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After stagnating, plateauing, and not progressing - devolving, degressing, unrewiring
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Hi,

    Quick post. My last few sessions have seen me stagnate. I had evolved to the stage where I could have involuntaries once or twice out of 1-3 sessions. But i began to plateau (not sexually, bur progesswise). I didn't see any improvement. I was not progressing beyond that. Then the involuntaries began to lose their former pleasure. Still good, but not what they were.

    Then came the devolution. I began to devolve. My last two sessions, I seem to be unrewiring. I am losing what I had. I cannot even get involuntaries anymore. I have forgotten what default contraction worked for me before. I am degressing back to the stage where sessions consisted of: Aneros in, try, fail, sleep.

    Anybody else in this boat? What do I do?

    I don't have the biggest libido for my age. Not at all really. I have to wait weeks to be ready for an Aneros session. But after a few weeks of not ejaculating, invariably, I have a wet dream, and have to wait to build back up arousal, which unrewires me even more. What I need is a libido where I'm going insane from a need to cum. I was at my horniest when I was laying next to my ex girlfriend. Now all I have is porn, (a bad) imagination and I guess, relaxation.

    I have sessions usually: Mon + Weds. Condom on Aneros. Prelube inside anus. Mild anal contraction held.

    :(
  • cyrezcyrez
    Posts: 109
    I'm a grinder myself, been trying for 15 months to get this thing to work but a thing that puts my libido in high gear is denial, watching porn, but not using a aneros or touching myself, just getting really aroused, but not letting it vent in any way, and then go cold turkey (just walk away, and leave it at that), it usally don't take a spin directly, but i can feel how it crawls back at me a few hours later, that i'm really horny, and later do it again, and again...for days...that usally gets my body really crazy, and that craving to jerk off is very strong, thats how i know it works
  • B MayfieldB Mayfield
    Posts: 2,077
    MyTurn,

    Check out Rumel's Identifying Obstacles to Progress thread. He's culled together and presented the current thinking on roadblocks.

    BF Mayfield
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Good to know I'm not alone, cyrez. Thanks.
    B Mayfield, I am reading your link now. Thanks.
  • Badger
    Posts: 653
    I'm having a similar problem with regressing, but I'm fairly certain that there's a medical reason: I've got a pinched nerve in the sciatic region, and it's causing pain and discomfort when standing and walking, and when thrusting during lovemaking and during p-waves. It distracts me from the feelings and sensations, not to mention the seeming lack of sensations when using any of my Aneros'.

    Very frustrating.
  • thhn
    Posts: 425
    [QUOTE=MyTurn;95066]Hi,

    Quick post. My last few sessions have seen me stagnate. I had evolved to the stage where I could have involuntaries once or twice out of 1-3 sessions. But i began to plateau (not sexually, bur progesswise). I didn't see any improvement. I was not progressing beyond that. Then the involuntaries began to lose their former pleasure. Still good, but not what they were.

    Then came the devolution. I began to devolve. My last two sessions, I seem to be unrewiring. I am losing what I had. I cannot even get involuntaries anymore. I have forgotten what default contraction worked for me before. I am degressing back to the stage where sessions consisted of: Aneros in, try, fail, sleep.

    Anybody else in this boat? What do I do?

    I don't have the biggest libido for my age. Not at all really. I have to wait weeks to be ready for an Aneros session. But after a few weeks of not ejaculating, invariably, I have a wet dream, and have to wait to build back up arousal, which unrewires me even more. What I need is a libido where I'm going insane from a need to cum. I was at my horniest when I was laying next to my ex girlfriend. Now all I have is porn, (a bad) imagination and I guess, relaxation.

    I have sessions usually: Mon + Weds. Condom on Aneros. Prelube inside anus. Mild anal contraction held.

    :(

    I feel your pain and wish I had an answer for you. There were plenty of times along my journey that I felt as you do. The only difference I can think of is to know how bad I wanted it and how much I enjoyed whatever it was that I got. I would never pass up an opportunity to have a session. If I was single, I would probably have one every day. Some little twitch would make me feel like finally something new is happening but generally that would go nowhere.
    I think a big reason for my success was to use a variety of models and typically during a single session. I would find that the first 20 min or so after instertion was the best sensations and then it would die down. I would switch to another model and enjoy another 20 min. Even now, I am using multiple models durnig a session... usually 3 or 4 and now that I have the vice I have added that to the lineup.
    I'm sure you are getting tired of the grind and lack of progress but hang in there and keep your head up.
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    [QUOTE=thhn;95170]
    I think a big reason for my success was to use a variety of models and typically during a single session. I would find that the first 20 min or so after instertion was the best sensations and then it would die down. I would switch to another model and enjoy another 20 min. Even now, I am using multiple models durnig a session... usually 3 or 4 and now that I have the vice I have added that to the lineup.
    I'm sure you are getting tired of the grind and lack of progress but hang in there and keep your head up.

    Thanks. I squeezed in an almost pointless 20 min session this morning. I was not expecting much so I didn't need much time. I just wanted to give the prostate a rub to let it know we're not done journeying yet! Anyway, I had a few mildly pleasurable involuntaries. They lasted maybe 15-20 seconds then it was over. But I actually did something positive: I took the session for what it was and enjoyed the mild sensations (like REALLY my-nyoot) I got. I usually end sessions pissed off and disappointed but today's, I ended wanting more.

    It was my first ever MORNING session too.
  • MyTurn;

    Ever try just going to sleep for the night with the Aneros in? The morning wood effect might help when you wake. I know it's not recommended, but if you use a long-lasting lube like silicone it's not a problem.

    Cheers,

    Dave