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  • Anonicos
    Posts: 57
    I'm 18 but a virgin, although have no intention of that being true for much longer.

    However I am deeply, deeply sexual. It's a big psychological deal for me. I become extremely jealous when I see extreme female orgasms like squirting and g spot orgasms in porn, because I don't just want to give those, I want to have them.

    I am hoping the Aneros can bring me those orgasms.

    However, I have recently been trying to stimulate my prostate with a finger/banana, and I don't seem to be able to locate or feel it. I can't get any different sensation put of touching it.

    Sometimes, if I have my finger up there and sort of push and massage where diagrams tell me my prostate should theoretically be, and I lie real still and focus, I can feel a sort of... icy, radiating pleasure somewhere deep down, but it's pretty weak and it's easy to lose.


    I am wondering, what steps should I take to prepare myself for the Aneros, or is it possible my prostate is simply not capable of having these sensations?
  • darwindarwin
    Posts: 1,195
    anonicos-

    the failure of your experimentation to find the spots does not mean that your prostate is not capable of those feelings. don't worry, it is capable.

    sounds like you are burdened w/ a bit of desperation, both in your need to have big orgasms and in your concern that your body might be "incapable."

    you asked what you can do to prepare. i would say the answer is to understand that high expectations or desperation is a common cause of frustration in aneros users.

    here are two specific things to do:
    - (important) look up on the web how to do relaxation exercises and start doing them every day. they are awesome in many ways and will definitely help with the aneros
    - start using your finger on your nipples, perineum and anus, without involving your penis (aneros is penis-less stimulation).

    the aneros is half sexual stimulation and half self-discovery.

    also, i assume you have seen the other threads discussing the pros and cons of getting started with the aneros at your young age. if not, do some surfing of this forum to get perspective before you take the plunge.

    darwin
  • rumelrumel
    Posts: 2,257
    Anonicos,

    Welcome to the Forum.

    If you haven't already read it, as 'darwin' suggested, read 'Fluflu's thread/post "Just turned 18, I want to get a Helix... Comments?" (just down the page a short bit) for related input.

    I speculate that most of the Aneros users would also classify themselves as "deeply sexual", so you're amongst men who have that in common. I detect in your post some unrealistic expectations. Remember pornography is not reality, it's choreographed fantasy. Being "extremely jealous" of fictionalized action is hardly a positive approach to entering a new learning experience, which the Aneros useage would be. Such an attitude and expectations are likely to leave you very frustrated and disappointed when your expectations are not met in reality. The super-O's that have been described in this Forum are real, deeply emotional, non-ejaculatory, orgasmic experiences, quite different from the ejaculatory type with which you are familiar. They are the result of focused, unforced, mind/body cooperation in relaxed states of being. They don't happen just because you stick the Aneros up youir butt!

    As to your self stimulation of your prostate, your experience is very typical, the initial sensations one receives from the prostate are indeed subtle and "... pretty weak... easy to lose". Paradoxically, those are the very sensations that with "re-wiring" lead to the super-O, so it is very likely that your prostate is capable, but you need to have an equally capable mind set for success.

    As to the steps you might take to prepare for the Aneros, in addition to 'darwin's suggestions, I would highly recommend that you first read the Sticky post written by 'B.Mayfield' titled "B's Keys to the Backdoor" , additionally read the WIKI "GLOSSARY". There is a wealth of essential information contained within those items. That information is going to save you a great deal of time during your learning process, plus they will answer a good number of questions you haven't yet formulated.

    Good Vibes to You!
  • Anonicos said:


    However, I have recently been trying to stimulate my prostate with a finger/banana, and I don't seem to be able to locate or feel it. I can't get any different sensation put of touching it.



    If there were other, easy solo methods or toys to do effective prostate massage, no one would be paying $50-$90 for an aneros.

    I held off buying thinking "That thing CAN'T be worth that much; there MUST be other similar toys that are cheaper." I was half right: there are cheaper toys, but I could not find a single one with the advantages & track record of the aneros products. In fact, I'm constantly amazed at how BADLY designed most anal toys are.
  • canadian
    Posts: 30
    Anonicos said:

    I'm 18 but a virgin, although have no intention of that being true for much longer.

    However I am deeply, deeply sexual. It's a big psychological deal for me. I become extremely jealous when I see extreme female orgasms like squirting and g spot orgasms in porn, because I don't just want to give those, I want to have them.

    I am hoping the Aneros can bring me those orgasms.

    However, I have recently been trying to stimulate my prostate with a finger/banana, and I don't seem to be able to locate or feel it. I can't get any different sensation put of touching it.

    Sometimes, if I have my finger up there and sort of push and massage where diagrams tell me my prostate should theoretically be, and I lie real still and focus, I can feel a sort of... icy, radiating pleasure somewhere deep down, but it's pretty weak and it's easy to lose.


    I am wondering, what steps should I take to prepare myself for the Aneros, or is it possible my prostate is simply not capable of having these sensations?



    Oh I think your prostate is just fine, by your age its well developed.
  • Morn
    Posts: 52
    Hey there Anonicos,

    Just wondered how things are going and whether you decided to bite the bullet.

    I got my aneros when I was 19 and if I am honest I simply did not have enough patients with it, now at the age of 24 I can say how annoyed I am with myself for leaving it unused and in a box for way to long.

    Its a great product that produces a great feeling, get on and try it, keep on going and things will happen.

    Good luck and keep us posted.

    Morn
  • gravel
    Posts: 53
    I agree that the aneros requires a certain amount of maturity to get anywhere. If I have tried it in high school, or maybe even in college, I don't think I would have gotten far.