as I had the usual prostate 'buzzing' that I feel after the Aneros for several hours. We might try again but I have got to find a way to relax and do a better job of helping her understand that slower is better. It was a unique experience that I'm willing to try again once I have done a little more research.

    Perhaps it is more akin to the doctor's office but would it make it easier for her if I was on hands and knees as opposed to being on my back? The doc doesn't linger but his finger is larger than my wife's and there isn't any pain when he does it. I may have just been anxious about who I was with and what we were doing but there has to be a better way.
  • artformartform
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    This is a great topic. Having been away from this forum for too many months, and not wanting to repeat earlier posts in threads here on related topics in May to September or so last year, let me just add this: my wife, shortly after we acquired my MGX last year, while she was riding me one evening reached back and inserted her finger easily into my relaxed and open anus and when she reached my prostate it's pulsing and "reaching", along with the complex of other muscle, blood vessel and nerve electricity going on inside me captured her imagination.

    We do this regularly, mixed with me using the MGX during our sessions and a variety of other positions. We did this while simultaneously exploring her G-spot (the female "prostate") in its full potential and her desire to achieve full female ejaculatory orgasms. That too has gone wonderfully.

    Our Wedding Band position has us side by side, each one's head to the other's toes, her finger inside me and delicately massaging my prostate and my finger(s) or thumb in her and gently slowly massaging her prostate just inside on the roof of her vagina. We both enjoy each other's verbal quiet descriptions of the sensations felt through the fingers inside. It creates another level of resonance in the building, building experience.

    For me, I soon reach a baseline of erotic energetics, what Buster and rorymuscle (Hi again guys!) are describing as the BLO, and my wife can easily bring on many MMO's and boost me to repeated waves of full body convulsive SO highs. Our sessions last at least a couple of hours in this position and often end with her "flowing waters of the goddess" and me moving to a full erection and fountaining upwards and all over us.

    Males and females are variations on a theme based on the same originating tissues during our foetal development. This is one path to equally, joyously sharing common neural pathways to ecstasy. The MGX is still the best assist for my BPH therapy, which was also a reason for trying aneros in the first place. I wish you and your wife patience and slow, gentle, relaxed persistence. The results can be transcendent!

    We enjoy another position with her fingering me and with me semi-erect in her vagina and focused on her G-spot and surrounding inflating tissues, not me having an ejaculation, but enjoying repeated non-ejaculatory Os of all degrees slowly and gently while also doing energy flow exchange. On occasion, we also add in use of the Key Sound (Jack Johnson's KSMO techniques) and share the resultant energy flows. More transcendence! All the best to you and your wife.