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Advice requested
  • Hello,
    I have been a user for approximately 10 years now. I have multiple models and experience pleasurable sensations from all of them. I rarely have the opportunity to have a session; maybe once every 2-3 weeks if I am lucky. The infrequency of my sessions is due to family obligations.

    I am looking for advice on how to progress on my journey. I occasionally have pleasurable sensations during my sessions that result in an increase in my heart rate and typically an erection. I try to relax through these spells but they typically end in a complete loss of sensation. Following these exciting moments I seem to lose all sexual motivation and the session simply becomes a dud.

    What advice do you experts out there have on keeping the pleasurable sensations flowing while avoiding the overkill/dud session zone that I keep finding myself in?
  • PommiePommie
    Posts: 991
    Hi @liquidflow,

    I am sure there are many members of this forum who, like me, would like to help you. First up, I must say "hats off to you" for sticking with this for ten years and your loyalty to the concept deserves reward. For us to be of much assistance, I think we need a little more information.

    Probably the most telling statement in the information you have provided so far is the phrase "due to family obligations". That one has met puzzled!

    Does this mean you are a full-time or part-time carer?
    Does it mean that you simply don't have private time to yourself more than once in every two or three weeks?
    What about when you are in bed at night trying to get some sleep? Are you alone then?
    From what you have told us, I'm guessing that you are aged at least in your late twenties but are you older than this?
    Are you married or living with a partner? If so, is it possible to involve that significant other person in your journey?
    How long are your bi- or tri-weekly sessions?
    Do you have a favourite Aneros tool or one that you use most frequently?

    I vividly recall that during the first few sessions I had back in 2009, (with an SGX), that the most obvious response to the presence of the tool was a rapid heartbeat. That continued for the first few weeks but then settled down. It seems to me that your body has still not become accustomed to the presence of the tool and every session you have feels like almost the first session you have ever had!

    I do believe that others on the forum will agree with me that one session every 2 to 3 weeks is simply not enough, (unless of course that each session lasts for twenty odd hours, lol). I note that you also mention that, after a few moments of excitement, there is a loss of sexual motivation. That tells me that maybe your sessions, when they do occur, are a bit long.

    Seriously, IMHO, the best favour you could do yourself, would be to increase the number of sessions you devote to this activity to two or three each week for a few months. Let your body know you mean business! Would be happy to discuss this further if you are interested. (PM me if you would like).

    I do hope this has been of some help and I look forward to seeing what others might contribute to this thread.

    The very best of luck to you and may you continue to enjoy the journey.
  • Theme_GasmTheme_Gasm
    Posts: 721
    Agreed...two to three sessions per week would be a great way to help kick things into a higher gear!

    TG
  • rookrook
    Posts: 1,703
    I suggest giving "Anerosless" sessions (aka "-less" sessions) a try. 

    These practices involve mental imagery, some physical (muscular) manipulation and cultivation of body stim points (nipples, soft pallet, thighs etc.)(

    Similarily, you might consider adopting a KSMO (Key Sound) approach to bring orgasmic pleasure into your life. < http://www.multiples.com/orgasmforum/  >

    The advantage is that there is minimal physical prep involved in a -less session and no post session cleanup.  KSMO is a bit noisy so you may have to take refuge in the barn. or in a well soundproofed automobile.  The hazard is that you might find -less or KSMO distracting to the "inserted side" of your practice. 

    Perhaps a daily "-less" or KSMO session along with three or four Aneros (inserted) sessions a month might support a journey compatible with your family situation.   

    The Forum and Chat do have several men who have been quite successful with -less sessions.   @artform, @bsmith14 more recently @twlltin report dependable responses to -less.  @Rumel has been a regular in the KSMO Forum sponsored by Jack Johnston.

    All the best.   ... rook


  • Hello Pommie,
    Thank you for your response. My "family obligations" would be being married and having two young children,ages 2 and 3 months. Having young children does not allow for many opportunities to get away and have some private alone time for a session. The periods of time that my wife and I have where our children are asleep are infrequent and short. We spend those times either catching up with one another or taking the opportunity to have sex.

    My wife is aware of my aneros use and she is somewhat supportive. She is more than willing to give me a prostate massage and on rare occasion allow me the opportunity to have an aneros session. It is a bit awkward to retire to the bedroom for a couple of hours while she is taking care of the kids so this happens very infrequently. The majority of my sessions take place when my wife is elsewhere and the kids are asleep.

    My sessions typically last around 60-90 minutes. The model that I use most frequently is the MGX but I also have the eupho, helix, maximus, progasm, helix syn, and peridise models. I find that I have similar results with all models aside from the progasm and peridise. The progasm seems to be large and the intense pressure it provides dulls the pleasurable sensations I get with the other models.

    When I have a session I typically go for the "do nothing" approach. About 10 minutes after insertion I am able to relax and begin to experience some subtle pleasurable sensations. During some sessions I get some small involuntary contractions which lead to an increase in heart rate which makes me think that I am about to have an orgasm but it just never seems to happen. I try to relax into the feelings and let the aneros take over but the increased heart rate usually dies down after a minute or two and the pleasure fizzles out with it. After this occurs I can't seem to get that experience/sensation back during the same session. I usually try some small contractions to get the involuntaries going again but I am always unsuccessful.

    Do you have any further advice on how I can either get the increased heart rate pleasurable involuntary experience to last longer or how I can generate the involuntary response after it happens once? I feel like I am getting close to having an orgasm but I just can't seem to get the feelings to last long enough to amount to anything that is more than just slightly pleasurable.
  • inhopeinhope
    Posts: 934
    Same sort of story here, much less time for me, 4 years, things changed when decided to try actively contracting the device and my muscles but do MICRO movements, lots of little small movements and I mean tiny, then stop then start again no heavy tenses. I also would hold a contraction 25% strength, you are like me and need subtle movement with smaller devices I think.
  • PommiePommie
    Posts: 991
    Hello @liquidflow,

    Ah! Now I see precisely where you are coming from and my sympathies go to you and your beloved.

    You don't need me to tell you that, unless you continue to make babies, your period of sleep deprivation has but a finite time to run.

    In the meantime, might I suggest a few weeks of "Peridise" therapy? I found this worked well for me during my re-wiring.

    It consists simply of inserting the 18mm Peridise at bedtime, (having first well lubricated inside with a plug of shea butter or similar), and leaving it in place until at least the first night-time disturbance. Do this three nights a week and simply don't place any expectations on the outcome. I believe you might find such a regimen will, after a few months, cause your prostate to wake up.

    BTW, if you can, try and keep your beloved involved with this process!

    Good luck!
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 1,125
    i think more frequent use will help, but without the time, I have no recommendations.  Maybe put more effort into it when your children are older?  I know where your coming from having three children of my own, though mine are slightly older now which sorta helps.  Your in a tough time period my friend, carry on and eventually you will have some alone time and peace lol.