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My last experience left me with more questions...
  • Alex_xxx
    Posts: 403
    So I had sex with ejaculation with my gf earlier today. So this evening I told her I wanted to insert the aneros, lick her and make her cum, then proceed with my aneros session. The MGX went off to a flying start while I did my bf duty. But couldn't help myself, did her and ejaculated while she rode me. She had to work for it though because I concentrated on the "cookie" thread method, flexing my back pc muscles. This takes alot of the sensations out of the cock, but when I came I had a massive full body orgasm.. Anyways,, tired after the sex she eventually fell asleep after about 10min , and I waited with extracting the mgx (so that it wouldn't be uncomfortable). Now this is where my questions come in, because after recently having ejaculated I didn't expect light contractions to feel good..... And my prostate was pulsing like crazy. Before I knew it I had a super O building up and it ended up being massive!!!! I still can't believe it... This goes against every thread I've read about not ejaculating before a session. And I've noticed myself that this is correct, it's usually easier after an 48hrs non-ejac peiod. This is why I am riddled and posting this to you all.. Anyone else had it happen?
  • Clenchy
    Posts: 80
    I had a great aneros session two hours after traditional masturbation, and I've had dud sessions after abstaining for a week. So I've never held that as a rule.
    For me, what it comes down to is "feeling aroused" versus "needing to cum".
    Abstaining can build up arousal (which is great), but it also leads to a greater desire to ejaculate (which invariably throws my aneros sessions off course).
    Maybe what you had was high arousal with no desire to ejaculate, and no expectations or needs.
    Sounds like the ideal mindset.
  • Alex_xxx
    Posts: 403
    @Clenchy.. that could be it! And yes, could be the ideal mindset. But I wasn`t aroused, not anymore.. I thought it had passed. Maybe I became a bit aroused when the first surprise of the feelings presented themselves. Don`t know... but I certainly won`t (anymore) let a traditional orgasm while using the aneros stop me from having a normal aneros session afterwards. It was great :) Glad to see I`m not the only one!! :)
  • Clenchy
    Posts: 80
    Using the aneros has made me question whether I can really identify all parts of my arousal. There may still be something hidden there under the surface that stays in a high state even after ejaculation. Maybe the part of our arousal (as men) that's surpressed by the refractory period is the only part we're trained (through masturbation) to notice.
    Like, I can't continue masturbating because this part of my arousal is gone, therefore this (and only this) is what arousal is. It's the observable part of arousal.

  • Alex_xxx
    Posts: 403
    I agree, that is plausible! A good conclusion and well described.
  • ineverknewineverknew
    Posts: 834
    @clenchy, makes sense.  Look how long it takes guys on here to realize that prostate massage is not penis centered!! lol  I think alot of guys have prostate orgasms sooner then they think, but don't recongnize them as such because there is no ejaculation.  There is alot to rewiring, and yes, arousal is something I think we have to rewire also, for sure.