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  • We were having an engaging conversation in the chatroom this evening and someone suggested we put this up in the forum as there's a lot of interesting points to be understood here.

    [04:53:10] ArcticWolves: when all is said and done it comes down to putting trust into something
    [04:53:31] ArcticWolves: and for men that is hard to do.. it is hard to let go...
    [04:53:50] ArcticWolves: letting go taps into a feminine side of us (society would have us believe)
    [04:54:09] ArcticWolves: letting go and surrendering is a sign of weakness (again society would have us believe)
    [04:54:41] ArcticWolves: unfortunately the men that buy into the upbringing of society's teachings are robbing themselves in the end
    [04:54:45] rikaaim: AW, it's amazing how culture does portray that "weakness" in men, but encourage "toughness" and "boldness" in women.
    [04:55:00] artform: Right on the money shot in all of this AW!!
    [04:55:03] ArcticWolves: ahh yess feminism gotta love it
    [04:55:12] rikaaim: The simple fact is, men have female traits, females have male traits. Both sexes are each a combination of the two genders to
    [04:55:18] ArcticWolves: anywho
    [04:55:29] rikaaim: a degree.
    [04:55:45] ArcticWolves: when all is said and done each is both a human being
    [04:55:46] rikaaim: Well, you can blame me there AW. The reports I've been writing lately are feminist reports.
    [04:55:56] ArcticWolves: none is superior over the other nor weaker
    [04:56:07] rikaaim: Reading hundreds of pages on the feminist movement, and feminism, can be propaganda in itself.
    [04:56:08] ArcticWolves: we were all created equally
    [04:56:14] ArcticWolves: it's society to blame for all the other crap
    [04:56:23] ArcticWolves: and the way were raised
    [04:56:52] ArcticWolves: make no mistake if you aren't in the right frame of mind when putting that little pleasure toy in there's no use...
    [04:57:13] ArcticWolves: anywho
    [04:57:38] ArcticWolves: not to turn this into a feminism rant
    [04:57:47] rikaaim: AW, that's a good point. If you're not in the mood, or right mindset, just don't force anything. That's good advice to new
    [04:58:00] rikaaim: members or those just starting out. If there's frustration, maybe give it a break, recenter, and try again.
    [04:58:17] Hellyes: Someone should capture these thoughts and observations and put in forum. Good stuff. I think it will help others
    [04:58:31] rikaaim: AW, I just want to say that it's great having you back sparking such a lively conversation.
    [04:58:37] artform: Agree Hy!!!
    [04:59:06] artform: Some times I can and do, but unable to tonight.


    So there you have it guys:

    Through no fault of your own you've been raised to buy into the notion that one sex is stronger/greater than the other. If you buy into the fact that men are supposed to act stronger and not surrender towards their feelings (tapping into their feministic side) then you are going to fail miserably with the aneros.

    Approaching an aneros session starts all in the mind. If you aren't in the right frame of reference then you will fail make no mistake. All your efforts will be in vain. What you have to understand guys is you're surrendering to this little pleasure toy is in essence surrendering your entire being to this experience.

    For some men they can do this easier than others. The ones that struggle with this have a hard time of "becoming weaker" for a moment. In becoming weaker we are surrendering our very own manhood teachings of what we've been taught to believe (Never act weak, men don't cry, men are strong... etc.).

    Guys, I cannot say this enough; you must surrender your entire being to this experience. It's only then you will be able to feel the slight sensations and be in-tune/sync with your body. For some you will resist this and struggle to enjoy the wonderful pleasures. Others will fool themselves into thinking they let go but have not entirely let go. This is where we reach the so-called jedi mind tricks. Only YOU will know if you let go. No one can do this for you. You have to do it and open your body and mind up to anything and everything.

    You have never experienced anything like this. There is NOTHING you can relate it to. From here on out it is the beginning.. The beginning of a new journey of finding out about your body. It's a beautiful, fun, and pleasureful journey. Yes, I just said beautiful (oh *(&U*%! he's turning into a... nah...).

    Enjoy your journey and remember to never give up!

    Take Care

    ArcticWolves
  • brine
    Posts: 224
    AW, et al.,

    Well put.

    Pretending to "let go" won't take you anywhere, really. Setting aside any part of ourselves for any reason is SO counter to what we have been taught and what we have observed as men; to overcome is overwhelming. But, the effort to "let go" is far outweighed by the incredible benefits. I am lucky to have been raised by a father who was never afraid to allow his feminine side to show through. I am cut from the same fabric and my "in-touch-ness" is keen, IMHO.

    Surrender, I think, is the ultimate self-revelation.

    Yes, each day is a new, fresh start to becoming fully aware of one's self. So, men, start today (or tomorrow, depending on how late it is!) and take steps to find ALL the parts of you.

    Thanks to AW, Hellyes, rikaaim, and artform for creating and posting this revelation.

    Relax and enjoy the journey,

    Brian