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How to tell your wife or GF about Aneros
  • ten_s_nutten_s_nut
    Posts: 888
    Hello, all.

    Based on what I hear in Aneros Chat, there are a lot of guys who have not told their wife or girlfriend about using Aneros. I understand it can be a delicate subject and the risk of being thought of as gay, bi, kinky or just plain deranged is high. Not that there's anything wrong with being gay or bi, but if you're not you don't want your wife to start thinking you might be.

    The place to start is with the topic of health, prostate health and taking preventive action before problems arise. No woman wants her man to have health issues. Point your wife to this website:

    Prostate Massage, Prostate Massagers, Prostatitis BPH Treatment

    HIH is the parent company of Aneros. The HIH website is all health, no sex. Talk to your wife about how you're going to try the prostate massage method. Show her the device. Use it at bedtime for an hour every night.

    After about a month of purely therapeutic massage sessions, mention to your wife that the massage is starting to feel really good, sexy in fact. Then, the next time you have sex, leave the Aneros in and tell her what that feels like. I'm sure you can take it from this point to wherever the two of you would like to go.


  • brinebrine
    Posts: 311
    Great idea, Dave.

    I started the conversation with my wife that way. "Honey, I was looking at sites about prostate health and I stumbled across this site (HIH site). I did more checking and found that these devices are also good for (Aneros site)..."

    I told her about it before I ordered it. Showed it to here when it came (she did giggle a bit). I rode it solo several times. I told her about the things I was experiencing up to then. After several solo sessions, I rode my Helix while with her in bed, holding her hand, and described what was going on right there when it happened. That was a great thing to do. She was/is very happy for me and enjoyed that documentary ride with me.

    Since then she has reaped the benefits of my new found sexual prowess (that is a whole separate subject!!!). We talk about it a lot now and she is completely supportive. Now that I'm at the Aneros-less stage, where I don't need to be riding to have all the feelings/experiences, she loves making me hit all the places my re-wired prostate can take me. Just this morning, she saw me go through all the orgasmic stages I can. It was all because of nipple play between us two. Mini-O's, Dry O's, and many Super O's. She moans and giggles whenever she experiences them with me.

    Talk to your partner, guys. It may be uncomfortable, but the benefits are WELL worth it.

  • CA25CA25
    Posts: 48
    TOTALLY agree Brine. And I would like to hear more about your "new found sexual prowess..."
  • brinebrine
    Posts: 311
    CA25, Private Message me. I'd be happy to share.

  • CA25CA25
    Posts: 48
    Will do. Actually going to have a Helix session with my wife tonight. I want her to get a second orgasm out of me. I have been peaking all day while she was away. The tank is full, so to speak.
  • GeogioGeogio
    Posts: 107
    I would tend to disagree about overwhelming stats of not telling your wife. There are other threads regarding this in which quite a number of users are in close communications with their wives or partners regarding usage.
  • PrograProgra
    Posts: 34
    My gf suggested getting a butt-plug after seeing how much I enjoyed her finger during a BJ.

    So a week later I produced the Progasm saying I had just bought it.
    (I'd had it a while and had a MGX before).

    She loves me wearing it during sex, she gets off on my involuntary spasms whilst I'm inside her.
    After she has climaxed she'll lie next to me caressing my nipples as I go through orgasm after orgasm until I blow.

    It helps we're both open minded.
    She did mention once that she wants to try doing me with a strapon, I won't push the idea but look forward to trying it. :)
  • slimjmslimjm
    Posts: 577
    I first came across the Aneros products doing on-line research on prostate congestion discomfort. Previously I had seen this woman's magazine out in an empty lobby at work with one of those articles about "making sex better for your man" and decided while no one was there to see what I as a guy was supposed to like during sex. Among the interesting suggestions was included a paragraph on prostate massage and I found a way to show the magazine article suggestions to my wife but her response was not merely no, but as in never on your life.

    Some time later when I ordered my Aneros I explained to her about my prostate symptoms and that I'd found a health product to help with it since she was uncomfortable at the thought of helping me with massage. Though I didn't pull it out of the box and show it to her when it arrived, I just told her to not be surprised if she saw a funny shaped piece of plastic in the back of my bathroom drawer should she come across it. I've since pointed out how much it's made my prostate feel better and helped my sexual function but her interest level in it could still best be described as, "You just take care of that yourself."

    And so I have.
  • hulahula
    Posts: 234
    Yeah, that' s pretty much Mrs. Hula's reaction too. She's not into toys.
  • Progra your gf sounds like a total blast :) its great that some women are open, I feel now that im really sexually open and open in general I would need someone like your gf as my partner I have used the aneros ,dabbled with tantra and now I use KSMO so you can see im very much unlike most 23 year olds :)
  • PrograProgra
    Posts: 34
    I'm very lucky, she's amazed that prostate orgasms aren't common knowledge but knows it's not something that is discussed with friends, etc.

    Shame really. I s'pose it's the adventurous of us that research and find out this sort of thing.
  • yes so true :) im so lucky to have come across all of this stuff when I have, it does add so much to my life and my personality towards being open and my own sexuality. I think so many people are so clueless and its sad that more and more these days people have become more cynical and less open.