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No penis pleasure, want to try prostate pleasure, buy safely
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Hi,

    I will be brief. Im a 25 yo guy. I have been depressed and had anxiety since around age 14. I never masturbated as a child and never had that much of a sexual drive. By the time I reached 23, I thought I'd give masturbation a try, seen as its hyped up so much. I didn't find any real pleasure at all. I liked the lead-up to and the actual orgasm, but the rest of it just felt like rubbing my arm or leg almost. I am uncircumcized.

    I thought real sex would be better, but was anxious that I might not enjoy that too and that my penis is just insensitive, or has some urological/nerve problem. I had sex a few months ago. With my depression, and worrying whether I'd enjoy it, I had some performance anxiety/mind questioning/worry/pressure/panic a la "what if this badly?" etc, but eventually was able to have sex with my gf who I love. However, I still didn't get pleasure (partially tore my frenulum once!), just a better orgasm at the end. It killed me. I sank deeper into depression than I was.

    I googled pleasure points on a penis (head, frenulum, etc), I saw a doctor who said my hormones were average. I've tried focusing on HER pleasure, on MINE, closing my eyes, nothing. It kills me that my penis isn't giving me pleasure. I think I may have to see a urologist soon.

    Questions:

    1) Could G-spot stimulation stimulate or encourage some nerve growth or improvement for my penis/non G-spot stimulation?

    2) I haven't tried finger prostate stimulation to success yet. I reach some bulbous, walnutty thing, but wasn't aroused. More importantly, I didn't feel pleasure. Am I just incapable of pleasure full-stop - penile, prostate, anal, etc.

    3) I live in the UK. I would prefer to buy this in a store. If I buy offline, mum might find the parcel first. Is the parcel discrete or does it have a big picture and logo?

    4) What are some safe websites to buy the Aneros off?

    5) Could I use the Aneros with a condom on it to save washing, I mean, washing poo off it sounds like drawback, or putting it down after usage until I can wash it. Where do I store a poo-smelling sex toy and hope I don't get caught, etc. Would the condom get lost during usage?

    6) I am a newbie, so I need the MGX model?

    7) I'm about 6 foot 3, so I guess there's longer to reach my prostate. Is that a problem?

    8) How do you clean yourself before? I use wet cotton wool to wipe myself ANYWAY (OCD-ish), as it gets in the nooks and crannies.

    9) If using the Aneros and you want to get out of the missionary (for example) position, to stand up, change position, go bathroom, or whatever, is it dangerous to still have it inserted? When is best to insert and take out? When can damage occur? What positions are no-nos?

    10) At what time is insertion a no-go? What is the red light (except pain and blood! Long before that stage!)?

    11) Does preparation kill the mood? I read that it is best to lay on your side and lube up. That means no touching your partner, or flipping between the two, and then easing yourself into missionary/doggie/cowgirl (can you DO or CHANGE to cowgirl?) without ripping something (see question 9).

    Sorry for the long questionnaire. I want to get this as soon as possible. I want to try it out alone first. If it helps me, then I want to tell my gf about it and see if she doesn't break up with me and call me gay. I told her the male G spot was ..where it is, and she said that SHE wouldn't put any fingers up there, but wasn't disgusted with me or anything, I dont think. She also cums from hearing me cum coz for a while, I had an anorgasmia/anxiety/losing erection thing going on in the early months, so me cumming was "new" and "exciting".

    I dream of us having long passionate Gspot (BOTH!) sex (with me having the Aneros in me). I guess I should affirm that to the Universe (I've tried positivity too BTW).

    help!!! I need this ASAP.
  • darwindarwin
    Posts: 1,195
    MyTurn-

    my first suggestion is that you try to see a urologist and then a psychiatrist. the problems you describe sound serious but not insurmountable. but professional medical attention is called for.

    brief answers to some of your questions below.

    MyTurn said:

    Hi,


    1) Could G-spot stimulation stimulate or encourage some nerve growth or improvement for my penis/non G-spot stimulation?


    nerve growth no. improvement possibly. hard to know without knowing what is going on.


    2) I haven't tried finger prostate stimulation to success yet. I reach some bulbous, walnutty thing, but wasn't aroused. More importantly, I didn't feel pleasure. Am I just incapable of pleasure full-stop - penile, prostate, anal, etc.



    ask the doctor.


    3) I live in the UK. I would prefer to buy this in a store. If I buy offline, mum might find the parcel first. Is the parcel discrete or does it have a big picture and logo?


    in u.s. it is discreet, with the return address from High Island Health. don't know about u.k.



    4) What are some safe websites to buy the Aneros off?


    this one



    5) Could I use the Aneros with a condom on it to save washing, I mean, washing poo off it sounds like drawback, or putting it down after usage until I can wash it. Where do I store a poo-smelling sex toy and hope I don't get caught, etc. Would the condom get lost during usage?


    condom use would be ok but unnecessary. rarely will you see any poo, and then just a smear. the toy does not smell after washing. put it down on a tissue. no, the condom won't get lost



    6) I am a newbie, so I need the MGX model?

    7) I'm about 6 foot 3, so I guess there's longer to reach my prostate. Is that a problem?


    mgx should be fine



    8) How do you clean yourself before? I use wet cotton wool to wipe myself ANYWAY (OCD-ish), as it gets in the nooks and crannies.


    i don't. some use a warm water enema. if you are OCD-ish you'll need to find what works for you.



    9) If using the Aneros and you want to get out of the missionary (for example) position, to stand up, change position, go bathroom, or whatever, is it dangerous to still have it inserted? When is best to insert and take out? When can damage occur? What positions are no-nos?


    it is fine to move around. just don't use a trampoline



    10) At what time is insertion a no-go? What is the red light (except pain and blood! Long before that stage!)?


    if you can relax your anus you will be fine. minor pain is a yellow not red light.



    11) Does preparation kill the mood? I read that it is best to lay on your side and lube up. That means no touching your partner, or flipping between the two, and then easing yourself into missionary/doggie/cowgirl (can you DO or CHANGE to cowgirl?) without ripping something (see question 9).


    doesn't kill the mood. no ripping will occur.


    Sorry for the long questionnaire. I want to get this as soon as possible. I want to try it out alone first. If it helps me, then I want to tell my gf about it and see if she doesn't break up with me and call me gay. I told her the male G spot was ..where it is, and she said that SHE wouldn't put any fingers up there, but wasn't disgusted with me or anything, I dont think. She also cums from hearing me cum coz for a while, I had an anorgasmia/anxiety/losing erection thing going on in the early months, so me cumming was "new" and "exciting".

    I dream of us having long passionate Gspot (BOTH!) sex (with me having the Aneros in me). I guess I should affirm that to the Universe (I've tried positivity too BTW).


    if she dumps you good riddance. but she sounds understanding, so she won't

    darwin
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Thanks. I think I am gonna order it off this site now or when I wake up in 6 hours from now (7am GMT /2 AM EST? Fri 5 Dec).

    When I click the "UK Site" version, its like a text-based unfinished site. If I order off the US version, will it to the appropriate £-$ coversions and just make its way to me? I guess I will just have to tell mum its for sexual health. Ive briefly mentioned some problems Ive had, so I can explain the Aneros as "an aid, but no further questions, mum!".

    I really want to start with this ASAP. Thanks Darwin.

    EDIT: I was linked to a site called lovehoney.co.uk from the UK Aneros site (even though the UK Aneros site has no images, almost as if images are prevented from showing). It makes me question its integrity, but I will nevertheless try lovehoney.co.uk (ordering from them) later when I wake up. If I wake up early. Thanks. sorry this all so rushed and typos and bad grammar. Im rushing coz its late.
  • You mentioned a history of mild depression. Certain anti-anxiety drugs or depression medication can dull your sex drive. I urge to schedule an appointment with your MD to evaluate your condition. Good luck!
  • enigma
    Posts: 90
    I'm in the U K and have ordered stuff from Lovehoney, they are very good.
    From memory it comes in a plain package/box and on the label in small writing says from L H Trading
  • Zingo
    Posts: 2
    your turn,

    order from love honey, the packaging is good and private, yesterday I ordered the progasm and lube, it arrived today both in discreet packaging, good luck.
  • MyTurn
    Posts: 447
    Thanks. I ordered it this morning (8am GMT) so I expect to see it Monday or Tuesday. I wont be at home coz I work but hopefully I can collect it from the postal office at a reasonable time.

    BTW, I am not on any meds. I was offered, but didn't go through with them. I drink St Johns Wort and Camomile sometimes (not as religiously as I should at all).
  • well I have massaged my prostate with MGX, and I don't feel anything. I'm really wondering about this whole thing. I was expecting a lot more.
  • Don't know how available the aneros is in the UK, but I do know that there is a UK made prostate toy called the Rude Boy. You might want to look into that as you'd be able to easily pick it up in a toy shop there. The fact that you're HAVING orgasms and liking the lead up tells me that you are experiencing pleasure though. Keep in mind that jerking off doesn't feel like a long constant orgasm or anything. Given that you are inexperienced with it you may just be completely misunderstanding what it feels like for other people. When I jerk off I get kind of bursts of pleasure. Sometimes it feels really good, sometimes I'm just rubbing some skin like any other part of my body, and always the orgasm feels great. If you're on pills for your depression that may have something to do with it, but something tells me you're just expecting more than there really is to it. Keep in mind that the descriptions of sexual pleasure you'll find on a site like this are always blown out of proportion and they aren't even talking about standard masturbation. But again, talk to your doctor if you are on any sort of medication for your depression as that is the most likely scenario.
  • Oh, forgot to mention I wouldn't buy from this site as the cost here is much higher than you can find on other sites. I've ordered my aneros products from Amazon.com and got them significantly cheaper.