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try not to orgasm
  • darwindarwin
    Posts: 1,357
    a lot of us are saying something similar, which is to relax and enjoy what you have instead of pushing towards something better.

    in previous posts i have suggested trying to supress or relax away muscular twitching and jerking, impulses to moan, and other involuntary responses to increasing arousal. i also described how to have a "relaxed" traditional orgasm, by avoiding the standard male response to hold one's breath in the upper chest and to clench the PC muscles, straining towards orgasm. instead try relaxing those impulses and let the orgasm come to you.

    i made these suggestions because i have found that those impulses disippate sexual tension and pleasure rather than build it. (this is not to say that we want to supress the involuntary rhythms of our anal sphincter and other muscles down there that are actually driving the pleasure. those you do want!)

    it was the combination of soft palete nursing and relaxing through those impulses that first focused my sexual energy into dry orgasms.

    many of us are also reporting that, once wired, arousal and p-waves can kind of come up on you from nowhere, and, unless actively supressed, will grow pretty strong, regardless of where you are or what you're doing, enabling us to orgasm pretty much anywhere, if desired.

    today i tried something a little new.

    a particular happy/naughty pastime of mine is to allow p-waves to grow while i'm walking to/from work. (nobody knows... this is not exhibitionism or any other intrusion on others). it just feels wonderful to be striding along the sidewalk glowing in my pelvic parts. sometimes i have tried and succeeded in having mini-O's while walking.

    tonight, instead, i tried the opposite: to supress my inclination to go to a climax.

    here is what i found: that by relaxing through those orgasm impulses my pleasure got more intense. it is kind of like "edging" with traditional stimulation. just hold onto the pleasure without letting it go into climax.

    this leads me to the paradox that probably the best way to have an intense orgasm is to try (gently and relaxedly) to not have one.

  • BusterBuster
    Posts: 953
    Wow Darwin, you are on quite the journey! I really have been enjoying your posts and am anxious to try some of your techniques myself.

    Keep 'em coming, brother!

    The weekend is almost here!

  • hlaser99hlaser99
    Posts: 785
    (this post was edited 2006-10-20 05:28:04)

    Hi Darwin!

    I enjoy your posts very much, because you are always finding new ways to improve "The Journey"...

    I am very glad that you, so freely, offer these nuggets over to everyone so we can share and with such TLC!

    Thanks, Dude!

    And as Buster says: Keep 'em coming, brother!

    Later, Hlaser
  • Now this is were I am now getting confused.

    I'm sure their is quite a few like me that have had our Aneros for a year without the achievements you have had.
    Previous post I completely understood. Relax Realx Relax. All that makes perfect sense. However this post has left me wondering what the hell I'm supposed to do. All the things I have been assuming is on the right lines ie Involuntaries,shaking etc your now saying is a bad thing?

    I just don't get it anymore. all you new users that have success straight out of the box are so damn lucky. A year I've been at this :o(
  • Hey, hang in there, virginsoldier. It took me something like 2 years to have my first "yes-I'm-sure-that-was-it" Super-O. I certainly don't play regularly, and I'm still trying to get it to a point of being able to see the fireworks every time. It takes patience, relaxation, and a certain degree of stubborness. But when you can have a good session and walk away on shaky knees, or when you tell a female friend about it and she says, "Damn, for once I'm jealous--I didn't have that many last night!" Yeah, it's fun.

    Darwin, thanks for the suggestions! You guys who come up with this stuff are the ones lighting the way for the rest of us. The soft-palate thing sounds great, can't wait to try it. Don't think I'm quite ready to orgasm by trying not to orgasm...but I hope I do reach that point.
  • Billy11Billy11
    Posts: 272

    Thanks to SirSlamz for referencing this post. I remember reading it years ago and it helped me out a lot. It helped me to try to relax the feelings I was feeling instead of trying to encourage then which instead made the feelings stronger. Who'd a thought the more you try to relax the p-waves or prostate pleasure the more intense it could become.