[IlyenaMiranda]

Oh good some more women! I thought that I would be the only woman posting on this site. I was thinking of surprising my husband by getting him one and would like to thank you for your comments. Next payday, I will be purchasing one and will keep you posted!

They are quite expensive, but then I suppose rampant rabbits are overpriced, overhyped and don't have the health benefits associated with the Aneros.

[rumel]

Hi IlyenaMiranda,

Welcome to the Aneros Forums, your best source of information for learning about the multiple benefits and joys of using the Aneros prostate massagers. Rather than steal from one of our Aneros Guru's please let me refer you to 'BF Mayfield's introductory post to another female member. Being female, you are obviously in the minority on this site, however, please do not feel intimidated by the swirling pools of male testosterone. There are numerous insights into the male psyche to be had here by observant women. Some of your sister members, such as 'Alana', 'Boston Babe', 'buttercup', 'happygirl', 'hiswife', 'Lilylol', 'lynn2694', 'midnitebelle51', 'musicman', 'NunyaGA', 'nurselady', 'Yoshiko' and 'zaneblue' (Marenna Lindberg – Author of “The Orgasmic Diet” for women) have contributed their own insights as well, so you are definitely not alone here.

Just so you don’t feel in any way left out of the Aneros learning experience may I also suggest you checkout the Peridise model for use by yourself alone or during concurrent play sessions with your S.O. This model was developed for both men and women’s enjoyment. In spite of its diminutive size this little jewel is quite a potent stimulator.

P.S. I sent you an introductory PM with some additional hints and tips to help your man get started. This pre-written text is intentionally addressed to males but hopefully you will convey this information to your man.

[nurselady]

IlyenaMiranda, as Rumel noted you are not alone - there are a some other women around on this forum. Welcome!
Nurselady

[happywife]

I'm so glad to find such an open community- it's really helpful. I'm buying one for my husband...he's 40- I'm a bit younger, and we've been together for about 10 years. We've always used and enjoyed toys- but they're almost always for women. I want him to have that "peel me off the ceiling" legs shaking, toes curling, screaming orgasm like I have. So I bought the MGX model for him. He's very quiet, and he's not a prude, he just never really introduces anything to spice up our sex lives either. It's always at my insistance. He's never brought anything home, or even said "hey this looks interesting". I really don't relish the idea of inserting anything into his anus- nor does he want to recprocate (I've offered on a few occasions). It's just not our scene- I'm sold on the health benefits, and pleasing my man. I'm dealing with the anal part because that seems to be the way to do it.So anyway- I bought the MGX, along with a sleeve for our Magic Wand, and some Tenga Eggs (it's his birthday). My plan was to open all of the packages and place them in his nightstand. He knows that it's coming, and I told him that he should fly solo with it for a few times so he can get used to the sensations on his own terms. There's almost no chance he'll discuss it, so I'm left wondering what to do. I just don't know how to encorporate it into our bedroom activities. I'm thinking let him insert it, and then proceed as usual- at least for the first few times, and then see how it goes? I'd love to watch him have a super o, but I think that will probably take a while and some practice. I'm looking to get us both into the idea of adding even a small bit of enhancement into our sex lives, and building from there.Does that sound reasonable?Also is there a lube that works better than others? We generally have a thin water-based lube around at all times. Does he need something thicker?

[RJT]

Happywife, you have one lucky hubby - I hope he realizes that!

Much has been written here on lubes. My personal favorite is slippery stuff gel, it's relatively safe (not all lubes are safe for anal play) and very effective. There is also a lube applicator for sale on the Aneros site that you may want to investigate (it's basically a 5ml syringe with a nozzle suitable for applying lube directly to the rectum).

[brianadams]

Happywife,

I agree with RJT, your husband is lucky. I'm happily married and my wife knows all about my Aneros use. She encourages it. It has improved our sex life in many ways. One suggestion: When he has his Aneros in, avoid stimulating his penis. The prostate orgasms the Aneros generates are completely different and separate from penile orgasms and ejaculation. Penis stimulation during an Aneros "session" can disconnect the prostate pleasure your husband will experience. That has been my experience. And believe me the prostate pleasure and orgasms are pretty intense. Expect a pretty exciting time experiencing his journey. Let him solo so he can get used to the whole thing. Being together when he has it in is a whole other realm of experience.

Have fun!!

Brian

[happywife]

Thanks guys! The luck goes both ways...the reason I went shopping is to make him as happy as he makes me. I love the idea of a paradigm shift away from the standard "insert somewhere warm, preferably moist, thrust, repeat". It never gets old (at least for me)- but there just has to be something else for him too. Hopefully this is it, or at least the start of an interesting journey.

I got a pm from Rumel with all sorts of helpful info- hopefully I can use it to start a dialogue.

at Cottonpicker- The sexual response of a woman isn't that much different than a man's- we have erectile tissue too, it just looks a bit different. It is a "use it or lose it" type of thing though- if the blood flow isn't making it's way down there then her response will be stunted enough for her to think "why bother". There are some arousal creams that do work for that, and plain old suction to get the blood flow to the area works too.

[B Mayfield]

Happywife,

I would hold off on abstaining from penile contact as one user suggested for the time being. If husband is a little stand-offish about anal play to begin with, it's often a good idea to incorporate that which is new with something more familiar. Besides, as you surmised, he will require some solo time to explore the non-ejaculatory applications of this device anyway. For couples I generally recommend exploring a different path, that of using the Aneros to amplify a traditional orgasm (ejaculation). Give Rumel's introductory PM a read and don't forget we have a fairly comprehensive WIKI here as well.

You can always post any questions that you might have or PM the members directly as well.

Cheers!

BF Mayfield

[tj246]

thank you ladies for your imput on the aneros
i been using mine on myself for month finaly i did get some clear liquid discharge
i am in chastity
my wife does not like nor care for sex but she does not want me looking,masterbating or looking at porn
im 60 wife is 59 an the chastity came into play i use to use butt plug to massarge my prostate but took to long to sore an get tired
i likethe aneros very much an hands free which is much better

[docalien]

i'm 61 wife is 61 also.she's very accomodating as her sex drive is all but gone(menopause).she really likes to be with during sessions and gets a real kick out of my OOOOOOOOOSSSSSSSSSSSS. and watching me cum.hang in there!!!!